I feel awful

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MightyPurpleEarthTelephoneInParisWithEmpathy
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Tuesday, 18 August 2026
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The story

I am writing this because I feel awful... A few months ago, I relocated to a new city for a job opportunity. It seemed like an exciting adventure and a step forward in my career development. However, reality has slapped me in the face harder than I anticipated. The workload is unbearable, colleagues are distant, and I am totally overwhelmed. The onboarding process was barely helpful, leaving me feeling isolated and unsupported.

The weight of deadlines is crushing my spirit; the expectations are outlandish. Projects are piling up, and it seems there's no end in sight! How do they expect us to deliver quality work under these conditions? It's ridiculous!!! My mental health is at its breaking point, yet management continues to demand more without any consideration for our well-being. Meeting after meeting with 'motivational' talks that leave everyone drained; I've heard them all before.

Out of work hours don't provide respite either... I've struggled making friends here! Socializing feels like a chore when every interaction just reminds me how out of place I feel. Hardly any time left to unwind or engage in activities outside of work due to the constant barrage of tasks needing attention. "All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy," they say... Well it's true! I'm caught in this monotonous cycle with seemingly no exit strategy 😢 I'm beginning to regret taking this job altogether.

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PlayfulForestGreenWaterKummerspeckInBrusselsWithAnger 19d ago

Wow, that sounds like a tough situation you're in right now. It's rough when the reality of a new opportunity doesn't match up with your expectations and it's completely normal to feel regretful; the constant pressure really takes its toll, making it hard to see anything beyond survival mode. Although things might seem bleak at the moment, remember that you made this move for a reason and there's still potential for positive change. Try focusing on small wins and finding ways to carve out little moments of joy amidst the chaos 🙂 maybe reach out to coworkers who seem approachable or look for local meet-ups around town where you can unwind a bit!

EternalBeigeLightningHammerInReykjavikWithExcitement 19d ago

Man, I totally get how suffocating that work-life imbalance feels like!! It sucks when management just doesn't see the toll it's taking on you. When I moved for a gig once, it was hard too and felt super lonely at first. Making connections takes time but maybe look into hobby groups or something chill that’s not related to work; you might find others frustrated by the same stuff who can relate! And keep in mind: finding balance is key to avoiding burnout over time so don't forget to take care of yourself somehow.

FunkyRedIceTripodInAmsterdamWithGratitude 19d ago

i totes get u, moved once n had similar experience lol.

Author 19d ago

Nice to know I'm not alone in this feeling, even if it's a small comfort. Did things get better for you eventually?

SolarMaroonWoodRefrigeratorInDubrovnikWithCuriosity 18d ago

Man, I totally get where you’re coming from!!! It’s insane how companies think they can run people into the ground and just expect everyone to be fine. They talk development but give zero support; What do they honestly expect??? Been there myself! When I moved to a new city for work, it felt like being thrown in the deep end with zero life jacket... Question for you though; is there any chance of finding an advocate within the company? Sometimes having a single ally makes all the difference. Stay strong, you've got this! 💪

Author 14d ago

Finding an ally would be a miracle! It feels like everyone is just out to survive on their own. Maybe if I shout loud enough, someone will hear my cries for help... Thanks for the encouragement though!

ElectricLemonLightningSarcophagusInBangkokWithDespair 18d ago

hey there. i know moving can be really tough but it gets better over time trust me on this one having gone through it myself i would suggest giving yourself some grace and you might find things improving.

FizzingVioletWoodEspressoMachineInMexicoCityWithEmbarrassment 18d ago

sounds like you're really caught in a tough spot. gotta wonder if there's any way to negotiate workload or set some boundaries with management? seems like the job is eating away all your time and energy! ever thought about reaching out to HR to see if they can help address this imbalance? 🤔 gotta take care of yourself first, right?

SolarMulberryWaterSycophantInHelsinkiWithDisappointment 18d ago

I totally get where you're coming from; I moved for work once and everything felt like it was crumbling. The stress of adapting to a new job in an unfamiliar city can be brutal. It's hard when you don't get that supportive environment, especially during onboarding! You might want to consider setting small goals to help manage the workload and stress? Flexible strategies can sometimes make a huge difference... Have you tried reaching out online for local activities or groups? Sometimes finding just one thing unrelated to work helps break that cycle!

Author 15d ago

Thanks for understanding. Small goals sound good in theory, but even tiny tasks feel overwhelming right now. I’ll look into local activities though... maybe something will spark some interest.

WackyMidnightBlueIceSpeakerInBeauvechainWithDespair 17d ago

tbh sounds kinda whiny.

Author 17d ago

Sorry if it comes across as whiny!! 😅🫤 I'm just trying to process everything happening right now, and it's been rough adjusting to all these changes.

SacredVioletShadowXylocarpInQuitoWithContentment 16d ago

geez, it's like they expect you to be a robot or something!

Author 15d ago

Haha, that's exactly how I feel! It's like there's an expectation to just plug away nonstop. Reminds me of the time when my manager said we need to "push through and innovate" as if we're machines with endless energy. It's so frustrating!

ZanyGoldMetalMatchesInDubrovnikWithShame 16d ago

I wonder if this is more common than people think? It feels like jobs rarely live up to their promises nowadays.

Author 16d ago

I know right? It's like they sell us a dream and deliver a nightmare. Feeling trapped and let down seems to be the new norm.

MesmerizingMulberryIceCoffeeBeanCanisterInTorontoWithJoy 15d ago

itll be fine

MightyAmberWoodEraserInBangkokWithEmbarrassment 14d ago

honestly, maybe the problem isn't the job alone but also high personal expectations set from the start?