it's so confusing what's going on with our relationship
The story
I have been in a relationship with this guy and he were fine in the first month ,then we both went to different college ,and things taken fast he one day wanted to have breakup and after a day we did reconcile but he was behaving kind of rude for few days,later though he changed but he is in still contact with the guy because of whom we had to breakup.
I'm pissed everyday I did tell him about what I was going through and told him to completely cut off with that guy but he didn't listen just said ok and told that he can't because he is his senior and member of some club. i ain't that irrational and told him to be professional with him but still sends him reels n all all the time.
I told him to distance but I don't think does. he keeps mentioning that he is his friend but i think he gives more importance then friend.
now I feel not to talk to him because I'm
that pissed that I will fight with him.
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man, i totally see where you're coming from 😬 it sucks when you feel like your partner isn't giving your feelings the weight they deserve. maybe it's time to have a real sit-down talk, like lay all cards on the table; communication is key in these situations. "being professional" doesn't mean you gotta be bff's with someone who's causing drama in your relationship. trust me, resentment will only build if things don't change. hope you both find some common ground soon!
Your situation definitely raises some concerning red flags, particularly regarding boundaries and trust. The fact that he continues to maintain a close relationship with the person who contributed to your breakup is quite baffling; it's like he's disregarding the emotional turmoil it has caused you. While it's understandable that he might have obligations due to his club activities, it seems perplexing that he can't set clearer boundaries if it’s affecting your peace of mind??? It might be beneficial for you to assess whether this relationship truly aligns with your personal values and expectations; after all, consistent communication and mutual respect are crucial ingredients for any successful partnership..
It's really frustrating when someone you're close to doesn't seem to prioritize your feelings, especially when there's already been drama involved. It sounds like he's not fully grasping how this relationship with his senior is impacting you emotionally; I understand that college dynamics can be tricky and he might feel stuck between a rock and a hard place. However, maintaining such a close connection with someone who has previously caused issues in your relationship does seem inconsiderate—on one hand, being professional is important, but on the other hand, it's essential for him to reassure you of where his priorities lie. If he values the relationship as much as you do, it might be worthwhile to have another frank discussion about boundaries and see if you both can come to a balanced agreement. Don't lose hope though; sometimes open dialogue can lead to surprising resolutions.