Experienced betrayal

hey, I totally get where you're coming from, and I'm so sorry you had to go through that. it's rough when you feel like you give your best to someone who just doesn't care back. I've been there too, and it's like you start thinking "is anyone really worth it?" sometimes, people do seem heartless; it's like, how can you trust when you’ve been let down so many times?

you mentioned wondering if you'll be normal or find the right person again, and honestly, it's a question that hits home for a lot of us. after my last messy breakup, I spent a lot of time questioning myself too, like why can't I just be happy on my own? but someone told me once, "love isn’t about losing yourself; it’s about finding someone who complements the real you," and that kind of stuck with me. 🤔

on the hating-yourself part, I think it's important to remember that it's okay to feel broken sometimes, but it doesn't mean you’re any less valuable. there's this thing in therapy called self-kindness where you learn to be more patient with yourself, even when the world seems against you. when you say it’d be wonderful to live all by yourself, I can't help but think that a good balance is the goal: learning to be okay alone, but still open to the idea of finding the right connection when you're ready.

anyway, hang in there. I believe these hard experiences teach us something, even if it’s just knowing what to avoid next time. don't lose hope, even when it feels like the world is full of heartless people. there’s still good out there, waiting to be found. 😊

sounds like you've been through a lot and it's understandable to lose faith in love. feeling wasted after giving your best to someone who doesn't care is a common emotional response. relationships should be reciprocal, not one-sided.

you say you hate yourself for not being able to live alone. that's a harsh self-assessment; human nature often seeks companionship and connection. the idea that people are heartless isn't entirely accurate. everyone has their own struggles that might not align with empathy.

the notion of living alone and finding it wonderful is an attractive idea but is not feasible for everyone; “no man is an island” is a phrase that comes to mind. love is complex and often conditional on mutual effort. one bad experience shouldn’t dictate your perspective on humanity.

reflect and try to understand these feelings, but don’t let them consume you. many people have been in your shoes and have found a way forward. keep your options open and your heart guarded. 🌱

hey, I get that you’ve been through a lot, and it must have been really tough going through those betrayals. but honestly, I'm not sure if it's fair to say that people are heartless and don’t deserve love. I mean, everyone's got their baggage, right? sometimes things just don't work out, and it's not always about someone being cold or uncaring.

I totally understand feeling wasted after giving your best, but maybe it's worth considering that these experiences help us grow and learn about ourselves, even if it doesn’t feel that way now. having doubts and questioning yourself is part of healing, but hating yourself for wanting connection is a bit harsh. we'd all love to be completely self-reliant, but humans are social creatures, and that's okay.

I think there’s a middle ground; it's okay to take a step back from love and focus on yourself for a bit. not everyone is out to break hearts, even if it might feel like that right now. finding the right person might take time, but closing yourself off completely could mean missing out on some genuine connections. sometimes keeping a bit of hope makes all the difference…

man, I get that you've had some rough experiences, but declaring that people are heartless is a bit too much, you know?!! everyone’s been hurt; it’s part of dealing with relationships, sadly. I remember thinking the same after my last breakup, but eventually, I realized that not every person is out to screw you over.

you're saying giving your best feels wasted; I get that feeling. but maybe it's about learning who’s actually deserving of your effort. every failed relationship is a lesson, even if it sucks at the moment!!!

hating yourself because you can't live alone seems extreme. sure, independence is great, but humans are wired for connection. it’s not a flaw to want people in your life. yeah, finding the right person isn’t easy, but shutting down and thinking everyone’s terrible is pretty defeating. “once bitten, twice shy” is one thing; giving up entirely is another.

trust and love are complicated, sure, but don’t let a few bad experiences make you throw in the towel. keep a bit of hope alive, even when it's hard!!!