I need your advice, what the heck should I do in this sit???
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Thank you so much for having the patience to read this, I would really like to hear your opinion on this situation. I have OCD (not sure if this is important, but just to give you some context) it ruined my high-school life. Somehow I was able to graduate high school and got into a college. I suppose it was a month or two after joining the college I got into this stupid misunderstanding with someone and shrieked infront of my classmates and threw my glasses like it was BAD, I know it was a stupid thing for me to do but this started reminding me of high school again and I couldn't handle my emotions. After that, no one really sat next to me, they would put their bags on my bench and would sit behind or infront of me with their friends. I tried talking to them, they were polite enough to say something but it always ended up me being ignored. My OCD anxieties were terrible and during lab sessions experiments was unable to perform or even hold the apparatus on my own, so when our professors would assign us partners, when it came to me everything was quiet. And when someone is assigned to be my partner they made faces of disappointment and their friends mocking them and wishing them good luck. I would do my very best to give assistance for the experiments only to get told that they'll handle everything and I just need to copy theirs. I hated this so much. I tried explaining this to my professors and it was obvious that they didn't want to do anything with it as their lives were not going great in the college. I was told that I didn't make an effort to speak to my classmates, and I thought that was true but every time I would initiate conversations with them I found out that our interests were too different to which I admit yes not all of us have to like the same thing, but I would ask them about the stuff they like and they would talk something and then go back to their friend group. I tried going home together with them, before catching the public transportation we have to take a 3-5 minute ride after that we would get into the public transportation and it always ended up me sitting alone while they would sit together and chat. (I think I might be seeing too much into this but I am so sorry for being such an idiot here.) Group projects always ended up with them doing the work and me doing nothing because there was no work. I tried not focusing on this and did my own thing to keep me engaged. Then I heard that there were rumours spread about me in the college and I think my classmates have painted me as a scary person or someone not mess with. We had a food carnival, I was in my stall giving juice for free while next to me was lemonade stand that was charging money. So when the other students came to check out, no one wanted to do anything with my stall and were buying lemonade from my neighbors. At some point these random girls come to my stall atnd start joking about the juice I was giving away ( IT was a mangosteen drink), suddenly one of my classmates tried warning the girls that who I was...that day was also a shitty day because the people who actually drank the juice from my stall did so out of pity it was very obvious. While I am grateful for those who actually bothered, I couldn't help but feel really hurt about this. I am sorry for this stupid rant, God. Obviously my studies and grades were messed up because I cared too much, but I was told that I didn't seem to care. I obviously tried telling this to my family, they told me that I was just taking things too seriously and that I wasn't really putting any effort to socialise. I told this situation to my therapist who said that I had to sue my college or something (dude, what??). I tried begging my parents to allow me a break but I guess it won't really do anything.....As the second semester has ended I am thinking if I want to continue this college or just suck it up and I'm being a whimp. I am really sorry. Thank you so much for reading this, I would be very grateful to hear your opinion, thank you.
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Hey there, it sounds like you're going through a really rough time, and I'm sorry you have to deal with all this. Having OCD is tough, especially in college when there's so much pressure on fitting in and succeeding academically. The whole situation sucks but maybe taking small steps could help? Like reaching out to one or two people at a time instead of big groups because building connections can be slow. Also, it might be worth discussing with your therapist again for more practical support; suing seems impractical and not super helpful in making things better for you day-to-day. But hey, don't be too hard on yourself! College isn’t everything...it’s just one part of life :)
ugh, that sounds like a nightmare to deal with; i can't believe your therapist suggested suing the college instead of helping you with real strategies...
sounds like you're really trying and it's tough to feel stuck like that, but maybe switching up your strategy could help; sometimes finding even just one person with a similar interest can make a difference.
It sounds like you've had a tough time adjusting to college with all these social hiccups. While it's understandable that your past experiences are impacting you now, maybe there's room to consider how others perceive the situation differently as well. You mentioned feeling isolated and like people don't want to engage with you but perhaps some classmates might also feel uncertain or awkward about how to interact after the initial misunderstanding. It might not be all on you it could be a shared lack of communication.
