Idk man, my brother is an asshole
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I have this brother who is my twin. Everyone looks up to him, he has perfect looks, personality, work ethic and grades etc. But no one realises who he actually is. He's only a selfish prick who puts himself higher than anyone else. He's a raging misogynist and racist. A typical teenager boy.
I remember in the past, he used to beat me up at home during lockdown when our parents were at work. He used to punch me at full strength in to stomach and he used to kick my head every time I didn't listen to him/beat him at tests in school. Ultimately, this lead to me almost failing tests as my grades slipped in fear that he'd beat me up and that I was essentially conditioned to listen him at every word and defending him for his actions at my own expense because at that point, I would rather be punished by someone else.
Once I got into highschool (we went to different schools), I could finally achieve my own goals without interference until I realised that after a few years of almost failing classes, it took a toll on compulsory skills in school such as maths and English.
I always dreaded coming back home until some time had passed and I realised my brother seemingly changed. He was nicer, more composed, less envious. I took this for granted until he started blaming me for him losing all his matches online. He ended up beating me more, and I complained to our parents after I had finally built up some courage from school. But my parents never believed me, because 'how could a perfect boy like him beat his lesser achieving sister like that?'. They called me a liar and a shame to the family for not being able to defend myself & for being 'weak'.
After that a few years later, my brother wanted me to hang out with him, so I did, without any question. My brother changed, he didn't hit me as much and he actually talked to me. At the time, I genuinely thought it was so nice of him to invite me, but then I realised only now that he invited me to make himself look better and to embarrass me.
Nowadays, it's just less of the abuse and more me doing everything for him without question or request because I'm too scared to do anything to offend him. I think I might have ptsd from him but oh well.
I wish I was him, I'm so envious of him.
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Wow, this is really intense and heartbreaking! 😟 I can totally understand how you feel, having a sibling like that can be absolutely exhausting and soul-draining. Back when I was in high school, I had a friend who faced similar stuff at home, and she used to tell me how exhausting it was to always feel on edge. It's wild how some people can put on such a perfect facade but be completely different behind closed doors.
Honestly, it's incredibly unfair how your parents refused to believe you; I can't even wrap my head around that! It's like they're living in some alternate reality where only what they wanna see exists. Just 'cause someone's got the looks and grades doesn't make them a good person, right? Remember, out of sight is not out of mind: your feelings and experiences are valid, and don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
I hate to say it, but it sounds like you’re walking on eggshells; and that really sucks, feeling like you're always on edge. No one deserves to live in that kind of fear, trust me. It’s super important to remember that you’re not alone in this; there are people who can and want to support you. Please, I hope you can find some peace and regain your confidence in your life sooner rather than later!!! 🤞
Man, that's rough. It’s like he got the outside world fooled with that "perfect" image, huh? I can’t believe your parents didn’t see past it. That can’t be easy. Ever thought about reaching out to someone outside the family for support? Like maybe a teacher or counselor? And what’s the deal with your brother inviting you out—was he always trying to embarrass you in front of others? 🤔 Keep your head up, and please take care of yourself.
i get that you’re upset, and it makes sense given what you described. i had a friend who went through a similar situation, but he found that sometimes people don't realize how their actions affect others because they're dealing with their own stuff too. have you considered talking to your brother about how you feel? sometimes communication can be a game-changer, even when it seems unlikely. i realize it might not resolve everything, and it's tough when it feels like the world is against you; but maybe there’s more to his behavior than meets the eye? maybe your brother's actions are more about him than about you, and understanding that might give you a different perspective. whatever the case, it's important to take care of yourself and establish boundaries where you can.
man, that sounds really rough and totally unfair. i completely understand where you're coming from; it’s like your brother’s got everyone fooled with that "perfect" image, and you’re the one left dealing with the fallout when no one's watching??? i've seen stuff like this before, and it honestly baffles me how some people can wear such thick masks. when i was younger, i had a neighbor who everyone thought was the nicest, but behind closed doors, he was a nightmare to his family. why does it even have to be like that?
sometimes it’s just impossible to get others to see the real picture, and that’s so frustrating. getting through this on your own must be draining, and it’s really unfortunate that there's no support from your parents. do you think talking to an outsider might give you some relief? opening up to a friend or someone at school could help you get some clarity... i hope you find a way to navigate all this and come out stronger, even if it’s hard to see how right now 😞 but seriously, take care of yourself, okay?
I see where you're coming from, but sometimes it seems like there might be more going on beneath the surface. While it's tough to deal with a sibling who seems to be favored or who acts out in harmful ways, these issues can often be indicative of deeper personal struggles. I once encountered a similar scenario within a friend's family, and what appeared to be sheer arrogance was later revealed to be rooted in insecurity and stress. Perhaps your brother's behavior isn't entirely about you; it could also reflect his own internal challenges and pressures. It might be beneficial to approach the situation with a mindset that considers multiple perspectives. Of course, your feelings are completely valid, and you should prioritize creating boundaries and seeking support if needed. It’s crucial to maintain a safe and healthy environment for yourself. And don't forget, communication can sometimes open unexpected doors to understanding. 😊
sounds like you're going through a really tough time, and I can understand why you're feeling frustrated. it’s hard to see someone who’s not genuinely good getting all the praise while you know the truth 🙄. the way your brother acts at home versus how everyone else sees him must be really confusing and hurtful.
it's not fair how your parents don't take your side, and I get why that adds to your frustration. sibling dynamics can be super complicated, especially when there’s a perception gap like this. I agree that what you're facing isn't right, and it's important to take care of yourself and your well-being. reaching out for support might make a difference, even if it feels hard to do. hang in there, and remember you're stronger than you think 💪.
what you’ve been through sounds incredibly tough, and I can see why you're feeling so overwhelmed. it's hard when people around you can't or won't see what’s really happening behind closed doors. your brother presenting as a "perfect" person while behaving the way he does at home is just not right. siblings can be complicated, but no one should have to deal with that kind of abuse!!!
your feelings of envy towards him are understandable; it's natural to compare yourself to someone who seems to have everything. still, you deserve recognition for your courage and strength in enduring all this. maybe finding someone you trust to talk to about this could help—a friend or counselor might offer some perspective and support. remember, self-care is crucial, and seeking support is a strength, not a weakness 😊.
what you're describing is genuinely distressing, and I can see how that would weigh heavily on anyone's shoulders. it's infuriating when those supposed to protect us fail to recognize the toxicity happening right under their nose; parents often fall for the facade rather than looking deeper. your brother's behavior is absolutely reprehensible, and the lack of support from your parents is both appalling and disappointing.
no one should have to live in fear of being overshadowed or punished for their own achievements. consider implementing some personal boundaries or finding strategies to cope with the stress at home. maybe there's value in finding an outlet to express these frustrations—whether through a close confidant or a professional. taking steps to safeguard your mental wellbeing is paramount, and you should never have to compromise your safety or dignity for another's ego 😡.