how do you guys handle your anger issues
The story
I have quite the temper and I get mad at the slightest provocation okay, and everyone in my family knows that.
They love to get on my nerves and when I get mad they would say stuff like why would you fall for it, and why are you like this. Basically questioning my reaction.
I've failed to take my motorcycle license 3 times if I'm not wrong. The first time I failed I've only driven a motorcycle three times. She rushed me to take the test because my cousin was ready to take it. We took it together. My cousin already knew how to ride long before me and I learned on the first day. When I failed and he passed my mom wouldn't talk to me. same as the other 2 failure.
I didn't want to continue because it's a waste of money if I keep failing. Now she wants me to take a car license and I don't want to. Everyone kept on making fun of me and said stuff that offended me. I got mad and didn't want to talk back because I didn't want to scream and shout like I did before. (I'm on a journey to change) Now I would isolate myself from others when I'm mad to cool myself down. But they don't like that either sheesh.
After that I was brushing my teeth in the kitchen and my sister asked me to move because she needed something from the rack above the sink. I did then she went away so I continued to brush my teeth and suddenly she shoved my face with her arm. I asked what her problem was and she just said I told you to move.
okay at that point I was already overstimulated with all the things going on and she just had to make it worse. and I'm on the verge of just lashing out at everybody. Please I need advice on anything that I can do to keep a calm composure
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It's tough when it feels like no one in your family is supporting or understanding you, especially with how they reacted to the driving tests. But it's great that you're working on keeping your cool and trying to change; that's a big step forward. Maybe you could try explaining how you're feeling calmly, like having an open conversation about why certain actions or words upset you, so they might understand better and lay off a bit. Don't lose hope—finding ways to express yourself without anger could help them see things from your perspective more clearly! 🙂
Family dynamics can be a real headache sometimes, right? It sounds like they're really not getting what you're going through; it's like that classic "don't poke the bear" situation, but they keep poking anyways 🤦♂️. Trying to change is hard enough on its own without people around you making it worse. Maybe it’s worth trying some mindfulness or deep breathing exercises when things get heated—keeps me from blowing my top when everything feels overwhelming. I know it's frustrating, but stay strong in your journey to change; remember, progress takes time and isn’t always linear;, so don't beat yourself up over setbacks!
listen, i get that you're trying to change but maybe your family actually has a point. blowing a fuse at every little thing isn't gonna help you or anyone else around you. maybe they mess with you 'cause they know it'll set you off and it's become some sort of entertainment for them 🙄. it might be time to prove them wrong by staying chill and showing them you're not as predictable as they think. seriously tho, work on managing that temper, or you'll keep ending up in the same situation over and over. good luck dude, sounds rough but just stay focused on keeping calm!