SHOULD I QUIT?
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I am a 2nd sem student and right now I want to know if I should continue engineering or not. To give give you some context I did my 12th in open schooling due to terrible mental health issues and therefore I was at home and didn't really interact with people outside. Fortunately I somehow managed to pass the exams and then I got in to this college(through CET). In my 1st sem I tried really hard to control my mental health and tried getting along with this new system. I tried doing my best to socialize and study. My parents are veryy very supportive and I seek help from therapy and have been heavily medicated (which makes me seem tired and sleepy all the time). During the first few weeks of 1st sem, there was some misunderstandings with someone and I reacted too harsh by shrieking in front of the class. After that no one would sit next to nor talk to me. It seemed like they were afraid of me (according to my teachers). There were some who were kind enough to share notes with me but I noticed that they did because they were afraid of me. I struggled throughout the classes with my mental health deteriorating and it made things worse. During lab I was a mess, I would feel anxious like a LOT and my hands would tremble. This made me seem incapable of doing anything which made my classmates to dread working with me and teachers were too annoyed with my incompetence. I tried working even hard but it only worsened my mental health. I explained the teachers my situation, they were understanding but for how long? during my 1st sem finals I was a chaotic mess, I was unable to focus on studies because of my mental health. I managed to pass 1st but with 3 backlogs, it isn't the best but this was something I could manage doing at least. I wanted to take an year off from college but my parents didn't like the idea. I told my therapist, who suggested me to change courses, but I am too scared to do that because my parents are really keeping their hopes up. 2nd sem started, and by now everyone knew each other and were interacting with each other, I was the only one in class who didn't really have anyone to sit next to me in class. It was obvious. Sometimes I think that this is just me being too dramatic about everything but I often see that my classmates make faces and avoid sitting next to me, it almost feels like there's something REALLY wrong with me. Honestly, I cannot keep up with such an environment and pretend that everything is okay. I now dread a lot going to college and hate doing the homework. I'm being kicked out of the class for not finishing my work. I really really want some advice right now, I don't want to disappoint my parents....and I am sorry if this post is unclear, this is my first time posting stuff on the internet, I hope you are kind enough to understand that. Thank you!
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yo, i get where you're coming from, trust me. it's tough when you feel like you're stuck in a cycle that's just not working for you. maybe it's time to have an honest talk with your parents about how intense this is getting for you. they want the best for you, but sometimes we gotta steer our own ship, ya know? changing courses might sound scary, but if it leads to something that feels more right for you and improves your mental health, isn't it worth a shot? don't be too hard on yourself: life's all about trial and error!
Thank you so much!
if you ask me, it sounds like you're in a toxic environment that's exacerbating your mental health problems rather than helping you grow academically or personally. sure, changing courses might upset your parents initially, but isn't enduring this situation going to do more harm in the long run??? it's important to consider if the degree is worth the impact on your well-being. besides, have you tried addressing these issues with any student support services at your college? they might offer solutions you're not aware of yet.
it sounds like you're dealing with a lot right now, and i totally get why you'd feel overwhelmed. sometimes, though, sticking it out in an uncomfortable situation isn't the best for your mental health. maybe you could have a heart-to-heart with your parents and explain how this is affecting you? they seem supportive, so they might understand more than you think. remember what dumbledore said: "it does not do to dwell on dreams and forget to live." wishing luck to whatever decision you make! 💪
Hey there! It sounds like you're really going through a lot; managing mental health along with academic pressures is no small feat. Have you considered exploring some quieter environments or campus support groups? Sometimes a fresh setting or new faces can help you see things differently and make connections that don't carry the weight of past misunderstandings; It's important to find a space where you feel comfortable and understood, as this might help ease the anxiety of attending classes without feeling isolated. Wishing you strength as you navigate these challenges! 😊
It seems like the underlying issue might indeed be a complex interplay between your mental health and the academic pressure; but is engineering truly aligning with your interests or career aspirations? Although shifting paths can appear daunting, it might ultimately lead to a setting where you can thrive both personally and academically. Have you explored fields that could better accommodate your current state while still appealing to your interests?
it's clear you're going through a challenging phase trying to balance expectations and your own mental health needs. considering the impact on both your academic performance and personal well-being, have you thought about seeking accommodations from your college for your situation? sometimes institutions can provide resources or adjustments that make it easier to manage course work alongside mental health struggles. understanding what's within your control might help alleviate some stress and fear of disappointing others.
Engineering is undoubtedly a demanding field, and it seems like the current environment at college is more overwhelming than supportive. Your mental health should be your foremost priority, as neglecting it can impede your academic progress even further; 🤔 If you're already undergoing therapy and taking medications that affect your energy levels, perhaps this academic load isn't feasible right now. It's understandable to feel apprehensive about discussing a course change with your parents, yet their ultimate goal is likely your happiness and well-being. From personal experience, open communication tends to yield surprising results: sometimes those we fear disappointing become our biggest allies when they truly grasp the depth of our struggles.
