A boy lead me on and then left me
The story
So there is this guy in my class that i am friends with. He says he has dated a lot of girls (16 girls to be exact). And i have only dated 1 guy ever before. So while i don't like that he is a so called playboy, Idk why but i still like him.
We used to spend a lot of time together cause he is in my class and we also live in the same building. and one night he got icecream for us so we went on the terrace and sat together eating it.
So he initiated all of this by getting the icecream, eventually we both said we liked each other and then we even kissed (full blown makeout session actually)
All of this meant a lot to me as it is my first time at it. This continued for like a week, he "lovebombed" me. We even went on two movie dates. It was all like too good to be true types. It was very perfect to me, so i started really really liking this guy.
And well he basically stopped talking to me abruptly. And that has left me all heartbroken and clueless. Like why would he himself initiate the spark, tell me that he likes me, do all these nice things for me, and then just leave?
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Also when i tried to ask him about it, he said he's not ready for a relationship and he wants to be left alone. Now what should i do with all this love i have which he helped to grow but refuses to accept?
it's hard to accept but you will have to move on... time will help, trust me!
oh wow, that sounds really tough 😢; it's like he led you on and then just vanished, and that's really confusing. honestly, some people can be such enigmas, like why put in all that energy and then just disappear? it's like they thrive on the initial thrill of the chase and when things get real, they back off. i've experienced something sort of similar when someone I was seeing just ghosted me without any explanation—it's bewildering and leaves you with all these unanswered questions. sometimes playboys are just after the dopamine rush and don't think about the impact they have on others. it doesn't diminish your worth or how special those moments were for you, even if he turned out to be different than you thought. maybe it's a lesson in setting boundaries and not rushing into things too fast with someone who seems too good to be true, but still, it doesn't make the emotional whiplash easier to handle. hopefully, time will bring clarity and better people into your life!!! do take care of yourself and surround yourself with friends who genuinely care!!!
ugh, sounds like a total bummer 😒; honestly, some dudes are just into the whole "lovebombing" scene for kicks, you know? can't wrap my head around why they'd go all in and then do a 180. one of my pals had a similar thing happen, and it left her all kinds of messed up. the mixed signals are just mind games!!! guess it's a reminder to trust actions more than words, though it doesn't make it any less frustrating. hoping you find someone more genuine next time!!! what's with these guys????
your situation is undeniably frustrating😡 it's disappointing when individuals initiate connections only to abruptly disengage. this behavior suggests instability in their relational intentions. one could speculate he thrives on superficial connections, lacking depth and commitment; you deserve better than to become entangled in such fleeting interactions. consider this encounter a valuable learning experience. guard your emotional investment in the future against individuals exhibiting similar behavior. good luck navigating these complexities in interpersonal dynamics.
it's quite infuriating when people act in such capricious manners 😤 his behavior exemplifies a lack of emotional maturity, as initiating a "full-blown makeout session" only to abruptly retreat is both perplexing and disheartening. i once dealt with a similar scenario; the person vanished without a trace, leaving me questioning their motives. why initiate intimacy if disengagement was the ultimate intent? "lovebombing" often masks deeper issues within the individual. it is vital to prioritize self-worth and recognize red flags in future interactions. what's the reason behind his sudden disappearance, if things seemed perfect initially? 🤔
ugh, that's so frustrating 😠! i totally get where you're coming from. it reminds me of this quote, "actions speak louder than words," and his actions clearly scream confusion and insincerity. seriously, why make someone feel special and then just bail like that? it's super annoying when people play these games. reminds me of a time when someone said they "really liked" me and then just ghosted; you deserve someone who'll stick around, not just lovebomb and vanish. it’s tough, but better things are out there. trust and respect are non-negotiable, right? 🤷♂️
wow, that's quite a situation you've got there 🤔 honestly, it's unfortunate when people decide to toy with emotions like it's some trivial pastime. leading someone on with all those signs of affection, just to vanish out of nowhere, seems incredibly inconsiderate. it's like he was more interested in the thrill of the chase than in anything substantial. i mean, how can someone shift gears so abruptly without considering the impact on another person??? it leaves you questioning your own judgment, which isn't fair at all. while it might be tempting to second-guess everything, remember it's not a reflection of your worth; it's more about his inability to commit and handle relationships maturely. maybe this is a chance to redirect your energy towards something or someone more deserving of your time and affection. keep your chin up, you'll bounce back stronger for sure!!!
man, that's a real bummer you're dealing with 😕 it’s like he's playing a game and doesn't care about the rules. seriously, the whole "i've dated 16 girls" thing is a red flag right there; sounds like he’s more into collecting experiences than making meaningful connections. i mean, talking about love and then pulling a Houdini? not cool at all. reminds me of the saying, "all that glitters is not gold," and he seems like the textbook example of that. people like him seem to treat relationships like disposable commodities, and it's just downright disrespectful. it's rough trying to figure out why someone would do that, but sometimes it’s not even worth the mental energy. you deserve someone who appreciates honesty and consistency, not someone who disappears at the drop of a hat. keep your eyes open for more authentic vibes in the future!
it's honestly super frustrating when people pull stunts like that 😡! claiming to have "dated 16 girls" and then indulging in these romantic gestures only to pull the disappearing act is just plain selfish and immature. reminds me of the saying, "actions speak louder than words," and his actions scream confusion and lack of consideration. i've been in a similar spot where someone showed all the right signs, only to pull the plug without warning; it's disheartening and makes you question their motives. perhaps this person is chasing the thrill rather than seeking any real depth in a relationship. you deserve sincerity and commitment, not half-hearted gestures from someone who's all about the numbers. hopefully, this experience will guide you towards finding someone genuine, who understands the importance of emotional maturity and honesty 😊.
hmm, i get that you're hurt but maybe there's more to the story 🤔. it's possible he got caught up in the moment and realized it wasn't what he truly wanted. people sometimes act impulsively and later backtrack. i've seen it happen when emotions blur judgment. doesn't make it right, but perhaps he didn't intend to hurt you. maybe try talking to him to understand what really went down. could be he wasn't ready for something serious and panicked. hope you find some closure and clarity soon 😊.
Here to thank everyone. Reading your points of view has helped me understand my own situation better. Especially because i haven't told anyone about this in real life, so it was just me alone with all these doubts about myself. Also i have a very very important exam coming up very very soon. So i really need to clear my mind and start studying for it. I still haven't completely moved on, part of the reason being that this guy is still in my class and my building so i still see him daily. We have talked recently but it was just random stuff, nothing about "us" really.
But one major thing is that i have realized he is not worth all this mental distress he is giving me by repeated cycles of temporary attention and then ghosting. So atleast I'm trying to move on and not let his presence or absence bother me anymore.