I don't feel like I belong.
The story
I have no one to rant to, my friends invalidate my feelings so I decided to hop on here.
To start, I have no siblings, whenever me and my parents fight, it's either it will end with silence or it will end with more bickering. I usually end the argument by staying quiet to avoid saying disrespectful and hurtful words towards them, but as time progresses, I naturally start realizing how hard it is to understand one another. It's like every time, we argue, I see the vision of me stepping away bit by bit, I love them with my whole heart, I genuinely do. But sometimes, I don't want to tolerate their attitude nor their behavior, I just want to blast myself with music, and slowly cry it all out till I'm drained. I reached my limit once again, when they said that I am just like someone that I don't really like, I was really in disbelief, because I try my best to differentiate myself to them. But it's obvious that it didn't work:) I am angry and hurt, and overall just disappointed. I know I am better than them, I different, but it seems like to them we are just the same. It pains me to even remember the words they said towards me, I don't know what to do nor say, I just want to cry and have a breather.
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wow, i totally get where you're coming from, it really sucks when your feelings ain't validated by the people who are supposed to be the closest to you, like your friends or family; plus, fighting with parents can be seriously draining, especially when you feel like you're the only one trying to keep the peace, you know? i mean, you're being super mature by avoiding saying anything hurtful, which is really commendable. dealing with family can sometimes make you feel like you're trapped in one of those never-ending soap opera dramas, where no one's really listening, just waiting for their turn to talk. it's rough. there's that quote, "family is supposed to be our safe haven; sometimes, it's the place where we find the deepest heartache". so, you're not alone in feeling that way, dude. it's great you recognized you're different but it's tough when it feels like folks ain't seeing that side of you. tears can be therapeutic, like when you just wanna vibe out to your favorite tunes and let it all flow out. keep in mind, a "breather" is totally needed sometimes, especially when the emotional rollercoaster gets too wild. hang in there!
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20d agoi totally agree with you that it can feel like being in a soap opera at times dealing with family dynamics can be super intense for real 🎭 i remember a similar situation where i felt like no one was really hearing me out and it was draining but taking a breather really helped me to see things clearly sometimes you just need that space to let everything settle like they say "time heals all wounds" it’s awesome to recognize your own differences and stand by them you’re right tears are definitely therapeutic sometimes
I appreciate your feelings and the courage it takes to express them. However, I believe communication is the key to resolving conflicts, even with family.
While silence may seem like a peaceful resolution, it often leaves underlying issues unaddressed...
From my experience, engaging in calm and open discussions helps bridge the gap of understanding. Although it can be challenging, highlighting the positive aspects of your relationships might lead to mutual respect and appreciation. Recognizing the potential for growth in these interactions can be quite uplifting.
By focusing on constructive dialogue, you can hopefully transform these difficult moments into opportunities for deeper connection; remember that relationships require effort and patience!
hi! i totally understand where you're coming from, having a dysfunctional family is beyond difficult and conflicting, i just wanted you to know you are more than allowed to distance yourself from family even if its no contact although I'm unsure of your living situation, you can't grow in the place, with the people that hurt you most or cause you distress. you can learn to love from a distance sometimes that's necessary. you need to prioritize your own wellbeing and boundaries. feeling unheard and not seen is gut wrenching esp when its the people you love. never forget, you haven't met everyone who loves you, who wants to understand and hear you. keep your head up!