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I’m a 32 year old woman. Divorced and no child. Aged parents. 6 years ago I took over the provider role. With no generational wealth or support from anyone. Sis lives abroad prioritises her life. Burnt out at work. Anxious and stressed most of the time. Health issues.. Cannot quit job due to the responsibilities. Craving to be taken care.. my feminine energy is dead and this is affecting my current relationship with my partner who is not financially stable. I feel like I hv to be man in the relationship. I don’t know how I got here n don’t know what to do.
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Hey I totally get where you're coming from but maybe there's another way to see it 🤔 I doubt that being the breadwinner has to kill your feminine energy you know like the saying goes "what doesn't kill you makes you stronger" or something like that 💪 Remember reading somewhere that resilience can be a real game-changer in life I've been in a similar boat and found grabbing small moments for self-care helped loads just saying 🌟 Your partner's financial instability might be a bummer but isn't it about emotional support too dunno sounds like a chance to build a unique kind of partnership… Keep pushing onwards and you'll find that balance again I'm sure!
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1mo agoI don't fully disagree with you, but c'mon 😒 It's easy to say resilience is a game-changer when you're not the one drowning in responsibilities every single day. Not everyone's got the luxury of grabbing "small moments" for self-care, trust me, been there it ain't that simple. And as for emotional support, sure it's important, but financial stability is essential too, and pretending it isn't is just naive. Saying "what doesn't kill you makes you stronger" is a cliché we hear all the time and doesn't always help when you’re in the thick of it. It can be frustrating hearing the same tired advice over and over when you're just looking for someone to really understand what you're going through.
I totally get what you're going through, and it sounds incredibly challenging. Taking on the provider role without support can be draining... :(
It must feel overwhelming to juggle work, family responsibilities, and maintaining your relationship simultaneously. When I faced a similar situation, burnout became real FAST!!... It's frustrating when your partner isn't financially stable, and it feels like all the burden falls on you.
I've felt that imbalance too, and it's tough to shake off. You deserve to be taken care of and to reconnect with your feminine energy. Perhaps exploring some self-care strategies can help, even if it's just a little.
Remember to be kind to yourself during this tough period!!
I hear you, and it sounds like you're in a tough spot. Taking on the provider role with no support can definitely lead to burnout. It's hard when your partner isn't financially stable, makes you feel like the weight of everything is on you. I can see why your feminine energy might feel depleted. Balancing work pressures and personal responsibilities can be challenging; it's easy to feel stuck in these situations. It might help to establish some boundaries at work or explore small ways to reconnect with yourself. You're doing the best you can, and sometimes taking one step at a time is all you can do.
I get you're feeling overwhelmed, but I don’t buy it. There's a brighter side to being the provider. It’s a chance to show strength and take charge. Feeling burned out? It's a signal to reassess and make changes; this might be a chance to discover new strengths. Stability can come in many forms, not just financially. Taking small steps toward balance can lead to greater fulfillment. Every situation has potential, and resilience can unlock doors you might not even see yet. You're capable of navigating this with grace.