That's a good point, sometimes others just don't know how to react either!
hey that sounds really tough damn. have you tried joining any clubs or activities outside your regular classes? that might help break the ice with people who share your interests?
Thank you so much for understanding, I try interacting with others, I mean I try sitting next to someone and usually they would move away from me. (It isn't a coincidence )I would try hanging out with a person and they would just leave me without telling me. I feel like shit because am I that terrible to hangout with lol??? And the fact that my family doesn't really think it's serious but they absolutely hate it when I am moody or anything negative. I really wanna try other activities but they just clash with college so much and mentally it is sooo exhausting to also keep my OCD rituals in control. I just don't know, this feels awful and I feel that my mental health is making me look things in this way, to which I seem emotional or defensive here? I am so sorry everyone, I am sure I could've said this in different words but I don't know how...
don't be sorry :)
Wow, it sounds like you're going through a really tough time and feeling pretty isolated there, but it's important to remember that your feelings are valid and you're not being a whimp for caring about how you're treated or for wanting some kind of change.
man that's rough...
it sounds like you're going through a really tough time, and it's understandable to feel overwhelmed by everything. managing ocd is hard enough without all these added stressors from college life. but i think labeling yourself or your actions as 'stupid' might be a bit harsh. we all have moments where emotions get the better of us, especially when we're in new environments that remind us of past challenges.
about your classmates... it’s disappointing they’re being so unkind, but sometimes people just don't know how to deal with others’ differences. maybe they’re acting out of ignorance more than malice? as for your therapist's suggestion to sue the college, that seems like an extreme step unless there's clear discrimination happening. perhaps focusing on finding small spaces where you feel comfortable and can make connections could help over time.
your family's advice might come off as dismissive, but it could also be their way of trying to protect you from further disappointment. maybe having another chat with them about how deeply this affects you could open their eyes a bit more? either way, remember that taking a break is perfectly okay if that's what you need to regroup and recharge; pushing through when you're at breaking point won't help anyone long-term. take care!
Man, this sounds so frustrating. That college experience seems like such a drag and I get why you're feeling the way you do. The mangosteen drink thing just sucks; it's like people already made up their minds before even giving you a chance? 🤔 Maybe stepping back and taking that break could be what you need, or trying to find some activity outside of school to change things up a bit might help. Changing your environment sometimes makes all the difference! Whatever you decide, don't beat yourself up too much over it :)
feeling isolated in college can be really tough, and it seems like those experiences have made things a lot harder for you; it's disappointing that your professors didn't step up to provide more support in handling group dynamics.
I can only imagine how isolating this might feel. I'm curious though: do you think there are any places in your college experience where things might improve or change for the better? Have there been small positive interactions or moments that gave you a bit of hope? It seems important to recognize those too. Maybe they're just overshadowed by the harder experiences right now.
This whole situation sounds exhausting, and let me tell you, I've been there myself. People can be unbelievably judgmental and quick to label instead of giving someone a chance. About the college thing: it's rich that your therapist immediately jumped to suing the school, but seriously, that's not going to fix things overnight or help you navigate this social mess. Maybe consider joining an interest-based club at college? Those can really help in finding genuine connections because they're based on shared passions rather than forced interactions in class. Also, screw what others think sometimes! It's too much effort trying to fit into groups that clearly don't appreciate who you are. Take a breather whenever needed; you're not being weak for needing time for yourself.
it's just so sad idk...
Wow, it sounds like you're navigating a minefield; college can be brutal with all these expectations and social pressures! I gotta ask though, have you tried finding any online communities that align with your interests? Sometimes those spaces can offer legit support and connect you with people who truly get you. Plus, they might help ease some of that stress off your shoulders while you deal with this IRL drama.
man, that's a lot to handle and it's rough when your own mind becomes an obstacle. it seems like you're juggling so much with OCD and social stress. maybe because of what happened before, some classmates might have this picture of you in their heads they can't shake off; that doesn't make it fair or right though. i had a friend who struggled with something similar, and she found it helpful to focus on one thing she could control well, just to feel grounded—it's not a fix for everything but helped her feel accomplished at least in some corner of her life. if nothing else, it might be worth carving out a small space where you can find peace or joy even if college feels overwhelming. hang in there!
i remember feeling lost my first semester too!