clingy boyfriend
The story
ok so like i don’t wanna sound mean or ungrateful or whatever, but my boyfriend is sooo clingy and i honestly don’t kno what to do about it anymore. like at first i thought it was cute, you kno? he’d always text me good morning and good night, always want to talk and tell me how much he likes me and stuff. and yeah, that felt nice at the beginning, cuz i never really had someone like pay that much attention to me before. but now it’s like... too much. like way too much. he wants to talk all the time, like literally 24/7. if i don’t answer his text in like 10 mins he starts asking if i’m mad or if something’s wrong or if i’m "losing feelings" 😩. like no dude, i was just doing homework or eating dinner with my fam, calm down!! i can’t even breathe without him needing some kind of reassurance, and it’s starting to really bug me.
it’s not just the texting either. he always wants to be with me at school too, like during lunch or between classes and even when i’m just tryna hang out with my other friends, he’s there. always right there. and i feel bad saying this but like... sometimes i just wanna chill with my girls without him clinged to me like glue 😭. one time i told him i needed a lil space to just hang with my friends and he got all quiet and moody for the rest of the day, like i did something wrong. like i’m not even allowed to have time without him or something. it’s starting to feel like i’m in this relationship with a puppy who cries the second you leave the room. i know that sounds harsh but fr that’s how it feels sometimes. nd the more i try to pull back a little, the more he pushes in closer.
what really gets me is that i don’t even think he means to be like this. like i know he likes me a lot, and that’s sweet and all, but it’s like he doesn’t understand that people need space too. like, being in a relationship doesn’t mean you have to be glued together 24 hours a day. i wanna miss him sometimes. i wanna have space to think, to breathe, to still be my own person. but every time i try to explain that to him, he acts like i’m breaking up with him or something. and i’m not! i don’t even want to break up. i just want him to chill out a bit. it’s just getting so hard to enjoy anything when i feel like i’m constantly babysitting his feelings. like, i can’t even say “i’m busy” without a whole dramatic convo about whether or not i still care about him. bro, it’s not that deep, i just got math homework 😭.
i really don’t know what to do at this point. i don’t wanna hurt him cuz he’s honestly such a sweet guy and i know he means well, but this clingy stuff is really driving me nuts. i feel like if i keep letting it slide, i’m gonna start really resentin him, and that’s not fair to either of us. but if i bring it up again, i’m scared he’s just gonna shut down like always and make me feel bad again. i’m only 16 and already feel like i’m stuck in this adult relationship with all this pressure, when it’s supposed to be fun and cute, right? i just wish he could trust that i care about him even if we don’t talk 24/7. idk maybe i’m the bad one here for wanting space, maybe i’m just not ready for this kinda thing. but i really hope he can back off a little without it turning into some huge thing, cuz if not… i’m not sure how much longer i can keep doing this.
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hey, i get where you're coming from, but honestly, i think you might be looking at this all wrong 🤔; like, communication is key in any relationship, right? i had a similar situation back in high school with a girl who was super affectionate, and at the time, i thought it was overwhelming too... yet, once we sat down and had a real heart-to-heart, things got way better. maybe he's just anxious about losing you, and his attachment style is more of an anxious-preoccupied one? 🤷♂️ it's critical to maintain transparency and establish boundaries, but it's also important to understand where he's coming from emotionally. instead of feeling smothered, try to empathize with his perspective and reassure him in a way that doesn't feel like babysitting. relationships involve a give-and-take dynamic, and sometimes you just gotta find that sweet spot for both of you, you know? i know it's not easy, but sometimes the best thing we can do is to embrace those challenges and grow from them!!!!! if you express that you care in a non-confrontational way, it could work wonders. i remember reading somewhere that "space in a relationship makes the heart grow fonder," so there’s always hope for a balanced connection. 🤗
hey, totally feel ya on this one, it's kinda like you’re stuck in a rom-com but the kind with a plot that gets way too predictable; i gotta say, sometimes dudes just go all-in and forget to pump the brakes a bit, ya know? "absence makes the heart grow fonder" is what they usually say, right, and i think you nail it how you wanna miss him sometimes. it’s chill wanting your own space and totally valid to need that balance, like who doesn't need some time with their squad without being tied down 24/7? 🤷♀️ as you’ve pointed out, relationships should be about maintaining individuality without sacrificing connection, sorta like having your cake and eating it too. it might help if you lay it all out, maybe just have that convo and keep it one hundred, could be the clarity he needs to chill a bit!!! hope things even out for you without it being a big drama fest. ✌️