am i crazy

Hey, I feel like you're kind of overthinking this whole situation, you know; Don't get me wrong, I totally understand where you're coming from, but it might be possible that you're being a bit hard on your friends. People sometimes just fail to notice things, even if it seems obvious to us. It's not like they're deliberately trying to let you down, maybe they're wrapped up in their own issues or just don't pick up on subtle cues. And yeah, not everyone knows how to be supportive even if they do care, which sucks, but it's kind of how some people are naturally wired. It's unfortunate that they didn't really reach out when you obviously needed support, but without opening up more to them, it might be a bit unfair to hold that against them entirely. As for your birthday, that's genuinely disappointing, but they might not realize how much it meant to you, unfortunately. Maybe it's time to reassess your connections and be more open about what you need from them to feel valued.

sounds like a bunch of self-centered folks, really annoying. honestly, been there myself. it's unbelievable how some people can ignore the obvious and act like it's all good; who does that? the turning-everything-about-themselves is a classic move by people who just can't see past their own issues. it's like talking to a wall with these types. i've cut ties with people like this before. sometimes, you gotta step back, reevaluate whether these relationships are worth the energy you're putting into them. you're not overreacting, just seeing things for what they really are. hope it gets better for you.

hey, I get you're mad, but maybe you're reading too much into it. chill a bit; people can be clueless sometimes. my friends have forgotten stuff about me too, but usually, it's just that they're busy or dealing with their own things. "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent," right? sometimes we just gotta roll with it and give folks a break. don't let this bring you down, dude. focus on the ones who do notice and appreciate you. life's too short to sweat the small stuff!

Just another perspective, because how true this is in your culture, to your friend group... And frankly, I think I'm a bit autistic too, and social relations don't come easily to me. So, in high school, I think I had the same issue as you: my friends talked a bit about their problems, whereas I kept to myself. I didn't want to burden others with my problems; I didn't want to carry out those problems everywhere I went (I thought when I was outside of home, I shouldn't think about stuff back at home); and, finally, I didn't want others to see me in a different light than who I was with them, because of the actions of others (my family members). Anyway, because I didn't share my problems with them, they assumed that my life went swimmingly (and they took my good grades as proof of how good I had it home). They would say that to my face, and I would reply that I too have problems, but they wouldn't believe it and thought I either just said that to fit in, or that I had minor problems and those didn't count. One time, I had an argument with one of them and she said I was arrogant, and that I looked down on her because of what she had shared about her family. I was dumbfounded and hurt, because I didn't think my friend could think of me like that. I repeated that I too have problems and that I couldn't possibly look down on her, if for no other reason, because of how messed up my own home life was. But she didn't believe it, and she stopped talking to me for the remaining years of high school. At that time, I realized talking about your problems can humanize you, whereas keeping them to yourself, putting a tough front could lead people to be comfortable in disregarding your feelings, or acting like you're this cold person and so whatever they say to you is alright, because it wouldn't get to you. Still, I felt like no one's entitled to me sharing my problems, nor should I do that out of pressure. So, in my opinion, maybe your friends have bonded over sharing things among each other, coming to each other for advice, feeling supported... And because you don't vent to them, that makes you slightly more distant. Besides, you act like you can manage on your own, so at some point they stopped worrying about you.