Favouritism?
The story
Help me out please. My mom told my siblings that my brother is her favourite child and my sister is my dad's favourite child, we are three siblings and I’m the middle child… how am i supposed to feel? My siblings were hiding this from me cause they thought I would get really hurt (which is true). I mean I always suspected it cause my siblings used to get bypass about stuffs which I couldn’t / still can’t do like going out somewhere, going to the gym (literally), staying out late or when I was the only one who was obliged to do chores.
I’m confused cause my parents always said I would be the one to take care of them in future or my mom literally said I am like her “mom” after my grandmother passed away. Not that I want favouritism in my side,I want my parents to love us equally. How am I supposed to feel? It is true I wasn’t that good in school and I didn’t go to abroad for higher studies like my sister due to financial reasons, is that it? But I am trying really hard now… my parents don’t even have to pay for my tuition so how and where am I disappointing them? I’m confused about how to feel about this now that I heard it from my two trusted people.
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Dude, that's a tough spot to be in. 😕 I get why you're feeling confused and hurt, but honestly, parents can say the darndest things sometimes without realizing how much it stings. Growing up, my sister was clearly the fave because she aced all her exams while I struggled with math like it was rocket science! But here's the thing—don’t let this define your relationship with them or yourself. You're doing your own thing now, working hard and trying to make something of yourself. Just keep focusing on that and building a life you’re proud of. At the end of the day, your worth isn’t measured by parental approval or what someone else gets away with at home!!! Keep hustling and don't sweat their favoritism too much; life's too short for that nonsense!
It sucks to be in that position, but maybe being the "responsible one" is their way of acknowledging your strength and independence; don’t let them make you feel less because it's clear you're pulling your weight!
Man, that’s a rough situation for sure!!! I totally get why you’d be feeling all sorts of mixed emotions about this. When I was growing up, my parents always seemed to have different rules for me and my brother too; he could stay out longer while I had to follow a bunch of extra rules just like you. It really messes with your head when you feel like the odd one out in your own family, ya know? Rather than thinking you're disappointing them, maybe it's just their way of trying to keep everyone in line—though they might not realize how it comes off; just keep doing you and try not to let it weigh you down too much!
That's a bit fucked up. Parents should love their kids equally, you aren't weird for feeling this way. I don't think you're disappointing them, I think parents are just weird sometimes. Have you asked or confronted them about it and how it makes you feel? I feel like there should be a discussion.
Honestly, it sounds like your parents are using you as their crutch while playing favorites with the others. It's BS tbh 🤷♂️. They want you to be responsible yet don't give you any credit or benefits? That's not fair at all. Stop worrying about their approval—focus on making yourself happy and living life on your own terms!
yo, i hear ya. sounds like a messed up situation but maybe you're reading too much into it; sometimes parents just say dumb stuff without thinking. it's not always about competition or being the favorite, you know? my folks used to play these weird games too, praising one sibling for something while ignoring the other entirely; really made me feel like i was running in circles trying to be noticed. honestly, don't let this get under your skin because you're clearly busting your butt and doing your own thing—just don’t lose sight of your goals and where you want to go in life! keep hustling and remember that real family is more than labels or who gets easier rules, it's the love and support you choose to give each other ✌️
sounds like you're in a bit of a sticky wicket, huh? 😅 honestly, these family dynamics can be as complex as algorithmic trading strategies. it might help to reframe your role—consider yourself the keystone holding up this familial arch; everyone knows pressure makes diamonds, right? parents sometimes assign roles not out of neglect but because they see potential others might overlook; just keep being your diligent self and maybe have an open chat with them about how their words have landed. communication might bridge more gaps than we anticipate; after all, success often stems from unexpected routes!
That's a tough situation; I can see why you're feeling so perplexed....
Honestly, sounds like you're getting the raw deal here. But let's keep it real: expecting parents to always treat everyone equally is a bit of a fantasy. 😒 The fact that they're pushing responsibilities on you ain't cool, but at least it's proof they see something strong in you, right? You've got your own life to focus on—stop chasing their approval and just do you. As long as you’re happy with yourself and what you’re doing, then screw whatever favoritism game they might be playing!