My boyfriend hit me
The story
OMG, I can’t believe I'm even writing this... So, we had this huge argument yesterday that was like about nothing. Literally, it was over which TV show to watch. 🤯 My boyfriend just blew up and got really aggressive (again!). He actually hit me: it's the second time now. WTF?! Like seriously, who does that? I'm just sitting there stunned and thinking 'is this really happening??' He's usually so sweet but when things don't go his way he flips out. It's hard because I care about him but man, I’m not gonna accept being treated like this anymore. Ugh, there's all these feelings swirling around but one thing is clear: I've got to do something about it.
Honestly y'all, I'm kinda scared and confused at the same time 😩 Trying to imagine a future without him feels bizarre; yet facing a reality where violence becomes a norm isn't an option either. And yeah my mom would say leave... but it's not straightforward...or maybe it is? Why does love have to be so complicated though? Cuz deep down somewhere in me there’s hope he'll change but also a fierce need for self-respect screaming 'get out while you still can!' 😡 Going between feeling mad at myself for trusting him initially then back to missing the good parts of our relationship... my brain is literally on a rollercoaster here! Seriously though (and most importantly) standing up for myself matters more than anything else; I deserve better ✌️
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Leave him now. Like fucking right now!!!
I know, you're right.... :(
I understand this. I remember when my ex boyfriend grabbed my hair and yanked me in front of people, it was both humiliating and mind boggling. When we broke up, I was grieving the relationship and looking back over it. The hardest part, is to see objectively. What objectively happened? We had an argument. He hit me for a second time. And imagine a friend or a family member told you that happened, you’d tell them to leave right? Actions speak louder than words. I could never imagine hurting someone I love. And you wouldn’t hit him right? What gives him the right to? Have a plan to make sure you’re safe though.
girl seriously just dump him! it's not worth it.
man, this sounds super rough. i know you care about him but hitting you is crossing a line that shouldn't even be there. like, it's tough to see someone you love become someone you're scared of. gotta think about yourself first though! i've seen friends go through stuff like this. they thought it would get better but things only changed when they left for good. wishing and hoping isn’t enough to fix something so broken. 😢 just trust your gut on this one, alright? whatever decision you make remember your safety comes first!
you gotta prioritize your safety. i've been there too. didn't get better until i left.
Man, that's really tough. I can't imagine what you're going through right now, and it makes sense to feel conflicted given the situation. It's not easy when someone you care about turns out to have this side to them, especially when you’ve seen their good parts too. But it sounds like you've got your priorities straight: self-respect should definitely come first. Remember that change is hard to predict and hoping he’ll improve might only keep you stuck longer. Take care of yourself; you totally deserve a peaceful relationship with no aggression involved.
look i hear ya tho sometimes its hard right cuz you love them but girl twice he's done this? yikes smh thats not nice u deserve better if ur young HELL im messin typos sorry but u know what i mean think long term
it's really troubling that he resorts to violence when things don't go his way. has he ever tried working on managing his anger? it's clear you recognize this isn't acceptable and you're right; no one should experience this. i understand the emotions are all over the place but focusing on your safety is crucial. do you have a trusted friend or family member you can talk to about this?
I've seen situations like this unfold with friends of mine before, and it's tough. It reminds me of a friend who went through a similar situation with her boyfriend. They had amazing times together, but once the aggression crept in, it never fully went away; she thought if they focused on the good moments more, it would all balance out. But that's not how it works; you can't overlook violence hoping it'll resolve itself. Your welfare is non-negotiable—nothing matters as much as being safe! 😡
i remember once when i was younger having a similar situation except mine didn't escalate thank goodness...but seeing others say leave maybe reflects truth in harsh decisions?
wow, that's some serious red flag territory right there. 😳 it’s crazy how arguments over trivial stuff can escalate to something so intense. maybe time to consider if the sweet times are truly worth the risk of violence; like, you deserve someone who respects you even when things aren’t perfect. facing that reality is tough but sometimes stepping back gives clarity on what’s non-negotiable in a relationship. wishing you strength to make those tough calls. ✊
Don't make excuses and leave him!!
It's really painful to hear that you're going through this situation. while love sometimes blinds us to serious issues, it's crucial to acknowledge when lines are crossed. i once had a similar experience with someone who seemed great until things got tense; i thought they'd change, but every incident just chipped away at my confidence and peace of mind. it made me realize how important it is to listen to the warning signs earlier on. you deserve a relationship where you feel safe, valued, and respected. try reflecting on what truly makes you happy and secure; maybe writing down your thoughts can help clarify things. whatever path you choose, trust that your well-being should always be the priority!!!
sure ending things over small issues might suck abut right now big is what shared meaning finding peace again soon takes stepping back first ok may he's initially charming true characteristics last remain careful!
Take care of yourself, above all.
wow, that's a real whirlwind you're in... feelings all tangled up can make it tough to figure things out. but twice? he actually hit you over watching tv??!! that's just not ok no matter how sweet he might be otherwise. reminds me kinda when i convinced myself someone would change, only to end up disappointed 🙄 still, there’s gotta be a lot of heartache thinking about leaving or facing what comes next alone. don't forget you deserve safety and peace more than anything else.
one time when i was dating this guy, we had crazy arguments over small things too.
'he'd probably tell you he loves ya next moment...doesn't sound right tho! rethink priorities asap!
perhaps it's worth contemplating this conundrum from the perspective of conflict resolution dynamics in relationships; have you considered exploring and pinpointing specific triggers that tend to escalate situations?
Dang, your story reminds me of when my cousin got wrapped up with someone like that; sweet on the outside but a total landmine sometimes. It's wild how arguments over trivial things can show someone's true colors. 🤔 You gotta ask yourself if you're willing to put up with this behavior long-term. Change is possible but not guaranteed, and it shouldn't come at the cost of your safety or sanity; trust your gut feeling... it's there for a reason!
seriously isn't staying after serious aggresion proving new boundaries needed? what's making holding back?