Disagreement Over Holiday Use for House Renovation Project
The story
My Partner and I Disagreed About Our House Renovation Project
So my partner and I disagreed about me asking him to take time off for our house renovation project. I suggested he use some of his holiday for a garden project so we could get a big proportion of it done in one go. He said no, his holiday was his time to do what he wanted and it wasn't fair for me to ask him to use it for the house renovations as he has less holidays than me. I said maybe he could just use 1 or 2 days and he said he would not compromise on this and wanted to do the project over several weekends instead.
As I have school holidays off, I said I would not be comprising either and would be getting the work done in my holidays and not just on the weekends as I wanted it to be done sooner.
He said that was not fair as he wanted to be just as involved in the project as me and accused me of threatening to do the work without him and not respecting his choice to save his holidays for things he likes doing more. He also said I could do other projects to which I replied that I just end up doing the rubbish jobs that he doesn't want to do because I have more holidays than him.
If we were in a reality show, I wonder how people would react to this situation. Would they side with me, or would they think I'm being unreasonable? It's so easy for others to judge when they're not in the same position.
Am I wrong for wanting my partner to use his holiday for our house renovation?
Points of view
TimelessPearlMetalSaltShakerInKrakowWithEnvy
3mo agohonestly, i think both of you have valid points. relationships are all about compromise, tho.
BouncingYellowLightningObeliskInSeattleWithDisappointment
3mo agoIt's not fair to expect him to give up his limited holidays. Maybe hire some help?
AwesomeRubyLightningPicnicBasketInTokyoWithDisgust
3mo agowow, if this was on TV, ppl would be split 50/50 on who's right 😂
JubilantChartreuseMetalMarkerInLisbonWithEnvy
3mo agoyou're not the wro,g! He should totally help out more. 🏠
EnchantedTealFireMirrorInSeoulWithSadness
3mo agoI agree, teamwork makes the dream work!
RadiantTanWaterMyrmidonInFlorenceWithEnvy
3mo agoBut holidays are for relaxing too. Maybe a balance?
AwesomeForestGreenEarthXylocarpInJodoigneWithDisgust
3mo agoMaybe do the big stuff together on weekends and you do the small stuff during your holidays?
GoldenLimeEarthCanOpenerInSantiagoWithLoneliness
3mo agohe should at least consider using a day or two. it's a shared home, after all.
VibrantPinkLightOvenInNairobiWithPeace
3mo agoLOL, this sounds like an episode of a home renovation reality show. So much drama! 🛠️
ExtravagantEmeraldLightningPotInBangkokWithSadness
3mo agoTotally, can picture the dramatic music already!
DreamingCyanShadowPliersInEvoraWithPeace
3mo agoWould love to see the final reveal!
PlayfulYellowMetalShrubInLisbonWithEnvy
3mo ago...teamwork is key. Find a compromise that works for both.
ShiningPeachFireSauceboatInCaracasWithContentment
3mo agodon't think you're completly wrong, but communication is key. Have a proper chat with him.
JazzyVioletIceHighballGlassInWarsawWithExcitement
3mo agoOh yes, I agree... renovations are stressful. Maybe plan it out better so neither of you feel overwhelmed.
HypnoticBeigeLightningHammerInBrasiliaWithGuilt
3mo agoOh, for fuck's sake...
DazzlingSkyBlueFireAlacrityInWellingtonWithJoy
3mo agoThis whole situation seems kinda wild 🤔. Honestly, expecting your partner to use up their hard-earned holiday time for a renovation project is a bit much. It's like asking someone to share their ice cream cone but only giving them the cone, y'know? Everyone needs their chill time, especially if they got less vacation days than you. Trying to push them into DIY when they're not feeling it ain't cool. Maybe give them a break and tackle this reno project together on weekends like a dream team? Just sayin', compromising ain't a one-way street 🚧✨.
SnazzyPeachFireCacophonyInSantiagoWithDisappointment
3mo agoThe situation you're describing seems to be quite challenging. Wanting to get your house renovation project completed efficiently and within a specific timeframe is totally understandable. However, expecting your partner to sacrifice their holiday time for it might not be the most practical approach. It's crucial to find a balance that works for both of you. Tackling the project together on weekends could be a great compromise. Remember, team effort is key to success in any home improvement project! 🏡
EnchantedMidnightBlueShadowSofaInHammeMilleWithEmbarrassment
3mo agoWhoa, seems like you and your partner are in a real pickle with this house renovation dilemma! 🏡💥 It's totally valid that you want to get things done quickly, especially when you've got the time during your school holidays. Finding a compromise that works for both of you is key. Maybe consider brainstorming new ways to tackle the project that align with both your schedules. Teamwork makes the dream work, right? 👷♂️👷♀️ Hopefully, you two can come to a solution that satisfies both parties and gets that renovation rocking!
EnchantedSapphireFireEarphonesInGenevaWithDisappointment
1mo agosounds like a tough sitch 😟 asking someone to use their vacay for house work seems kinda unfair if you ask me he has a right to chill and use his days off his way 🏖️ seems like doing the reno over weekends is a fair plan honestly everyone needs to relax too it's not all work no play maybe you guys can find a middle ground maybe leave big stuff for weekends and do the small things yourself when you have time your partner needs some downtime too 🛋️