I often scratch myself when I’m triggered or angry

it's pretty shitty how some parents just don't get it; instead of offering support, they just blow up. i mean, calling you stupid isn't gonna help anyone, right? maybe try talking to someone who gets it, like a therapist or a friend, 'cause getting called out by your mom obviously isn't helping anything.

I'm really sorry to hear you're dealing with this. It's tough when the people who are supposed to support us don’t react in a helpful way. Having been there myself, I found that distracting myself with hobbies or activities helped take my mind off things; maybe give that a shot? Remember, talking to someone who understands can make all the difference!!!

man, parents can be so clueless sometimes. telling you to "just stop" as if it's that simple? classic 🤦‍♂️ they don't get how real and overwhelming those feelings are. been there myself: different story but same vibe... maybe try finding something else when you're triggered? idk, like playing a game or blasting music? anything's better than scratching, imo.

Man, it's crazy how some parents just react without realizing the impact of their words; that's gotta sting. I've been down that road where coping mechanisms just seem to make sense at the time even if they aren't the healthiest; you know what I mean? Maybe try finding a small thing that brings you peace or comfort when you're feeling triggered, like a playlist or a particular spot in nature? sometimes those little things can really help shift the focus when everything feels overwhelming.

Wow, it really sucks when the people who are supposed to care about us just don't seem to get it 🤦‍♂️ It sounds like your mom's reaction was more about her frustration or even fear of not knowing how to help than anything else..

It must be really frustrating to have your feelings dismissed like that, especially by someone who should be empathetic. Have you ever considered looking into grounding techniques? They can sometimes help in moments of high stress or anger; they're kind of like a reset button for your emotions. Your mom might not fully get it now, but maybe with the right resources and some open dialogue, there's hope she could understand better?

Hey, that sounds really tough. 😔 It's wild how some parents don't understand the struggles their kids are going through. I totally get why you're feeling the urge to do it more: it kind of feels like an "I'll show you" reaction? Anyway, I used to deal with something similar by redirecting my energy into something creative or physical, like doodling or even just taking a brisk walk. It can help clear your head and reduce those intense feelings. Remember, it's okay to seek professional help; talking to someone who truly listens can be a game-changer in managing these feelings better.

It's challenging when those you rely on for support respond negatively or dismissively to your struggles; however, their reaction doesn't determine the validity of your feelings!!

It seems like you're caught in a bit of a catch-22 with your mom's reaction. It's easy to feel misunderstood when faced with comments that dismiss rather than delve into the underlying issues or emotions at play. I'm not trying to diminish what you're going through, but it might be worth considering approaching this from a different angle. Maybe explore some alternative coping mechanisms, ones that don't involve physical harm: artistic expression can sometimes allow a profound release and an illumination of difficult emotions. There's a saying I rely on: "The only way out is through." Seeking support from someone who understands these struggles could provide you with new insights and perhaps even help open up a dialogue with your mom that encourages empathy rather than judgment. 😊

self-soothing during moments of distress can often lead to actions that aren't beneficial long-term, a sentiment echoed by many psychological studies. your mom's immediate reaction may have been more visceral than constructive, which isn't uncommon among parents confronting the unfamiliar territory of emotional difficulties in their children. i remember when my method of coping was similarly misunderstood, and it only felt like escalation was the path, but seeking solace in understanding communities or mental health resources opened up alternative strategies for me. perhaps exploring similar avenues could provide you with new perspectives on managing these intense emotions.

wow, that's really rough. it's like some folks just don't comprehend the complexity of our emotions, especially when they bubble to the surface in ways we can't always control 🤷‍♂️ have you ever thought about exploring mindfulness or grounding techniques? those can really work wonders for helping manage intense feelings without resorting to self-harm; i've found it useful in preventing myself from spiraling during high-stress moments. it might take time and practice, but finding healthy outlets could be a game-changer; have you had any experiences with trying new coping strategies before?

it may be beneficial to initiate a dialogue with a mental health professional who could provide evidence-based interventions and resources to address the triggers and impulses in a sustainable manner :-)

Self-harming as a response to emotional triggers seems counterproductive to me. It’s like you’re in a cycle of trying to feel better but only making things worse. 😒 Your mom’s reaction, though harsh, might have come from a place of concern: but how can anger lead to understanding? Have you considered why you're triggered and if there are specific events or emotions that always seem to spark this urge? Maybe pinning down the root cause could help break the pattern; shifting focus from harm towards resolution might offer some new insights or options for dealing with these feelings.