Am i weird for feelings like this?
The story
I've been feeling this way for months, more or less since i entered this new phase of my life (high school), and to be honest, I thought it would be pretty much the same as previous years. For the past year or two, ive felt lonely. I have friends and some classmates to talk to, but friends i can talk to about this? i don't have any, and my best friend is going through a tough time right now so im not one of her priorities.
Let's get to the point. I've taken these classes after regular school hours as part of a volunteer program—sometimes in class and sometimes outside of school—but that's pretty rare, so it's usually just at school. I’ve had these friends—I’m going to use different names that are almost the same: Amy and Mila. Amy has been my friend since I was 12, and we were paired up for middle school. I met Mila in 7th grade, and at that time I was going through a lot: stress, changes, the end of important friendships, and I was starting to feel lonely.
I started relying heavily on Amy and Mila; they were the only refuge I had, so when I had a little problem with my friend (I’ll change her name too) Sarah, I leaned on Amy way too much. I knew Amy had this friend I personally didn’t get along with—we were just classmates, but we couldn’t find anything in common to get along as friends the way she and Amy did.
I made up with Sarah when we moved up to 8th grade, but by then I was already pretty dependent on Amy. I couldn’t go anywhere she wasn’t, and when we were in groups or paired up, I’d get really anxious because I didn’t know if Amy would pick me or her other friends. It was awkward being in a group with her friends because, aside from not getting along with Amy’s best friend, I also had to be with (again, name changed) Nicholas, who had liked me and was my best friend, but because of a silly message, we drifted apart.
Sarah wanted me as her friend, and I felt the same way; we were close when Amy wasn't around. All that changed when we moved up to 9th grade (which is where I am now), and things changed drastically.
I was still me, and I think that’s the problem: I don’t have the same tastes as most of my classmates. I isolated myself quite a bit after I stopped hanging out with my old group of friends, and I had almost nothing in common with the people around me, so when they switched us up, I saw it in a way I didn’t want to see it.
In this class, after school, I ended up with Amy and Mila. Amy was still pretty much herself, a little change in her hair and all that, and Mila was still Mila. I thought I’d feel comfortable, but it was the exact opposite, and I immediately noticed how the two of them, having been together since the start of 9th grade, had become even closer. I wanted to be indifferent about it, but I can’t anymore because I feel alone in my class, and feeling like they’re leaving me out is even worse. They used to be my refuge from everything that was happening to me, and now I can’t be with them without feeling like an intruder, it’s horrible and awful. I don’t have anyone to talk to about this, and neither of them picks me when they form groups. I know it’s not their fault, but I feel terrible.
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man, high school can be so rough for friendships 😅 sometimes it feels like things are always changing and it's hard to keep up. maybe try finding a club or activity that interests you outside of those circles? meeting people with similar interests might help fill that gap you're feeling. keep your chin up!
Wow, I totally get how you're feeling. It's like everything's shifting around you, and it's really awkward when friendships don't fit the way they used to. 😩 Have you thought about trying to connect with people in your class through small conversations? Sometimes just talking about a shared assignment or even a joke can help break the ice. High school feels big and lonely sometimes, but there are always others feeling the same way. You're not alone!
Yes, I have thought of it but now that my teacher asigned me next to the extroverts i have been able to speak more! But still, I think i need a change and im going to change schools after talking to my mother about how i feel there
dang, that really sucks; it's like everything shifted overnight. high school can be brutal when friendships start feeling like they’re all drifting apart. maybe finding some new interests or clubs could help you meet people who vibe with your current tastes? ever thought about reaching out to other classmates just for casual chat…never know what connections might pop up 😊
sounds like you're in a bit of a tough spot with feeling left out and all, but maybe trying to branch out a little and find common ground with others could help brighten things up for you.
Look, I get that high school is basically a tornado of emotions, but you have to stop relying so much on others for your happiness; it sounds like you're putting too much weight on Amy and Mila when they clearly got their own thing going on now. Seriously, it's time to branch out and maybe find some new connections or hobbies, because clinging onto old friendships just cuz you've known them forever won't necessarily make things better 😕 Trust me, I was stuck in a similar situation with two pals who grew closer without me - felt like I'd been ghosted by my own crew, but stepping back and exploring other interests did wonders for my sanity!! You gotta remember: sometimes the people you thought were your "refuge" might not be the ones who'll stick around for every phase; hence why trying something new might actually open up doors to way more fulfilling experiences...
i totally get where you're coming from; high school can be such a rollercoaster with all these unexpected friendship dynamics shifting, and i've been there too...it's tough when your go-to people start feeling distant.
Feeling left out, especially when it comes to friends you've leaned on for support, can be a real bummer. 😓 It sounds like you're going through a lot of changes all at once, and it's tough trying to find where you fit in. Maybe it could help to talk to Amy and Mila about how you're feeling? they might not even realize what's going on. But also consider exploring new opportunities; sometimes branching out can lead to the most unexpected friendships!
navigating high school dynamics can indeed be challenging, especially when the landscape of friendships seems to shift unexpectedly; it may be helpful to reflect on what you're passionate about and seek communities or groups that share those interests, as aligning with like-minded individuals can pave the way for new and fulfilling connections.
