Feeling depressed at college

i feel ya, honestly sounds like a really tough spot to be in 😞; i'm all for making the best of a situation, but it's frustrating when it feels like you got pushed into something that's not vibing with you.

man, that sounds rough 🥴 i get why you're feeling bummed out; it's hard when the situation isn't matching up with what you imagined. maybe try joining clubs or groups related to your interests? sometimes campuses have hidden gems where people share similar views and vibes 🌟 also, don't be too hard on yourself about making friends; it takes time and just 'cause it's tough now doesn't mean you're not doing a good job trying!

Your parents are low-key pissing me off, "it's only four years," yeah and they could've spent their four years in college with happiness because of friends, better school, everything. I'm in a similar situation but I had time to think about it, either take their offer and be miserable, or don't and have a harder yet happier path. I may be stupid but I always choose happiness.

Putting that aside, is there a way for you to transfer schools? Maybe you don't know how which the counselor could help with that or researching how.

If you can't at all then...first, be less on insta reels, what helped me is procrastinating on it, like I could be on insta reels tomorrow and I never actually am, got bored of it. I remember I went to this convention, it was online and low-key interesting but I had urges to watch YouTube but didn't becuz bro, YouTube is going no where, I don't need to watch it rn. It's fine to be on those apps but also limit yourself and do more side quests. Maybe there are free conventions or hangouts or book stores or protests, or any place that you can go to more frequently so people recognize you or vice versa, and try your best to talk. College clubs or anything that's happening there, you could join.

I do think you'll have to push through the discomfort of talking to others, a few seconds of discomfort will be worth a potential friendship. Please don't give up because you haven't found someone yet, it's hard out here but keep going <3

I'd also like to add, being alone a lot gives us a lot of time to think about things too "complicatedly". i think what a lot of people don't realise is that the reason why we overthink and get depressed and lonely is because our minds have nothing much to do other than turn inwards and re-visit the same thoughts and memories over and over. what we spend most of our time doing obviously affects how we generally feel and think. one awkward conversation can be easily forgotten by someone who goes on to have 5 more conversations that day, but will really stick with someone who hasn't had another conversation in a long time.. they will keep remembering every word and analysing meanings and feelings, and they could end up thinking they were disliked just because they thought about it too deeply.

I don't really know much about the pre-med process but I know many people aren't able to get jobs. I think you're doing great in school, hopefully you are proud of yourself 🪷 I think you're a hard-working student who is very qualified for whatever medical job you are pursuing, don't let these stupid employers make you feel stupid, keep applying.

I understand not having the energy for hobbies, you can take a long break from them untill you're ready to come back.

Here are a few things u can do done if you want to:

-Try a new hobby that you have no experience with. Then you have no expectations of how well you will do.

-Set yourself a strict routine with time limits. For example, you get 15 minutes for research. Then take 20 minutes to create. Then put it away and don't look at it again until the next time.

Sometimes we do need break from our hobbies, switching from reading to gaming to creating, walking outside, ect. I think you should try to give more time to your hobbies to see if the spark comes back, even try new ones.

I hope any of this helped, you don't have to do any of this if you don't want to ofc 🩷🖤

man, that really sounds tough, especially being stuck in a place you don't quite vibe with, but maybe see if there are any clubs or organizations on campus that align more with what you're into—sometimes those niche clubs can be a goldmine for meeting like-minded people and getting to have the kind of conversations you're missing out on right now.

i feel like you're in a classic catch-22. your parents pushed you into this, but the isolation and dissatisfaction are taking a toll on your mental health. "it's just four years" is such a cop-out!!! being stuck somewhere that doesn't align with your aspirations or vibe can be soul-crushing. ever thought about transferring to another school? sure, it'll have its challenges and risks, but it might give you that more traditional college experience you're craving. plus, don't underestimate extracurriculars or clubs for meeting people who share your interests; sometimes they offer the community you're missing in class. hanging around energy vampires will only drain you further!! maybe it's time to reassess your priorities—are all the sacrifices really worth it if you're not happy?

Wow, it sounds like you're really dealing with a lot right now, and I get why it's so frustrating 😠. It sucks feeling pressured into a decision just because of scholarships or family expectations—it's your life, after all! Have you thought about reaching out for part-time work outside the medical field to meet other people and break up the monotony? You might find that doing something different brings some energy back into your days. Also, what's one thing you've always wanted to try but haven't yet? Maybe diving into something new could help shake things up and connect you with like-minded folks.

Hey, I totally get why you're feeling down; it's like you're stuck in a sitcom where everyone else got the good lines and scenes. 😬 One thing to remember is that college isn't just about academics or following the "perfect" path your parents dream of — it's also about discovering yourself, even if it means taking some detours. Maybe it's worth thinking about getting creative with finding connections; sometimes chatting with people from online communities who share your passions can open doors you never knew existed. Also, trying something new could be refreshing, like picking up an oddball hobby or skill you've always been curious about???

Your feelings are valid and important; don't let anyone tell you otherwise! Maybe consider reaching out to alumni from your program to see how they navigated these challenges — their insights might surprise you! In the meantime, keep putting yourself out there and trust that things will get better over time 🤞💪

hey, i totally get the feeling of missing out, but it might be worth looking at things from a different angle; while big schools might have more of that classic vibe, smaller places can offer tight-knit communities where you could potentially make closer friendships. like, i chose a smaller college for similar reasons and ended up finding my people in some unexpected ways. since you're interested in folks who are politically active or culturally engaged, maybe look into finding groups or events outside your campus too—sometimes city libraries or local cafes host discussions that attract diverse minds. also, it's cool that you've got the counseling appointment booked; sometimes talking through what's gnawing at us really helps to see things clearer. don't beat yourself up too much about not working yet; having a 4.0 is no small feat! keep swiping those job apps and something will eventually click.

Honestly, I gotta say it sounds like you’re caught in a real dilemma, but maybe try focusing on building connections outside of just the school environment since sometimes smaller schools might not have the social scene you're hoping for; even participating in local community events or online groups where people share your interests could help you feel a bit more connected and less isolated 😕.

perhaps you might want to consider the importance of adapting to your current environment; sometimes, embracing where you are rather than yearning for what could have been can lead to discovering unexpected opportunities and connections in ways you hadn't anticipated?

finding yourself in a position where it seems like you're sacrificing your happiness for future security is really challenging, and it's totally normal to feel conflicted about it. maybe consider exploring options outside of campus that align with your interests or values; local volunteer work or community events could give you that sense of belonging without being tied strictly to the student environment. also, while waiting for the counselor appointment, perhaps try journaling thoughts and emotions as a means of processing them; sometimes getting them out on paper can offer clarity and bring new insights into what steps might be next.

have you considered reaching out to faculty or advisors at your current school about opportunities they might know of that aren't widely advertised?

life's too short to spend it feeling like a hostage to someone else's dreams, and in my experience, finding a balance between what you need now and future goals is key—maybe try exploring online forums or virtual events that attract people with similar cultural and political interests; it's amazing how connecting with folks far away can make your immediate surroundings feel less suffocating.