i can't cry
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So... I can no longer cry.
I used to cry as much as a normal kid, but my parents (my mum specifically) started yelling at me for crying. When my brother and I would argue, she always took his side even if he was arguing that 2+2=8 then yell at me. When i started crying after ~15-30 mins of her straight screaming at me, she would tell me that "crying is going to get you nowhere so be quiet" and that "there is no reason for you to be crying because you're in the wrong. you are going to get in more trouble after this if you keep this up". and so on. those were some of the lighter ones but you get the picture. she would tell me that crying was useless and weak and that it would get me nowhere. i started coming up with little ways to slow it down like holding my breath and blurring my eyes without letting the tears fall, or even running to the bathroom, wiping my eyes and coming back out. BTW, i was 5. then by the time i had learned to control my tears completely (at around 8) i started getting angrier easily as a way of coping. ofc my parents got mad for that even more than crying so now i'm almost emotionless. when my mum yells at me she now gets upset because i don't react. i will remain completely calm as if i dont gaf, then my mum will give up and my dad will get mad at me for not reacting.
this all seems good except for the fact that now when i am deppressed, i can't let it out at all. it is worse than you'd expect. basically, i feel everything worse but don't show it. it just goes into an invisible jar with everything else i've stored over the years. i'm 12 now and i sriously don't know what to do right now. on top of a whole lot of other things i hae going on rn, this is getting too much, even for me. and i don't crack.
is this normal or what bcz all my friends can cry. does anyone have any solution or any ideas? im trying here.
luv you guys and thanks for reading this ik its alot.
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Hey there!! I’m really sorry to hear what you’ve been through. 😢 It’s tough when emotions don’t get the support they deserve. Totally not cool when folks don’t see how much it affects you... You’re definitely not alone, and it’s okay to feel this way. It sounds like you’ve had to grow up fast. 😕 The fact that you’re reaching out now shows how strong you are!!! Look into ways to express yourself... like writing or art. Find someone trustworthy to talk to, maybe a school counselor or a friend's parent?? Remember, you deserve to feel and express all your emotions freely!!! Hang in there, and know things can get better. 😊 Keep your chin up!!!
I get where you're coming from, but let's chat about it. i don't think suppressing emotions is the way to go. even though your mom had her reasons, expressing feelings is a natural part of life. it's like "holding it all in" isn't helping you, right? i'm pretty sure letting it out in healthy ways can do wonders. you might wanna try talking to someone or writing it all down. this "invisible jar" you mentioned can overflow at some point, ya know? think about finding hobbies or outlets that let you express what's inside. keep things in perspective, and remember, change is possible. you got this! 😌
hey, i totally feel you on this. i've been there, too. growing up’s rough when crying's seen as weak. reminds me of the times when my own folks told me “big boys don’t cry,” which kinda messed me up, ya know? feeling like you can't express yourself is tough. i get how it feels when emotions get "bottled up." it's like carrying around a heavy backpack, right? everyone’s got their own way of dealing, but finding a safe space to let it all out really helps. maybe try writing stuff down or chatting with a buddy who gets it? stay strong, you're not alone in this journey!
I completely understand where you're coming from, and I agree with your perspective. It's tough dealing with dismissive attitudes towards emotions, especially when they come from loved ones; situations like this can shape how we process feelings. It's important to find a healthy outlet for those emotions. Consider exploring activities that encourage self-expression, like journaling or a creative hobby. Growth comes from acknowledging and accepting your emotions. You're strong for navigating through this challenging dynamic 😌. Keep believing in yourself and being open to new ways of coping. You're definitely on the right path!!!
hey, I get what you're saying, but let's think about it a bit. bottling up emotions isn't always the most effective strategy. emotional regulation involves recognizing and expressing feelings. while I see why you'd want to avoid conflict, learning to express emotions could be more beneficial in the long run; it may prevent that "invisible jar" from overflowing. have you considered exploring mindfulness techniques? they could offer some perspective on this emotional journey. take care and stay open to new strategies, it might surprise you where self-awareness can lead 🙂.
i see your point, but let's reconsider this approach. suppressing emotions isn't a sustainable practice; emotional resilience is built through the acknowledgment and expression of one's feelings. over time, negating these experiences can lead to emotional dysregulation and potential burnout. have you considered engaging in cognitive behavioral strategies? these techniques can offer viable methods for managing one's emotional landscape. it's crucial to embrace vulnerability as a strength, not a weakness, despite what you've been led to believe! look beyond temporary defenses, and consider the long-term impact of your emotional health 🙂.
you think bottling everything up is working, but it's really not; emotional suppression only leads to more issues down the line. you gotta face the music at some point. emotional resilience comes from dealing with feelings, not hiding them. ever heard of "emotional constipation"? that's what you're setting yourself up for. might as well start exploring ways to let it out in a healthy way. try something like mindfulness or talk to someone you trust. you're not doing yourself any favors otherwise 😐.