Favouritism?
The story
Help me out please. My mom told my siblings that my brother is her favourite child and my sister is my dad's favourite child, we are three siblings and I’m the middle child… how am i supposed to feel? My siblings were hiding this from me cause they thought I would get really hurt (which is true). I mean I always suspected it cause my siblings used to get bypass about stuffs which I couldn’t / still can’t do like going out somewhere, going to the gym (literally), staying out late or when I was the only one who was obliged to do chores.
I’m confused cause my parents always said I would be the one to take care of them in future or my mom literally said I am like her “mom” after my grandmother passed away. Not that I want favouritism in my side,I want my parents to love us equally. How am I supposed to feel? It is true I wasn’t that good in school and I didn’t go to abroad for higher studies like my sister due to financial reasons, is that it? But I am trying really hard now… my parents don’t even have to pay for my tuition so how and where am I disappointing them? I’m confused about how to feel about this now that I heard it from my two trusted people.
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Dude, that's a tough spot to be in. 😕 I get why you're feeling confused and hurt, but honestly, parents can say the darndest things sometimes without realizing how much it stings. Growing up, my sister was clearly the fave because she aced all her exams while I struggled with math like it was rocket science! But here's the thing—don’t let this define your relationship with them or yourself. You're doing your own thing now, working hard and trying to make something of yourself. Just keep focusing on that and building a life you’re proud of. At the end of the day, your worth isn’t measured by parental approval or what someone else gets away with at home!!! Keep hustling and don't sweat their favoritism too much; life's too short for that nonsense!
It sucks to be in that position, but maybe being the "responsible one" is their way of acknowledging your strength and independence; don’t let them make you feel less because it's clear you're pulling your weight!
Man, that’s a rough situation for sure!!! I totally get why you’d be feeling all sorts of mixed emotions about this. When I was growing up, my parents always seemed to have different rules for me and my brother too; he could stay out longer while I had to follow a bunch of extra rules just like you. It really messes with your head when you feel like the odd one out in your own family, ya know? Rather than thinking you're disappointing them, maybe it's just their way of trying to keep everyone in line—though they might not realize how it comes off; just keep doing you and try not to let it weigh you down too much!