Older wife that seems to ignore me
The story
I am a 48 year old male, married to a 64 year old female. We haven't made love in 5 years due to her vaginal inching on the outer side of her vaginal lips. She's been to several doctors and nurse practitioners over all this time, and they just keep telling her to use creams on it like Replenish or KY Jelly. She won't even have a shower with me anymore.......keeps saying we will, we will, but it never happens. I can't even put my arm around her at night because she complains i'm too heavy. I'm just a small figured guy with some muscle, not a lot, like a Wil Wheaton type build. Am I crazy for thinking she just doesn't want to touch me anymore? There's other things too...........................
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Man, that sounds rough; like you're caught in this perpetual cycle of frustration and disappointment. It's got to be difficult dealing with such inconsistency, especially when it feels like she's pushing you away at every turn! I've been in a similar position before, where the communication just falls apart and nothing gets resolved - it's a tough spot to be in. It might be time to have an honest conversation with her about how all this is making you feel; maybe even consider couples therapy if you're open to it? Whatever happens, hang in there - relationships are sometimes as much about riding out the rough patches as they are about enjoying the smooth ones.
it seems there might be more underlying issues at play here that go beyond just the physical discomfort she’s experiencing. repeated recommendations from medical professionals suggest they've not identified a more serious issue, which raises questions regarding other potential factors influencing her behavior. it could be helpful to explore whether there are emotional or psychological barriers affecting your intimacy, especially since you've mentioned there's more going on. while it’s understandable to feel neglected or distant in your relationship, directly addressing these broader concerns may shed light on her reluctance and open up channels for deeper communication. have you considered discussing this situation with a counselor who specializes in marital relations? such dialogue could offer insights and strategies to bridge the disconnect you’re feeling between each other.
Honestly, dude, it sounds like you're not seeing the forest for the trees here. 🙄 If she's saying you feel too heavy when you put your arm around her, maybe it's less about your build and more about a serious disconnect on her end. Instead of blaming whatever medical issue she may or may not have, consider that there might be deeper emotional issues at play. You claim that "there's other things too" – maybe it's time to lay everything out on the table before jumping to conclusions about who wants or doesn't want what in bed. Relationships are complex ecosystems, and they can crumble from neglect if you're only looking at one part. Communication isn't just an option—it's essential if you want any hope of fixing things and moving forward together.