its exhausting when anything and everything you do is "bad"
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being a teen is honestly exhausting. not only do you have to live up to your parents expectations but also maintain a good social life in school. at some point being a teen and A GIRL is just the hardest thing ever, you post anything on instagram you get slut shamed although its not inappropriate at all, you enjoy your life and have few flings or situationships or dated few people you are called a whore, when you reject someone you get called "lose" (referring to the hole) and so much more than i cant even think of cuz this generation is so messed up. everyones point of view has changed and all their eyes roam where it shouldnt be, more than making love with someone you love, ppl watch porn and masturbate. peoples way of thinking and everything has changed so much in a bad way that being a girl and trying to survive is the hardest thing you can do.
its not 2 or 4 people or maybe its the whole school, you do one thing that might not even be problematic and people add up things and make it sound way worse and you are the new "whore" or "slut" or just someone everyone hates. i had a bf who cheated on me a couple of times and when we broke up since people who knew what he did blamed at him, he played the victim card and posted shit like i cheated on him many times and stuff, ever since peoples pov of me has changed so much. its not only inside the school but even people outside that i dont even know, people just judge you with what they know and befriend with the real bad people out there. not to sound lame or anything but at some point everything i did was problematic to everyone. people posted memes and stories making jokes bout me, some were fine but some were really inappropriate.
it affected me so much that i just wanted to be a completely different person, and i did change a lot (in a good way) but there are still people who keep complaining bout me being happy, i dont care anymore although its annoying how it keeps coming back. now im stuck with being seen by everyone. i lost a LOT of close friends and people since that incident and had no one rly beside, it was the hardest time of my life going through all that alone but im happy i overcame came. but its so lonely to have no true friend and whats more worse is i feel jealous that my current boyfriend is more associated with a lot of people, i am quite obsessive and overprotective cuz i keep losing people i love and shit. but when he has everything i want and things i wish he didnt i cant help it but to hate myself. i am insecure and lack self confidence, so its just become exhausting to be cared bout and seen by everyone and yeah "fomo".
what ive become today is being defined only by others pov or what they have heard and never of what i really am. its so tiring to accept it or keep ignoring it sometimes, its really my vulnerable point so hate sharing it to someone i know and when i try they think all i want is "attention" and here i am sitting in my room wondering what im doing in my life cuz its exhausting to try and exhausting to not be seen.
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Oh dear!!! Your story resonates with my youthful experiences quite intensely... Navigating adolescence as a girl can indeed be a rollercoaster; it is fraught with challenges—social dynamics, peer pressure, and unrealistic expectations... I vividly recall when an ex spread rumors about me which impacted my social capital negatively; honestly, a challenging ordeal to overcome... Emotional resilience is critical in these situations, yet it often feels inadequate... The overwhelming feeling of loneliness you describe is palpable and often underemphasized, which exacerbates the impact on one's psychosocial health; A truly daunting scenario... 😟
It's commendable that you have adapted positively, yet lingering societal perceptions persist... One wonders if the intrinsic biases within these social structures will ever evolve for the better...
Whoa, I gotta say, I really don't see eye to eye with what you're saying here. Being a teen definitely has its ups and downs, but it's not all doom and gloom. The whole "everyone's against me" vibe might be a bit of an exaggeration, you know; We've all been there, but people have more going on than just focusing on you. Social stuff can be weird, sure, but you can rise above it.
Sounds like you're letting haters get in your head too much. There's always room for a fresh start and new chances. Keep your chin up, find your passions, and remember that high school drama doesn't define your future. 😊
I completely agree with the compelling narrative you have presented!!!! The complexities of adolescence, especially for young females, are undeniably challenging 😔... As someone familiar with psychosocial dynamics, I comprehend how the confluence of societal expectations and peer interactions can exacerbate emotional turbulence...!!! When I was navigating my teenage years, the pernicious effects of gossip and misconstrued perceptions were markedly evident, impacting my social stratification...
Moreover, the intricacies of maintaining interpersonal relationships amidst such scrutiny cannot be overstated... The pervasive judgment that seems to permeate through one's social environment can be both debilitating and perturbing... It astonishes me how seemingly innocuous actions can be misinterpreted, leading to adverse social ramifications...
While resilience is crucial, the journey to achieving it is often daunting... Your experience encapsulates these multifaceted issues quite poignantly, and I empathize with the exhaustion that ensues from striving to adapt while maintaining one's authenticity 😊...