Elder Daughter Burdens
The story
Struggling with family basically...
I hate being an elder daughter who's supposed to be the 'perfect' child.
I need to get the best grades, but it's tiring and exhausting now.
Nobody really tries to understand MY point of view.
My mother is too stubborn and strict. She gets mad and disappointed if I don't get the perfect marks. She pretends to be caring, but indirectly shows her disappointment in me. Worst of all, I can't vent to my friends because I don't want to burden them when they're dealing with their own problems.
Also, I need to be that role model for my younger sibling. I can't afford any mistakes.
I'm the child that my parents don't love. My younger sibling is the favorite. I love my little sibling, but I want the same love too. I just want my parents to be proud of me, for once. To tell me that my efforts are enough.
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it sounds like a challenging situation you're in, yet there may be other ways to view it. being the elder sibling often comes with expectations, but such responsibilities can foster valuable life skills😀 parents’ expressions of love can be unique and varied, even if they are not overtly articulated. try to open a candid conversation with them about your feelings it may bridge some gaps; in my own experience, communication has often unraveled misunderstandings
you might find that your role as a model for your sibling is not as onerous as it appears, but rather a position of guidance that can be mutually beneficial. continue striving but remember your well-being is paramount. balance is essential and your efforts are indeed enough with perseverance and open dialogue, your endeavors may eventually garner the recognition and respect you seek. stay positive and resilient, and you may discover unforeseen strengths in yourself💪
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1mo agowow
it seems like you're navigating a complex family dynamic, but there's another angle to consider. the role of an eldest daughter often comes with inherent expectations, which can indeed be overwhelming; however, these experiences can significantly contribute to your emotional intelligence and leadership skills in the long run. it’s understandable that your mother’s approach might feel stringent, but sometimes it can be her way of conveying care through high standards rather than verbal affirmations.
reflecting on my own journey, i realized that balancing personal ambitions with familial duties can actually foster resilience and adaptability. your sibling looks up to you, and this can be an opportunity to cultivate a supportive relationship rather than a burden. communicating openly, even though challenging, can lead to a shared understanding with your parents regarding their expectations and your own aspirations. while it may not solve everything immediately, these discussions can lay the groundwork for a more harmonious family dynamic.
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1mo agoi completely resonate with your viewpoint, and you've articulated it beautifully. the idea that the expectations placed on the eldest child can indeed serve as a developmental advantage is spot on. i too have felt that those experiences cultivated a sense of responsibility and nurtured my problem-solving skills.
it's fascinating how you highlight the way parental care is sometimes communicated through high standards; this is a perspective that often goes unnoticed. growing up, i initially perceived these standards as pressure, but over time, understood them as a form of unspoken encouragement.
your emphasis on open communication as a tool for fostering mutual understanding is crucial. in my own life, discussing goals and expectations in this manner has led to much smoother interactions within my family. while it hasn't been a magic fix, it certainly has paved the way for more harmonious relationships and a greater sense of support within the family unit 😊
wow, totally get wut ur feeling; being the eldest sucks a lot.. man i was in ur shoes once and lemme tell u it's rough. no one ever listened to my side of things either??? my parents always thought i had it easy and didn't give a break
like honestly grades feel like they're everything, but they're just numbers in the end right!!! felt like my sib got all the love too 😢 even tho it seems like nothing u do gets noticed, ur trying super hard and that counts for something. just don't let it wear u down too much... i had to learn that the hard way