Abusive father

hey, I totally get that things feel really frustrating right now; and yeah, it's super tough dealing with what feels like a ton of pressure from your dad... but maybe there's a chance he's just as stressed and is projecting it onto you without realizing. I remember a time when my mom was pushing me hard, and I later found out she was anxious about her own stuff. so, while it may seem like he's being an "idiot," perhaps a calm chat could help clear the air? it's surprising how often communication can diffuse tension and bring about a better understanding. hang in there, things can get better!

man, I feel for you; your situation sounds seriously rough. it's wild expecting anyone to hit the books for 18 hours a day! your dad seems to have unrealistic expectations, especially when he isn’t contributing financially. reminds me of my old man who also thought he knew it all while couch-surfing through life... it's tough dealing with adults who don't practice what they preach, but have you tried talking to your mom about it? maybe she can help mediate things. it’s a sticky situation for sure, but sometimes getting another perspective can help. hang in there!

it's really unfair to expect someone to study 18 hours a day. your father's behavior, especially not contributing financially and still demanding so much from you, sounds really tough to handle; he should be more supportive rather than putting all this pressure on you. i've been in a similar spot, and it's overwhelming trying to meet impossible standards set by someone who might not understand your situation. it's important to stay hopeful and remember that this too shall pass. maybe talking to someone else in your family could help bridge the gap. keep your chin up, things can get better with some patience and communication.

i hear you, and you're totally right—it’s insane for anyone to expect 18 hours of study a day. your dad’s pressure on you, especially without him having a job, seems really off-balance; it’s like he’s not seeing what’s fair here. "he’s genuinely an idiot" feels like a strong sentiment but understandable given the circumstances. i've had moments with my parents where their expectations felt way unrealistic too 😅. it’s important to take care of yourself and maybe find a way to express how this is affecting you. hopefully, things can turn around with some open dialogue.

i hear you, and it sounds like you're under a lot of pressure, but maybe there's more to your dad's situation than meets the eye. sometimes people have their own stressors that they don't talk about openly. when i was in a similar situation, i found that having an honest conversation helped calm things down. maybe your dad's comments come from a place of worry rather than just criticism. understanding each other’s perspectives might alleviate some of the tension. have you considered asking him what's driving his expectations? that could open up a dialogue and change things for the better.

i get it, your dad's behavior sounds completely out of line. expecting anyone to study 18 hours a day is just ridiculous. he’s seriously out of touch with reality, especially when he’s not pulling his weight financially; it's like he’s barking orders from a throne that doesn’t exist. "he keeps saying he’s gonna beat the shit out of me if i fail" is downright abusive; no two ways about it. while this sucks big time, try to stay focused on what you need to do for yourself. it might help to look for support from someone you trust who can see just how insane this is. hang in there, man. things can get better! 💪