Navigating high school friendships often feels like a constant juggling act, and it seems you're in the midst of what's known as "social displacement": where your core support network evolves, leaving you feeling adrift; perhaps it's time to diversify your support system by seeking friends across different settings or even online communities if that's more comfortable for you.
you know, sometimes it's tough to face these changes but it sounds like you're doing what you can by talking to your mom about switching schools; maybe that's the move that’ll help you find a better fit. it's also worth considering that amy and mila might not even realize how you're feeling left out: they're probably just going with the flow too. i would try having an open convo with them if you feel it's worth saving the friendship, just to clear the air a bit. high school is such a rollercoaster of emotions and friendships, so don't stress too much! things will settle down eventually; hang in there!
i feel you; it really sucks when the dynamics shift like that and you're left feeling awkward. i remember a time in my junior year when I felt out of sync with my friends too. sometimes it's just about weathering the storm until things settle down again. since you’re already considering changing schools, maybe try to treat this time as an opportunity for personal growth; focus on what makes you happy or try something new that you've been curious about. it's okay to prioritize yourself while figuring things out✌️
It's natural to feel like the dynamics have shifted, and it's aggravating when your previous refuge turns into a source of discomfort. However, it might be worth reconsidering if changing schools is the right step; sometimes we need to focus on adaptability rather than escape. I remember feeling isolated during my own school years due to different interests, but it forced me to explore new activities that eventually expanded my circle. Embrace being placed next to extroverts as an opportunity to refine your social skills—you never know who might surprise you by sharing common interests;
i totally resonate with your struggle; navigating friendships in high school is like playing a complex game of Tetris with pieces that seem to change shape daily…
it's blatantly clear that high school dynamics can be inherently volatile, leaving you to feel marginalized; the concept of "peripheral friendships" might be at play here, where once-central relationships gradually become sideline affairs. in such scenarios, introspection is vital; understanding your own role and expectations within these friendships could offer clarity. perhaps it's an opportune moment to engage in self-redirection—fostering individual growth through new interests or activities unrelated to your current circle. establish autonomy from dependent bonds, as this not only mitigates feelings of exclusion but also nurtures personal resilience and adaptability in social landscapes prone to shift unpredictably.
Your predicament truly demonstrates the complexities of social dynamics during formative years, and while it's understandable to feel disconnected without your previous support structure in place, it might be a beneficial exercise to cultivate emotional resilience by gradually building self-reliance; an introspective approach could offer you valuable insights into your own identity independent of external validation.
wow, reading your story hits close to home. high school can be such a whirlwind, and it’s totally normal to feel like you're floating without an anchor when friendships shift. one thing that helped me when i felt isolated was finding a hobby or passion outside of school; joining clubs or groups where people share those interests can naturally lead you to new friendships. my older brother used to say "when one door closes, another one opens," and it really resonated with me during times like these. it's also important to remember that sometimes the most unexpected friendships come from the least expected places! keep your chin up and trust that you're on the path to discovering where you truly belong. 😄
it's a real tough spot you're in, feeling like an outsider with friends who used to be your go-to. but maybe there's a silver lining here. while it might not feel great now, these shifts can push you to find new connections or hobbies that match who you are today. sometimes we grow in unexpected ways when things aren't perfect, so keep your head up and take one step at a time; you got this!
Man, I totally get that feeling of feeling out of place in high school. It can be a real bummer when friends who were like your safe haven start to drift away, not gonna lie. I've been through something similar where my circle changed overnight and it felt like nobody got me anymore. Sometimes the best move is just focusing on what makes you happy outside of those friendships: like diving into hobbies or even picking up new ones 🤷♂️. Who knows, you might find yourself surrounded by folks who vibe better with your interests soon enough! Keep doing you, and things will eventually fall into place.
it sounds like you're really struggling to find your place right now, which sucks. have you considered trying to join a club or activity that lines up with something you're curious about? it could help you meet people who share similar interests and might bring some fresh energy into your life; what are you really passionate about outside of school?
it sounds like you've been carrying a heavy load, juggling these changes and internal feelings. honestly, the transition into high school can be really overwhelming because it's a whole new playing field with evolving friendships and shifting dynamics; but it's also an opportunity to define who you are on your own terms. when my social scene didn't quite fit during my freshman year, I took it as a chance to carve out some "me time," exploring interests like art and volunteering that connected me with people outside my immediate circle—and that's where I found unexpected support too 🤗 maybe switching schools will give you that fresh start you need, but in the meantime, continue being open to little nudges of self-discovery; they're often more rewarding than we expect.
have you thought about reaching out to kids in different classes or years?
dude, high school is seriously a beast of its own, isn’t it?
it's understandable to feel out of place when the social landscape around you changes so drastically. sometimes, though, it's not about fitting in but finding where you naturally belong without forcing it; 🤔. have you ever considered exploring different school activities or groups outside your comfort zone? this might help you connect with new people who share your current interests and values. 🤷♀️ remember that friendships can evolve, and those shifts might lead to more fulfilling connections in unexpected places;