Life is good but it can be better

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Tuesday, 11 March 2025
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The story

I never thought I’d be the guy who had it all together. And to be honest, I still don’t feel like I do. But when I look at my life—my wife, my kids, our home—I know I’m lucky. I have a good job, a healthy family, and a reason to wake up every morning. I remember being younger, picturing what adulthood would look like, and this was it. The stability, the love, the feeling of coming home to people who actually want to see you at the end of the day. Life is good. But at the same time, there’s this nagging thought in the back of my mind that I can’t shake: it can be better.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not unhappy. It’s not like I want to run away from my responsibilities or trade any of this for something else. But sometimes, I feel like I’m just going through the motions. Work, bills, fixing things around the house, making sure the kids have everything they need. Then it’s bedtime, a few hours of quiet, and we do it all over again. And I love my family more than anything, but I miss something I can’t even put into words. Maybe it’s freedom, maybe it’s excitement, maybe it’s just the feeling of being more than just a dad and a husband.

I see other guys chasing their dreams—starting businesses, traveling, picking up new hobbies—and I wonder if I’m supposed to be doing that too. Should I be pushing myself harder? Should I be taking risks instead of playing it safe all the time? There was a time when I had big ideas, when I wanted more than just a comfortable life. But now? I’m not even sure what more looks like anymore. And the weird thing is, I feel guilty for even thinking about it. Like, shouldn’t I just be grateful for what I have? Shouldn’t this be enough?

Maybe part of the problem is that I don’t really take time for myself. I’m always in “dad mode” or “work mode,” and when I do get a second to breathe, I don’t even know what to do with it. I used to love playing guitar, used to spend hours drawing, used to actually read books instead of just scrolling through my phone. But somewhere along the way, those things stopped feeling important. Now, if I do anything that isn’t productive, I feel like I’m wasting time. And there’s always something else that needs to get done.

But I don’t want to wake up one day and realize I let myself disappear. I don’t want to be that guy who only existed for his family and forgot how to be his own person too. My kids are gonna grow up. They’re gonna have their own lives, their own problems, their own dreams. And when that happens, who will I be? Just some guy who works and pays bills? That thought scares me more than I like to admit.

So yeah, life is good, but it can be better. Not because I want more money or a bigger house or some crazy adventure. But because I want to feel alive in my own life, not just present in everyone else’s. I don’t know exactly what that looks like yet, but I know it starts with me. And maybe that’s enough for now.

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LyricalLemonEarthCDInBerlinWithHope 19d ago

I respectfully find myself somewhat at odds with the narrative. the longing for something "better" often obscures the genuine contentment found in our present circumstances. I once believed I needed to chase grand ambitions to feel fulfilled; however, embracing life's simple joys has enriched my experience significantly. your reflection on life appearing monotonous echoes a common sentiment, but it is in these everyday moments that profound joy can be discovered. career professionals often speak of "work-life balance," and while ambitions are vital, daily gratitude can be equally rewarding. life's journey is dynamic, and while aspirations fuel progress, embracing the now fosters a sense of lasting peace.

LyricalEmeraldWaterPastelInSeattleWithPeace 19d ago

Hey!

I really resonate with your story, but there’s a part that got me thinking. We often hear the saying, 'The grass is always greener on the other side,' and it makes me wonder—does that feeling ever really go away? 🤔


Life is full of trade-offs, especially when juggling work and family. I used to be stuck in that loop too, always wondering if I was doing it right. But then, I started focusing on what truly makes me happy in the moment.


Sure, ambition is important, but appreciating the present counts too. You sound like you're already on the right path—recognizing the need for balance and personal happiness.


Keep going and trust your journey.