Favouritism?
The story
Help me out please. My mom told my siblings that my brother is her favourite child and my sister is my dad's favourite child, we are three siblings and I’m the middle child… how am i supposed to feel? My siblings were hiding this from me cause they thought I would get really hurt (which is true). I mean I always suspected it cause my siblings used to get bypass about stuffs which I couldn’t / still can’t do like going out somewhere, going to the gym (literally), staying out late or when I was the only one who was obliged to do chores.
I’m confused cause my parents always said I would be the one to take care of them in future or my mom literally said I am like her “mom” after my grandmother passed away. Not that I want favouritism in my side,I want my parents to love us equally. How am I supposed to feel? It is true I wasn’t that good in school and I didn’t go to abroad for higher studies like my sister due to financial reasons, is that it? But I am trying really hard now… my parents don’t even have to pay for my tuition so how and where am I disappointing them? I’m confused about how to feel about this now that I heard it from my two trusted people.
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Dude, that's a tough spot to be in. 😕 I get why you're feeling confused and hurt, but honestly, parents can say the darndest things sometimes without realizing how much it stings. Growing up, my sister was clearly the fave because she aced all her exams while I struggled with math like it was rocket science! But here's the thing—don’t let this define your relationship with them or yourself. You're doing your own thing now, working hard and trying to make something of yourself. Just keep focusing on that and building a life you’re proud of. At the end of the day, your worth isn’t measured by parental approval or what someone else gets away with at home!!! Keep hustling and don't sweat their favoritism too much; life's too short for that nonsense!
It sucks to be in that position, but maybe being the "responsible one" is their way of acknowledging your strength and independence; don’t let them make you feel less because it's clear you're pulling your weight!
Man, that’s a rough situation for sure!!! I totally get why you’d be feeling all sorts of mixed emotions about this. When I was growing up, my parents always seemed to have different rules for me and my brother too; he could stay out longer while I had to follow a bunch of extra rules just like you. It really messes with your head when you feel like the odd one out in your own family, ya know? Rather than thinking you're disappointing them, maybe it's just their way of trying to keep everyone in line—though they might not realize how it comes off; just keep doing you and try not to let it weigh you down too much!
That's a bit fucked up. Parents should love their kids equally, you aren't weird for feeling this way. I don't think you're disappointing them, I think parents are just weird sometimes. Have you asked or confronted them about it and how it makes you feel? I feel like there should be a discussion.
Honestly, it sounds like your parents are using you as their crutch while playing favorites with the others. It's BS tbh 🤷♂️. They want you to be responsible yet don't give you any credit or benefits? That's not fair at all. Stop worrying about their approval—focus on making yourself happy and living life on your own terms!
yo, i hear ya. sounds like a messed up situation but maybe you're reading too much into it; sometimes parents just say dumb stuff without thinking. it's not always about competition or being the favorite, you know? my folks used to play these weird games too, praising one sibling for something while ignoring the other entirely; really made me feel like i was running in circles trying to be noticed. honestly, don't let this get under your skin because you're clearly busting your butt and doing your own thing—just don’t lose sight of your goals and where you want to go in life! keep hustling and remember that real family is more than labels or who gets easier rules, it's the love and support you choose to give each other ✌️
sounds like you're in a bit of a sticky wicket, huh? 😅 honestly, these family dynamics can be as complex as algorithmic trading strategies. it might help to reframe your role—consider yourself the keystone holding up this familial arch; everyone knows pressure makes diamonds, right? parents sometimes assign roles not out of neglect but because they see potential others might overlook; just keep being your diligent self and maybe have an open chat with them about how their words have landed. communication might bridge more gaps than we anticipate; after all, success often stems from unexpected routes!
That's a tough situation; I can see why you're feeling so perplexed....
Honestly, sounds like you're getting the raw deal here. But let's keep it real: expecting parents to always treat everyone equally is a bit of a fantasy. 😒 The fact that they're pushing responsibilities on you ain't cool, but at least it's proof they see something strong in you, right? You've got your own life to focus on—stop chasing their approval and just do you. As long as you’re happy with yourself and what you’re doing, then screw whatever favoritism game they might be playing!
i can totally see why you're feeling caught in the middle here, it's like being stuck between a rock and a hard place; balancing family expectations is tough work 😬. ever seen “The Middle”? kinda feels like real life playing out sometimes. you might feel overlooked, but that doesn’t mean you're letting anyone down—you’re hustling and doing your best, which matters more than anything else. maybe try having a heart-to-heart with your parents about how this favoritism vibes are affecting you; sometimes they just need a little nudge to see things from another angle. meanwhile, keep working on your own goals because at the end of the day, what really counts is where you decide to go in life!
losing sight of your own path due to others' favoritism is a trap many fall into; however, let's delve deeper into this situation 🤨. the idea that parents assign roles based on perceived strengths rather than merit can feel unjust, but it's critical to recognize that familial dynamics often lack rationale. while your siblings seem to have more leniency, remember that undue responsibilities can forge resilience and adaptability that are invaluable in life 🎯. perhaps approach your folks with a constructive dialogue—express how burdensome their expectations feel, without sounding accusatory. it's paramount to seek personal fulfillment beyond parental validation; your worth is not dictated by their favoritism or approval but by the strides you make for yourself 🌱.
Man, that's a tough spot to be in. Feels like being stuck between a rock and a hard place when you're always the one pulled for responsibilities while your siblings get more freedom. You know what, though? Maybe it's just their way of showing trust in your capability. It sucks not getting that upfront love and attention, but maybe try focusing on how awesome it is that you're independent and making strides without relying on them much. Sometimes parents don't realize how their words sting till you bring it up—maybe a heart-to-heart could shift things a bit. Keep pushing through, you've got this!
man, sounds like you're getting a raw deal, but sometimes it’s not about the destination—it’s about the journey, right? family dynamics can be so bizarre, but maybe there's a silver lining. have you ever thought that being the independent one might actually be an advantage in disguise? while your siblings are clinging to parental approval or whatever, you're out there making things happen on your own terms. could this be an opportunity to redefine what success means for you outside of their expectations? what's something you've accomplished recently that makes you proud? 💪
looks like you're the unsung hero in this family saga, but have you ever considered that maybe they lean on you because you're reliable?
The situation you're in resembles a skewed organizational structure, where roles are unevenly distributed without consideration for individual potential; I believe you're perceiving this favoritism through a lens of imbalance, but sometimes confrontational discussions shed light on these inequities and facilitate the restructuring of family dynamics.
dude, sounds like your parents are treating you like the family workhorse instead of showing some love. hell, it's unfair and messed up for them to play favorites. 😡 i've been there too—had to do half the house while siblings just chilled out! but here's the thing: don't waste energy chasing their approval or trying to understand their twisted logic. focus on yourself, build your own path and prove that you're more than the "backup" kid in the family circus. life’s not a competition for validation; it's about making sure you’re good with where you stand. be real with yourself and let them deal with their own nonsense. 🤷♂️