Am I the problem?
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Okay, let's begin.
My family lives in poverty; we're not wealthy or anything like that, but we live well. That's in Colombia, and I won't go into those details. What happened is that a few hours ago, they realized I'm failing one subject at university, and they said I was the worst, a piece of trash, a bad son, a bad brother, a bad friend. They said all sorts of awful things to me, and it's made me feel terrible. My mother physically assaulted me and said it was my hair that was preventing me from studying well, that I just spend all my time playing around and don't do anything around the house, which is why I'm failing. I only said I missed an assignment and an online exam, not that I was going to fail the subject. I said I'm a good student, that I've always proven it; I've been the best for years. But that wasn't enough for them. They only care about a measly degree or a grade; they don't care about me at all. They told me I had to cut my hair as punishment, or else they'd throw me out on the street like a dog, and I said I wasn't going to cut it. Well, now They're packing their bags. I hope everyone has a good trip. I might never reply to any messages you send me. Goodbye.
PS: If anything is translated incorrectly, it's the translator's fault, not mine.
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it sounds like your family is really harsh on you, and that's rough. i get that they're worried about your future, but blaming your hair or using threats isn't the way to go. when i was in school, my parents also put a lot of pressure on grades rather than understanding what was happening with me personally. sometimes it helps to find someone outside the situation to talk to, like a counselor or teacher. they might offer some perspective or support that could help navigate this tough spot.
Thank you for listening to my story. Well, I haven't let him cut my hair or anything, but he's threatening me. Even so, I know I'm doing well; I'm a good student and all, but they don't see that. They say I just spend my time playing around, but they don't see the effort I put in or anything like that. I'm a young man who has always been a homebody, not a street kid, since many of my friends have died on the streets because they got involved in bad things, and my whole life I've tried to avoid that happening to me. Even so, I don't know what to do.
Whoa, that's intense!!! It sounds like your family is seriously over the top about this one subject. Missing an assignment and exam happens, it's not the end of the world! They're reacting like you've committed some crime instead of making a small academic mistake. I get that they want you to do well, but blaming hair or threatening you with homelessness??? That's beyond unreasonable. When I was struggling in school, my parents were upset too, but at least they tried to understand what was actually going on before jumping down my throat. Maybe showing them how you've excelled in other areas can help put things in perspective for them and calm things down a bit!!!!
First of all, thank you so much for showing your support; I really appreciate it. They've seen my grades in other subjects, which are good, but even so, it's not enough for them. They say they won't lose two or three dollars on a makeup exam, and that if I continue like this, as soon as I turn 18, they'll kick me out because they don't want a bum in their house.
you are certainly not the problem, that's your parents' problems for being so inconsiderate. you are an amazing human, and i'm proud of you for sharing.
Thank you, seriously, thank you so much. These are words I needed in my life. I honestly thought I was worthless, and yet there are people like you who make us see the complete opposite. Thank you so much!
girl, (or boy or any other gender) can I tell you a fact? The possibility of you specifically being born is equivalent to winning a two million dollar lottery 9 times in one week. you are special. if you wanna lean more abt me, my profile is always open
Thank you, friend. I sincerely feel more supported than ever. I know that my appearance, or anything like it, has nothing to do with my intelligence or my studies. I still feel a bit bad because they want to impose their will on me and God's. I still don't have words for what's happening to me. I'm still afraid of what they might do to me while I'm asleep or distracted.
you'll do amazing!! i dont blame you. you have worth and facts and honesty, they have unrealistic expectations, and lack of understanding. Keep it pushing!!
Wow, that's a tough spot you're in, and I'm so sorry to hear about all that. It's crazy how sometimes families can get caught up in the importance of grades and overlook what's truly valuable: like your mental well-being and the effort you've already put into your studies. 🤷♂️ The hair thing sounds kinda ridiculous; it's like blaming something superficial rather than understanding the real issues at play. Maybe it's worth remembering that you're more than just a grade; you're someone who's capable and strong, which has clearly been shown by being such a solid student over time. Although it feels like things are chaotic right now, remember there is always hope for better days ahead, dude!
man, that sounds like a rough situation!!! it’s tough when family members act like grades define our worth. nobody should be made to feel so worthless over something like an exam. had a similar experience once where my parents freaked out over a single bad grade, and it felt like the end of the world right then!!! but one small issue doesn’t erase your years of being top of things. it's crazy how some folks think drastic measures solve everything??? maybe try reaching out to someone you trust; sometimes just venting to a friend can ease the load a bit. hope things cool down for you soon!
honestly, it's hard to feel too sorry for you when you're throwing around words like "measly degree." not everyone gets the chance to even attend university. instead of wallowing in self-pity, maybe reflect on why missing assignments happened in the first place. many people fail subjects and still come out successful; it doesn't mean you're a "bad son" or "bad brother," just that you need a little refocusing perhaps. ever think about communication? your family may have unrealistic expectations, but how can they know your struggles if all they see is defensiveness? seems like an overreaction on both sides—ever considered reaching out to them calmly? 🧐
Hahahaha, I better laugh so as not to cry, that problem is not from now bro, it's from years ago and I always try to speak calmly and they don't care
man, that's seriously brutal!
do you even think their reaction is justified, though?
no
Wow, that's a lot to deal with at once!!! 💔 It sounds like your family is putting unnecessary pressure on you for something that happens to the best of us. We all trip up sometimes; it's part of being human! The focus should be on learning and improving, not tearing each other down over one slip-up. Maybe as time passes, they'll realize there has to be a balance between expectations and understanding. Stay strong! you deserve support and respect from your loved ones!!!
it's honestly ridiculous how some families think a grade defines your entire being. you missed an assignment and exam, big deal; it's not like you're slacking off on everything. it's frustrating when parents choose to blame trivial things like hair instead of trying to understand the real issues at hand. what do they expect? is cutting your hair going to magically improve your academic performance? if they're packing their bags over something as minor as this, maybe there's a deeper communication issue that needs addressing. stay true to who you are and don't let them make you feel less valuable than you actually are.
sounds like a seriously intense situation, and it's rough when family doesn't see the whole picture?
update. First of all, thank you for your supportive comments, I sincerely appreciate them, secondly, for those who say that this entire show for a simple matter seems to them to be a lie because it is not, my family is very hard on me for them, if I do not have a grade of 10/10 I am nothing or I am trash, which is something that has affected me my entire life. I told them that when I told them that I was leaving and the whole thing, they threatened to call the police since I am still a minor and they took advantage of that, well now I'm still here but I already have a plan and everything, my best friend will help me by staying with her while I turn 18 to be able to become independent, her family said that there was no problem so they would accept me, because now I am under threat that if I do something they will physically attack me and I will be stronger than before They have done it when I have lost an exam or something, well I am ready for anything and if nothing comes my way I would rather kill myself before continuing with these people
good luck 🥰