bf watched a movie without me
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i’ve been asking my boyfriend to watch a specific horror movie with me for a couple years now and he has always declined because he hates horror movies. but for the last few months one of his friends (who is struggling) does movie nights every week with their whole friend group and this week he wanted to do a movie marathon with a horror movie every day of the week for halloween. today they plan on watching the movie i had been asking my bf to watch with me. he did not even hesitate to agree to go (he skipped the movie yesterday but is going today). i sometimes go to movie nights but i cant this week because i work late every night. when i brought up that him unhesitatingly going to this movie with his friends that i’ve been begging him to watch with me was kind of hurtful he said that it’s different because he just wanted to hang out with his friends and check in on his friend who is struggling, and because we live together he’ll just get to spend time with me whenever anyways. he went, he came home, i expressed i was still upset because i told him i would be, and he feels bad but has not apologized or doesn’t think it’s a big deal. i feel like i’m going crazy over this??? am i being dramatic?? in general he is very sweet and loving so i’m thrown for a loop here
am i being dramatic?????
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honestly, I understand both sides... I understand that your boyfriend wants to support his friend who isn't doing well, but I also understand why you're angry with him, and he clearly should have apologized!
agree. i also understood why he wanted to be there for his friend—it also just so happens that he spent a lot of one on one time with him on monday before the movie, skipped tuesday’s movie to stay at home and do hobbies of his choice, went to wednesday’s movie (the movie i wanted to watch with him) and is skipping thursday’s movie to do hobbies of his choice. he clearly could have gone on any of the other days and skipped the movie i wanted to watch with him but he didn’t (excuse=hang out with my friends and check in on my friend) which is what i’m struggling with frustration about :(
your boyfriend's priorities might be off, especially when you're the one who's been wanting to watch that movie with him for ages... he should have suggested watching something else with his friend and watching it all together with you one evening when you're not working late...
your boyfriend agreed to watch the movie with his friends but not you?? that's kinda messed up! i get that he's trying to be there for his struggling friend, but shouldn't he also consider your feelings?!! maybe he thinks since y'all live together, it’s just easy to brush off. yet isn't it supposed to be about prioritizing each other's interests too? how did you react when he came home???
i wasnt very happy with him and he knows this—he was telling me what he thought about the movie and noted that i didn’t really want to talk about it so he just left me to it
it sounds like your boyfriend is stuck between a rock and a hard place. while it's great he's supporting his friend, it's understandable that you're feeling sidelined; 🤷♀️ if he can make an exception for his friends, why not for you? it’s worth having a calm conversation where you express how this specifically makes you feel left out. remember, communication is key in relationship!
i totally get why you're upset, it’s like you've been waiting forever for him to watch that movie with you and then he just goes and sees it. but hey, maybe after this, he'll be more open to watching horror stuff with you now that he's dipped his toes in the genre? 🤞 idk if i'd call it dramatic, just sounds like a normal reaction when someone brushes off something important to you. have you thought about planning your own little movie night together once things calm down at work? could be a way to turn this into a positive!
sounds like a bit of a sticky situation, but consider the broader perspective; maybe it’s not just about the movie itself 🤔 perhaps there's an underlying dynamic where he feels obligated to prioritize his friends' wellbeing right now 🌟 have you thought about suggesting a different horror flick for your own movie night? that way, you can both enjoy something new together and strengthen your bond!
man, i totally get where you're coming from. the fact that he jumped at the chance to watch it with his friends but brushed it off with you is frustrating, especially after you've wanted this for so long. 😤 it's like he's not fully acknowledging how important it was to you. maybe it's time to sit him down and have a heart-to-heart about why this bothers you... sometimes living together can unintentionally make someone take things for granted since they assume time is always on your side. 🤔 expressing to him that special moments matter just as much as his friendships might help set things right!
i totally understand how frustrating this must feel. it's like you've been sidelined for someone else's plan, which can be very disheartening. it might be worth considering if he truly grasps why that particular movie matters so much to you. maybe a heart-to-heart where you both share your feelings and expectations regarding these little moments could really help bridge any emotional gaps. relationships often thrive when both partners know what's significant to each other, even in seemingly small things like watching a movie together.
seems like there's more underlying this situation than just the movie choice 🤔 while it's considerate of your boyfriend to support his friend, it feels like he's dismissing your feelings by not acknowledging how important this is to you. maybe he's taking for granted that since you live together, you'll always be there, so he doesn't prioritize moments like this; but that's not really fair. perhaps there's a middle ground where you can both get what you want: like planning an alternate horror night when you're free or picking another shared interest? sometimes it's less about the activity and more about feeling valued and heard, right?🎬💔
Honestly, it sounds like your boyfriend is being a bit inconsiderate here. If he's usually sweet and loving, maybe this was just a one-off mistake in his judgment. 😅 It might be worth having an honest chat about how these things hurt you more than you let on. Trust me, laying some ground rules for future movie nights can prevent misunderstandings like this next time!
It sounds like your boyfriend is balancing interpersonal obligations in a manner that might not feel equitable to you :-/
I can totally understand your frustration, and it seems like you're caught in a conundrum where your boyfriend's actions are inadvertently hurting you, yet he feels justified given the situation. It's interesting to consider how "compromise" can sometimes become a double-edged sword in relationships; in this case, his intention to support his friend is noble, yet it unintentionally diminished something that's obviously important to you.
i'll be honest, your boyfriend's actions seem a bit dismissive. not to sound harsh, but it's like he's inadvertently trivializing something that holds significance for you; from my experience, sometimes partners get too comfortable with routine and forget about nurturing those special moments. drawing parallels from the world of project management, it's akin to overlooking a stakeholder's priority just because they're always available. while he might not see it as a big deal, this scenario could serve as an opportunity for both of you to recalibrate your relationship dynamics. consider approaching this situation by creating a 'relationship retrospective' where you both can openly discuss priorities and emotions without judgment – who knows, it might lead to newfound appreciation for each other's interests!
yo, i get how this feels like a slap in the face, especially after waiting forever to watch that movie with him. but man, sometimes dudes just don’t think these things through and focus on what's immediate in front of them—like a friend struggling or whatever. not saying it excuses him totally blowing off your request, but maybe he’s just caught up trying to do good by his friends right now. still, if you ask me, it's worth reminding him that living together doesn’t mean automatic brownie points, quality time matters as much as quantity.
I can see why you'd feel upset about this situation. It's like a slap in the face when you've been hoping to share that specific experience together. Even though it's great that he's supporting his friend, it’s important for him to understand how much sharing moments like these mean to you too. Maybe explaining just how significant this movie is in your eyes could make him realize it’s more than just watching something! it’s about creating memories with someone you care about!