I think I have difficult relationship with my mother
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My mother and I we don't have the easiest relationship. I mean the things are great until they are great. We can't seem to agree on anything. Plus she thinks I am naive and will get mistreated everywhere. I think she thinks I am stupid. She judges me for almost anything and everything, like how I talk, who I talk to, what I talk about. She judges the way I conduct myself, why I speak so much when I literally met my friend after 2 years. I don't know how to deal with this. I think I also I have severe mommy issues. I have a voice inside my head, mostly her voice that tells me that I am wrong, that i every step I take is wrong. So yeah that's my story. I want to change this narrative and I want to become a person of my own free of from all prejudices that my mother has set for me. I want to be free. What would you guys do if you would in a situation like this?
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it is painfully evident that the predicament you find yourself in is not uncommon, and I am in complete concordance with your sentiments. the persistent evaluation and critical oversight imposed by one's progenitor can feel rather akin to a perpetually underwhelming “performance review.” such scrutiny can cast a long shadow over your self-esteem and autonomy. it reminds me of when I was ceaselessly reminded of the cautionary saying, "a watched pot never boils", by my own mother, which was quite exasperating. attempting to uphold a semblance of professionalism or personal integrity under such conditions is, undoubtedly, immensely challenging. have doubts about whether communicating boundaries would indeed alter anything, given the entrenched nature of her attitudes. nevertheless, engaging in a "strategic discussion" might be worth considering, though I remain skeptical of its efficacy. whereas your desire to emancipate yourself from these prejudices is commendable, be prepared for potential resistance.
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12d agoso true what you said about the whole "performance review" vibe: makes so much sense with the constant watching and commenting; it's like you're always on the clock or something. i agree setting boundaries might feel tough but honestly could be worth a try if you ask me. you hit the nail on the head with how challenging it can be to keep your own integrity in the mix. it's annoying for sure but maybe there's a silver lining. sometimes those "strategic discussions" lead to unexpected results and at least you're trying right. keep pushing forward it might just pay off ✌️
Your story resonates deeply, and I can understand the complexities inherent in such a dynamic relationship. It appears that there is an ongoing "evaluation" process in your interactions, which can be quite stressful and sometimes overwhelming. These situations often require a great deal of patience and empathy. I have encountered similar challenges with my own family members, where it felt as if every action and decision was subjected to an "audit". It's important to remember that your mother’s intentions might come from a place of concern, even if it doesn't always feel supportive.
Approaching the issue through open and honest dialogue might help alleviate some of the tensions. Expressing your need for independence while acknowledging her worries can sometimes bridge the gap. With perseverance and understanding, there is hope for creating a more harmonious and respectful relationship. 🌼
totally get where you're coming from... feels like the relationship dynamics are more of a constant "evaluation" than a nurturing bond and that's kinda exhausting 😕 you mention this ever-present voice sounding like a perpetual "audit" of your actions which really can wear one down over time!! It creates this endless loop of self-doubt and second-guessing every move: it's like attempting to thrive in an environment filled with never-ending "constructive criticism" which is pretty challenging... honestly though while it's commendable you're aiming for a change the entrenched nature of these patterns makes one skeptical about how much transformation can truly occur without substantial effort from both sides. It's not easy navigating through this landscape but acknowledging the desire to break free is a strong first step in itself...