A Continuation of Another Couple’s Relationship
The story
This is somewhat a continuation of my previous story.
Recently I came across some of the reels James has liked, and frankly I am worried because if I’m getting recommended these reels, there is a chance Jess (his girlfriend) is getting recommended them too.
The reason I’m worried because the reels he has been liking makes Jess look bad. From what I know this is James’ first real and serious relationship. He has had been in an extremely short relationship with another girl but it didn’t even last a week. So when he is liking these reels, I am almost positive that it is in relation to Jess.
For context, Jess absolutely loves watching this drama/romance reality TV show (kind of like a guilty pleasure), and James thinks the TV show is dumb.
The reels he has been liking are criticizing women who watch that show: saying things like the show promotes promiscuity, women who watch that show have no loyalty. I was so shocked seeing him liking these reels because I know how much Jess loves watching that show, so for her boyfriend to be liking these reels seems so… off?
What really made me want to post this story is a different reel though. It was a reel that said something along the lines of: ‘Seeing your girlfriend defend another man to you is one of the most embarrassing things a lot of men experience.’
I am just confused how he can like reels like those without thinking how it makes his own girlfriend look. His friends are on IG, other family members (on both sides) are on IG, etc. I think this is such a bad look for her AND him, but maybe I’m just old school? Maybe this is how couples operate in this newer generation? But this still seems so off to me… am I seeing this wrong? I would like to know how other people perceive this.
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Points of view
It seems like there's a bit of overthinking going on here; in the age of social media, liking reels doesn't necessarily equate to a person's true beliefs. People often engage with content passively without much thought. Interestingly, I once had a similar concern when my partner liked a post criticizing something I enjoyed. It turned out, they didn't even remember liking it 🤷♀️. Could it be that James is merely scrolling aimlessly or engaging with humor meant to be lighthearted? Perhaps this situation is less about Jess and more about seeking entertainment or irony. Also, have you considered having a straightforward conversation with Jess about her thoughts on this issue?
I never saw a need to bring it up because their relationship is strained enough as is. I don’t want to be the catalyst that breaks them up. 🫠
It's kinda frustrating when social media stuff gets mixed up with real-life relationships, ya know? I mean, liking those reels doesn't seem very considerate of Jess's feelings, for sure. Social media can be so tricky, right? It's like, one minute you’re just scrolling, and the next, it’s causing drama. Hopefully, it’s just a misunderstanding, and they talk it out; maybe James didn’t realize the impact. But yeah, it’s rough seeing someone you care about caught up in stuff like this. Wonder if Jess has noticed or if she’s just chillin’ like it’s no big deal? Anyway, I really hope things smooth out for them soon.
i get that you’re worried, but honestly, it might be blowing things out of proportion; not everything online means something deep! from my experience, social media doesn't offer the full picture. my partner sometimes likes stuff that doesn't make sense to me at all, but it doesn't mean there's a problem. sometimes it's just mindless scrolling?? instead of stressing about what james likes, maybe focus on the amazing parts of their relationship?? who knows, maybe it's just a phase or a joke that doesn't translate well! maybe a conversation between them could clear this up easily. anyway, hoping for the best for them!
i totally see why you’d be concerned here; it’s kinda problematic when someone's social media activity doesn’t align with their partner's feelings. especially when it could cause some unnecessary friction! it’s like a strategic misalignment in their relationship dynamics 🤔. but could it be that james is just engaging with this content out of boredom or a lack of awareness, without knowing how it might affect jess? his digital footprint might not be reflecting his real-world intentions. do you think jess is aware of what he's liking, and has she mentioned how she feels about it? relationships can be tricky sometimes, and it's weird how social media complicates things when it should just enhance our connections, right?