Hey there, I'm sorry to hear you're going through such a rough time. It seems like engineering is putting a ton of stress on you, and that's not exactly the vibe you want when trying to deal with mental health issues; Have you ever thought about exploring other options that might be less demanding or possibly more in line with your interests? 🤔
Your parents might have high hopes, but at the end of the day, your wellbeing is what's most important. Maybe there's a way to negotiate some middle ground?? like taking fewer courses for now or trying online classes so you can still progress without feeling overwhelmed; Do you think something like that could work for you?
I totally understand your struggle!!! college is hard enough without dealing with mental health challenges on top of it!
Honestly, it sounds like you're in a really tough spot trying to balance all of this. 😕 I get that your parents have high hopes for you, but sometimes the pressure from those expectations can make things worse, especially with everything else you're dealing with. It might help to remind them that taking care of your mental health is crucial for any success down the line. Maybe there's a way to compromise by taking fewer classes or seeking out special accommodations at school? That way, you can focus on what matters most without feeling like you're completely letting anyone down.
i hear you, and it sounds like your mental health is really getting challenged by the current setup. have you thought about exploring online or part-time study options? they could offer a more flexible pace and reduce some of the social pressures you're facing. sometimes stepping out of traditional classrooms can give you space to breathe while still advancing academically. don't worry too much about what others think: finding the right balance for yourself should be priority #1!
Thank you so much everyone! I am very grateful to it! I agree with you that my mental health needs to be looked upon, it is just that my parents (they're doing their very best to understand me, they're frustrated, obviously!) get their heart broken that I am in such a condition.. honestly hearing them say harsh things about my academics or just telling me to quit overall is just bad enough already... I don't wanna victimize myself but, we all have tried our best, maybe not me I guess? I tried reasoning with my issues with my parents but they are not willing to listen, so I am forced to involve my therapist to give them the message that I am tired. It really hurts so much when people talk down to me knowing it triggers me and I feel helpless about it and I have to change that!
honestly, it sounds like you're caught in a cycle where trying harder just makes things worse??? like, at some point you gotta ask if the stress and anxiety are worth it for this engineering path. maybe instead of pushing yourself to fit into this mold that's clearly not working, it's time to reevaluate what's best for your mental health!! have you thought about exploring totally different fields that align with what brings you peace and fulfillment? sometimes stepping back can give you a clearer view of where your true interests lie—maybe it'll open new doors you'd never even considered!!!
sometimes tackling the root of the problem before it snowballs is key, so have you thought about doing some career counseling to explore what truly excites you?
i get your struggle, it sounds like you're caught in a tough spot where the pressure from both college and your own expectations collide. it's really hard to juggle everything when mental health isn't at its best. you know, maybe this is an opportunity to reassess what's truly important to you? sometimes taking a step back can provide clarity on what needs adjusting: be it the course load or even shifting paths entirely. i've seen people take unconventional routes and find surprising success because they finally aligned their choices with who they are rather than what they think they're supposed to be doing. have you ever thought about taking a less traditional route that still allows growth but without the same level of stress?
Hey, first of all, kudos to you for reaching out and sharing your story; it's not easy to open up about such personal struggles. 🤗 While it's natural to worry about disappointing your parents, remember that finding a path that supports both your mental well-being and academic goals is paramount. It might be worth exploring if there are any student support groups or mental health peers at college who could offer camaraderie and advice based on similar experiences. Also, have you considered speaking with an academic advisor? They might have insights into how you can manage your course load more effectively without burning out. What do you think would help make college feel like a more supportive space for you right now?
I am so sorry guys, thank you so much for the lovely comments...my parents are nice, but I think this is a bit too much, they seem to not believe me about my situation and are assuming that I'm faking it, honestly I am fine with engineering as long as I get used to the routine and with better mental health(by taking a break which my parents didn't like)...I considered going for animation(I even went to one for 3 days) but my parents think it's not going to help much, isn't very stable, and I thought of pursuing it after studying engineering. My parents are also considering to stop therapy and medication as nothing seems to have been improved from my side, I just don't know what to do at this point. And honestly I can't ask anyone around me cause they are too busy or they just don't want to deal with my shit.
Navigating the choppy waters of academia when dealing with mental health issues is a herculean task, and your resilience thus far speaks volumes. It's important to remember that you're more than just your academic performance; A lot of people underestimate how transformative taking a step back can be for gaining clarity on what you truly want. 🤔 Maybe consider setting short-term, realistic goals for yourself and see if smaller victories can build up your confidence over time? Initiatives like joining study groups or clubs could offer social engagement without the pressure of intense academic requirements. You deserve an environment where you can flourish both mentally and intellectually!