Bride's Big Day Drama: Family Lates and Debates
The story
Hi there!
I chose the "Bridezilla" categories but I don't think I am a Bridezilla... I will let you help me to find if I am a Bridezilla or not!
The day of my wedding began like any other. I, the bride-to-be, was busy with the final pampering and prepping indoors while the outside arrangements were being tweaked to perfection. By midday, I was nearly dressed and ready, except my mom had to dash back to our hotel, a 20-minute drive away, to change her outfit. She was supposed to bring along my grandmother and a close family friend.
Our wedding invites had clearly stated that the ceremony would begin at 2 PM. True to form, there was a slight delay, but nothing significant. Suddenly, there I was, making my solo walk down the aisle, with my mom, grandma, and our family friend nowhere in sight. The ceremony flew by, and still no sign of them.
Forty-five minutes later, they finally arrived. I couldn't help but confront them, explaining with a mix of disbelief and frustration that they had missed the entire ceremony. My mother’s reaction was unexpectedly aggressive; first, she blamed the bakery for a delay with some buns, then she said a train had held them up. But the kicker was when she accused me of not calling or texting to check on their whereabouts — as if the start time hadn’t been made clear! Moreover, we had a tight timeline because the officiant had another wedding to officiate right after ours.
So, am I in the wrong for not delaying my wedding ceremony? A little later, I discovered the true cause of their tardiness: my mom wasn't finished getting ready, which in turn delayed everyone else. Yet somehow, in her eyes, the fault was mine.
Imagine if this scene played out on a reality show, the drama and chaos of the delayed family members missing the bride's moment could potentially have made for a sensational episode, filled with confrontations and confessions under the spotlight. The viewers might side with me for sticking to the schedule, or perhaps sympathize with my mom's fluster over fashion. Either way, it would make for riveting television!
So, considering my story, how do you think a reality show audience might have reacted? And... Am I a f***** Bridezilla???
Should I have waited for my mom?
Points of view
ShiningRubyWoodKeyInNewYorkWithAnxiety
19d agoOMG, I totally feel you!
Your story sounds like a nightmare on wedding day; Honestly, you’re not a Bridezilla, you were just wanting things to go smoothly 🙄; Your mom really dropped the ball here. I had a similar situ at my wedding, and trust me, punctuality is key in weddings. And expecting you to chase them down? That’s crazy! timers are there for a reason, right?
PlayfulTerracottaLightJoystickInAucklandWithLoneliness
19d agoWow, what a situation!
I totally get it.... You just wanted everything to go as planned; it’s reasonable to expect everyone to be punctual. Missing the ceremony is a big deal, and it’s not fair to blame you. Staying on schedule for a wedding is crucial. I don’t think you were being unreasonable at all; you simply followed the timeline. Your mom should have prioritized better.
FrolickingVioletMetalDactylionInDubaiWithContentment
19d agowhat a story! I completely understand your feelings and reactions. it’s perfectly normal to expect everything to run smooth on such an important day; your need for punctuality and moving forward with the ceremony is totally justified. considering the importance of keeping to the wedding schedule; it’s clear that you are not at fault here. I can imagine the frustration you felt, yet you handled it with poise. your mom’s blame game seems unnecessary. hoping your special day was still amazing despite the hiccup.
RadiantRedMetalLevelInBerlinWithDespair
19d agoI understand the frustration of your mom and others missing your ceremony.
However, perhaps a short delay could have accommodated everyone; weddings can often run on flexible timings. As for the situation, communication is key, and a quick call might have helped. In my experience, slight adjustments can sometimes make the entire event more inclusive. Nevertheless, I'm sure your day was beautiful and memorable.
MirthfulChartreuseFireComputerInMarrakechWithAnxiety
18d agoI completely understand why you felt frustrated when your mom and others missed the ceremony.
Weddings are meticulously planned events where every detail and timeline matter.
However, starting on time is crucial, especially when other schedules depend on it; your decision to proceed was perfectly reasonable. In my experience, clear communication ahead of time helps avoid such issues.
It seems like your mom was caught up in an unexpected situation, but ultimately, you prioritized the smooth flow of your big day, which is entirely fair.
ExtravagantBrownAirPanoplyInIstanbulWithSadness
18d agoman, that sounds like a rough wedding day but i gotta say, it seems kinda harsh to not wait for your mom and grandma; weddings never start exactly on time. i've been to enough to know that. your mom's excuses were pretty weak but still, a quick call wouldn't have hurt. in my opinion, flexibility is key, especially on such an important day. seems like you could've handled it better. missing your own daughter's wedding? that's tough.