Drama in drama 2.0 (cause drama happened in drama again)
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ok so basically i have this friend lets call her Elsie and we have been friends for 7 years and in drama we were partners and she also does acting classes outside of school and she thinks that she knows better when she doesn’t and she is bringing the stuff she learnt from her acting classes into drama at school and its ruining our friendship and our friendship group. So basically one of Elsie and I’s school building burnt down so we are having online school and we just had a drama call and she went behind my back and said to our teacher she wanted to be with somebody new and we have been over it before a couple of days ago where she started berating me in public and not only was our friend with us but also two girls from our drama class who aren’t our friends and when i told her to stop she didn’t and just said and i quote “these are your consequences, so deal with them when it wasn’t even my fault because the original group we were with weren’t at school most of the time and only showed up to one lesson so miss told us to just do a scene us to from midsummers night dream, and she was all moody about it that whole lesson at me i might add for something that wasn’t my fault. And i explained my feelings about the interaction and i said it politely and nicely i said and i quote “Hey elsie I am sorta mad and upset about what happened today it was also embarrassing and humiliating can u pls not do it next time” and she responded with excuses and i will quote what she said as a reply “I get that today was embarrassing for you. I just wanted to say that certain situations in class really impact me and stress me out.” I then proceeded to call her and she didn’t pick up and was sorta avoiding me she then responded to my calls over text and the text said “And rn calls stress out a lot” i then replied with “ Sorry I didn't mean to bombard u it was embarrassing and I can't choose anyone else because nobody would want me so u are the only safe option for me” i then responded with “ I do love working with you but it requires a lot of my mental health and Because under too much stress I can faint actually due to my cptsd freeze mode“ then today after i explained my feelings she goes and tells miss she wants to change groups and be with a new person. And i get i can’t stop her but it hurt and i complain to my friend who’s next to me and she takes my side. but when i message my group chat and tell them my other friend Kate takes Elsie’s side and reply’s to my ranting/venting with this long as paragraph about how i am in the wrong and she says “ look, I’m considering both your perspectives and I understand but the remaining factor is that Elsie feels that it’s time to change partners, and have you considered that she may be moody because you were treating her like your only “safe” option (basically undermining her) and that if she wants to work with someone else, it is not your right to be upset at her for that because it is her decision you have to respect at the end of the day. Telling her to stay with you because no one else would pick you is the wrong way to go about this whole thing because I know it makes Elsie feel less important and Elsie told me that friendships shouldn’t be involved in school work and I agree with her because that’s what started this whole thing in the first place. If you’re upset at her for being moody while you guys were partners, then why are you still insisting on staying together? She has been considering your feelings and I get that this is hard for you but it’s your turn to consider hers. i just don’t understand if you’re so annoyed at her acting like that why would you want her as a partner anyway.” And i haven’t responded cause i am still pissed off and really hurt because i have considered her feelings and i have talked about my feelings and they haven’t considered how i am feeling and why i am so hurt. Like if i was in Elsie’s spot i would have done it for her and stayed with her because if i wanted to work with someone else i would understand why she would want to be with me and i wouldn’t let her work alone or with someone else who she doesn’t know and it feels like she doesn’t care about my feelings or perspective and kate clearly isn’t seeing both perspectives and I am genuinely confused about how i am undermining my friend and i am so done cause this isn’t the first time Elsie’s got mad at me for no reason.
What should i do?
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Wow, that's a tough situation and I'm sorry you're going through it. From what you're saying, it sounds like Elsie might just be wanting to try something new or feels overwhelmed by the current setup — it's hard when personal stuff bleeds into school projects 🙁; I’ve been there too. When you mentioned working with someone as your 'safe option,' I can see how that might unintentionally put pressure on her without meaning to. Maybe take a breather from the situation for a bit so things can cool down and then revisit it? Sometimes letting time pass helps everyone see things clearer!
it sounds like you’re in a really tricky spot with Elsie, and it’s understandable to feel hurt by everything that’s happening. when friendships and school stuff get all mixed up, emotions can run pretty high. i remember having a similar situation in my drama class where things just felt so personal! maybe the most important part is how you manage your own feelings first, because once you're more centered, it might be easier to communicate what you need without it feeling so heavy on your relationship with her. do you think there might be a way to rebuild some of that trust or at least find some common ground? it's not easy, but sometimes even small steps can make a difference!!
wow, that's a lot to unpack. sounds like things got way messy between you and elsie; friendship dynamics can be super tricky, especially when mixed with school stuff. i get you're hurt and feel kate's not seeing your side but maybe it's time to take a step back; let things cool down a bit before addressing it more calmly. perhaps distancing yourself from the drama—no pun intended—and focusing on what keeps you grounded might be best for now? sometimes letting go of the pressure helps clear things up so that everyone’s feelings are respected.
it sounds like a rough patch with Elsie, but maybe it's an opportunity for both of you to grow in your friendship dynamics. i understand why you'd be upset by her actions, yet perhaps this shift could allow you both to explore fresh collaborations; it’s not necessarily a bad thing! sometimes friends need space to try new things, and that can ultimately strengthen the bond if handled well. have faith that with some time and reflection, things might improve between you two 😊
it's really a challenging situation you’re navigating with Elsie; balancing personal and academic relationships can indeed become complex especially when emotions are heightened. it sounds like you're feeling quite unsupported, which is understandable given the circumstances. there seems to be a communication breakdown between all parties involved, and perhaps a neutral discussion could help in fostering mutual understanding? i wonder if finding an impartial third party, maybe even someone well-versed in conflict resolution, might assist in bridging the gap between differing perspectives??? this could potentially provide a platform for both of you to express your concerns without any bias so each voice feels equally heard and valued;
yo, drama with friends gets messy fast, especially when school projects are involved. 🤦♂️ sounds like elsie wants to spread her wings a bit in class and maybe feels boxed in. you reaching out is cool but also check if you're doing more of the same thing expecting different results—"insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results," right? remember, she's got her own thing going on too, so give her space but keep things open for future conversations. sometimes letting the dust settle can clear up misunderstandings or show where adjustments need to happen. hang in there; friendships can shift but they often circle back stronger!
navigating this situation seems quite complex given the entanglement of personal relationships and school responsibilities. it's evident you're experiencing emotional turmoil, which is completely valid; however, it's crucial to acknowledge that Elsie might be facing her own pressures and stressors that prompted her actions too. perhaps reflecting on how expectations are communicated between you both could provide insight into any underlying miscommunications or assumptions made—approaching this with an open mind may help untangle some of these tensions. while it feels disheartening now, offering understanding towards both your emotions and hers without immediate resolution might ease the strain eventually;
man, i get where you're coming from and it totally sucks when someone you've been tight with for years suddenly bails on you like that 😕; but if i'm keeping it real, maybe elsie's just feeling suffocated by the whole situation?
navigating friendships and school projects can really test the waters, especially when emotions are running high. it seems like elsie might be looking for some space to explore new collaborations outside the immediate comfort zone; maybe it’s her way of stepping into a different aspect of her learning journey? although it's hard to feel unheard, acknowledging both sides could be a step forward. have you thought about using this opportunity to explore working with others too; sometimes, stepping out of our usual circles can bring unexpected experiences and even new friendships.
oh man, that sounds really tough 😕 it's hard when friends make decisions that feel hurtful. maybe try to see if there's any common ground with elsie outside of drama? sometimes shifting focus away from what's causing tension can help remind you both why you're friends in the first place! also, elsie's probably working through her own stuff; who knows, she might even come around after some reflection. just hang in there and give it time 🙂