scared of sex

hey, totally get where you're coming from. it's kinda annoying how society puts all this pressure on guys to just "know" these things like magic. but honestly, everyone's journey is different. if she's cool with it, then maybe just focus on being comfortable and true to yourself instead of trying to catch up to some imaginary standard.

have you talked to her about how you're feeling exactly?

hmmm... maybe overthinking isn't helping much here.

i don't get why you're making such a fuss about this honestly. people have different experiences and there's no rush.

Have you considered that your nerves might be building up because you're putting too much pressure on yourself? Sometimes communication can alleviate fears.

honestly? i kinda get where you're coming from, but maybe there's another way to look at it; like yeah, society puts pressure on guys to know stuff about sex right away, but who even set those rules anyway, you know? just because she's had more experience doesn't automatically mean she's a sexual oracle or something. maybe chat with her about how she can support your learning process instead of making allusions to some nonexistent "sex syllabus." and sure, the first time is a bit scary for most people regardless of age or gender... it's not some unattainable skill that only seasoned veterans can master 😉. remember too, everyone has their awkward moments in life and this one's just part of your journey.

dude, you're seriously not alone in feeling like this?? there's this ridiculous pressure to perform like a pro right from the start. but honestly, who even set these rules that dudes need to be experts before they've ever done anything? it's kind of refreshing that you've got someone who's cool with your situation though. maybe just tune out the noise and focus on your own pace instead of stressing over some imaginary scoreboard... keep those convos going with her, you might find each other's experiences can teach you both something new!

It's understandable to feel that pressure, especially when societal norms make it seem like everyone else has this secret knowledge but maybe it's about what works for the two of you rather than what's considered standard.

dude trust me, been there done that kind of situation. i was in a similar spot with my ex who was experienced while I wasn't. we giggled our way through the awkwardness!

dude, i totally get the pressure and insecurity, but maybe flip the script and see it as a unique experience you two can share together!

dude, i totally feel ya! society's got this ridiculous checklist of stuff we’re supposed to have done by certain ages and it's so dumb, honestly;; who decided these timelines anyway??? being a virgin at 19 is no big deal, man. i was in the same boat not too long ago; just be yourself and take things at your own pace. i mean, if she's cool with it, then why stress over what anyone else thinks? trust me, when the time's right for you, it'll happen naturally. till then don't sweat it too much!

I understand that you feel pressured and anxious about this but remember everyone has their first time eventually. Just ensure both of you are comfortable.

dude, i totally get where you're coming from. that expectation is a heavy load to carry and society isn't doing any favors with its ridiculous standards. it's like we're supposed to be born with some mythical understanding of all things intimate. but hey, being a virgin at 19 is no biggie in the grand scheme of life... everyone's clock runs differently. when i was around your age, i felt like i was stuck in first gear while everyone else was zipping by on turbo mode too. but you know what? it taught me to rethink what "normal" really means cause honestly, there's no one-size-fits-all here. just take things at your own pace, man, and keep those lines of communication open with her cause that's worth way more than trying to fit into someone else's mold 😅

why worry so much man? It's not like they'll hand you an award for being seasoned!

What do you think will change once you've had sex?

kinda sounds like you've built some massive wall between reality n expectations... odd indeed.