Is this LITERAL favoritism?
The story
Alright, so I’ll just state it here, my little brother can seem nice at times, but that’s not what I’m complaining about. I have had arguments with my brother, my brother throws himself to the ground, actually hurts himself so he’ll start crying, and my parents think I did it so I get in trouble. When I try to defend myself, they tell me to, and I quote, “Shut up, we don’t need to hear any more lies for tonight”. For the past year or two I’ve been becoming depressed (in my opinion, I don’t have a legit diagnosis or anything but I think I might), and have been becoming more and more suicidal. It even led me to attempt by jumping down a flight of stairs, but my grandma ran over (my parents stayed sitting) and had to help me up. She knew this was on purpose, while my parents said I was just looking for attention. Today, I was arguing with my mom about my success in acedemic activities and stuff and I notice that my brother has been playing Roblox (a video game for those who don’t know) for FOUR HOURS STRAIGHT. I tell my mom I would like to watch a show because my brother got to play Roblox for four hours and she said “He’s only 9, you need to be more mature,” and then kindly told him to get off. He said no, and kept playing. She stayed nice to him, but then I told her I deserved to watch my show and she absolutely BLEW UP at me!!! I then asked her why she loved him more and she said “I don’t.” I didn’t believe her, so I said “swear on your own life that you love us equally.” She just laughed nervously and changed the subject. Is this because she truly loves him more, or is this normal? Pls somebody help me it’s getting on my nerves at this point.
Is this favoritism?
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Wow, it really sounds like you're in a tough spot! 😓 I can't even imagine how frustrating and hurtful that must be for you. Your brother's antics and the way your parents handle things seem super stressful. Have you tried talking to your grandma about everything? She seems to understand your side of things more than they do. Maybe she could help mediate or at least provide some support or advice.
Maybe! Thank you so much for responding ❤️
Honestly, sounds like you're gonna have to accept that your parents are playing favorites, which sucks big time, but maybe focusing on yourself and what you can control might help more than trying to change their minds.
Yeah. Thanks for the advice 🙂
sounds like you're trapped in a never-ending cycle of miscommunication and favoritism, huh? siblings can be manipulative sometimes, but it's kinda wild that your parents are so blind to it; maybe try writing them a letter—sometimes putting things on paper makes it less confrontational and gives them time to digest what you’re feeling. it's not about changing everything overnight, but any small step that brings some understanding might help calm the storm a bit;..
Your situation is undeniably challenging, and it must be exceedingly difficult to feel like your concerns are dismissed or misunderstood by those who should support you. The dynamics with your brother and the ensuing parental favoritism can undoubtedly exacerbate feelings of frustration and helplessness; it's unsurprising these interactions leave you questioning their affections. While it might seem daunting, have you considered documenting these incidents to provide a clearer perspective to your parents? Initiating a calm discussion backed by specific examples might help clarify your standpoint. Remember that prioritizing your mental health is crucial during such times, and finding a trusted person or counselor who can lend an empathetic ear or offer guidance could be tremendously beneficial!
It sounds like you're dealing with a complex family dynamic that seems to be affecting your mental well-being significantly. From what you've described, there appears to be an imbalance in how your parents are handling situations involving you and your brother; this isn't uncommon in families, though it certainly doesn't make it any less frustrating or painful. Have you considered seeking support from someone outside the family, perhaps a counselor or therapist? Sometimes, having an impartial third party can help provide clarity and guide you toward healthy coping mechanisms. Additionally, setting boundaries for yourself might offer some relief—focus on areas where you feel empowered and aim to cultivate resilience within those parameters.