A time my mothers favoritism went a bit too far
The story
So one time I had been with my parents and younger brother on a trip to see my cousins. On the way, we stopped by our grandparents to relax. We were downstairs in the basement, me, my parents, brother and grandparents. I accidentally hurt my brother by tripping him when I was on the couch and he walked on my foot. He fell hit his head and I came down to see if he was ok. Then my mother ran down, got on her knees and held him like he was about to die. Meanwhile, I have never had something like that happen to me. Then, as I tried to apologize to him, my mother said and I quote, “no one wants to hear your fake apologizes” I was stunned. I sat there for a good minute, and tried to correct myself saying” I didn’t mean to sound that way, I-“ and she interrupted me saying “Don’t make excuses, you know your in the wrong”. I was shocked, I stared at her and I glanced at my brother, who even looked at me and then at her, with a look that said “you took this too far”. Behind me was the rest of my family and grandparents, who saw everything, and I started to hold back tears. The last thing she said to me was “You don’t deserve to cry”. I looked at my dad, knowing this wasn’t the only time he sat and watched they way my mother talked to me and traumatized me. I told them “I don’t fell like playing anymore, have fun” trying to sound okay, and went upstairs. I stayed in the bathroom, all alone, hearing my mother babying my Brother in a way she doesn’t do for me or did to me when I was his age. I stayed there, shocked for hours and didn’t want to leave. No one checked on me, no one cared, and the hours later they called for me. Reluctant, I went downstairs and they acted like nothing happend. My brother was the only one who came up to me and said “I know you weren’t being mean and you did try to apologize. I’m sorry mom did that” I tried to hold back tears when I hugged him, knowing he was the only one who saw what she did was wrong. To this day if my mom says “I know your probably going to say j favorite your younger brother but I don’t” and this is the first thing of many that come to mind. I just wanted to get this story off my chest, your knot alone in the bias. Let me know if I’m just being stuck up and this is blown out of proportion. Thank you for listening.
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Okay… that is totally messed up. As you could probably see I wrote the story right before yours (lol) and I am dealing with the EXACT same thing!!! I totally get you and I am so sorry! If I had to give you any advice I’d just tell you to collect as many scenarios as possible, and try to bring it up to your mom at some point. My mom favorites my younger brother over me too, and I am so glad I saw this so I know that I am not alone in this, and this is definetely not just that “normal older sibling feeling”. Our parents have really high expectations for us because we are older, but we don’t have to live up to those expectations, and trust me, there are definetely people out there that will favorite you over your brother too (lol)!!! You are not in the wrong and you are not incorrect. I totally agree with you and am happy to talk more if you want to! This is a thing that so many people go through! Thank you for sharing your story and I am so so sorry <3 :)!
Just realized who this was hi pookie <3
I get what you're saying, and it's honestly a tough situation. But I think it might be a bit much to label it as favoritism right away, you know? Parents can sometimes just snap in stressful situations without really processing everything. Maybe your mom was just super worried about your brother getting hurt, and that worry turned into anger towards you. It's worth considering that she might not even realize how her actions come across or how they make you feel. If I were in your shoes, I'd probably try talking to her calmly when things aren't heated to see if there's a way to work through this pattern. Keep your chin up, though—it's good that your brother had your back on this one!
Hey there, I really feel for you; it sounds like such a tough situation. It's crazy because sometimes it feels like parents just have this automatic response when they think one kid's hurt, and it's usually the youngest that gets all the attention. My cousin had something similar happen with his mom always jumping to conclusions if he and his brother got into any scuffles—like she forgot that kids are rough and tumble by nature. Maybe try approaching her when everything is chilled out, not to accuse or confront but just to share your side of things; sometimes putting things on the table helps bring clarity.
wow, that's a tough situation, and i can totally see why you'd feel that way; sometimes it really does seem like younger siblings get all the sympathy and attention, but it's important to remember that your feelings are completely valid.
it's really unfortunate that you had to experience such a painful moment, especially when you were trying to make amends. sometimes, family dynamics can be complex, and emotions run high in moments of stress or perceived danger. perhaps your mother's reaction was more about her own fears and anxieties than any true bias against you?!! while it might feel like favoritism at times, it's possible she just hasn't fully grasped how hurtful her words were. maybe finding a calm moment to express how the situation made you feel could help create some understanding between you both???? nevertheless, it's heartening to see the bond with your brother during this difficult time; having his support is invaluable! stay strong and remember you're not alone in feeling this way :)