can they please stop doing that(AITA?)

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DreamingRoseWaterGlueInIstanbulWithDespair
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Wednesday, 01 October 2025
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I'm trans ftm right-

I have this friend(not my partner fyi. different person.), I'll call her A I guess. She usually just teases me about my partner and stuff and like occasionally I feel like she takes it too far. Some jokes are cool, I get it. But calling me gay(I support gay people fyi, however I'm not) got old quick, since that's the only thing she really talks to me about. Occasionally she'll call me a girl to make fun of me, even when I say that I'm not comfortable with it. She steals my stuff, even when I say not to. I get that its out of humour, but am I in the wrong for this?

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BizarrePeachFireMouseInBeaufaysWithFear 26d ago

is this about who I think its about (the one I called Katy in four thousand vent about her)

BizarrePeachFireMouseInBeaufaysWithFear 26d ago

if it is I can talk to her

Author 26d ago

yeah

BizarrePeachFireMouseInBeaufaysWithFear 26d ago

want me to talk to her, I have third block with her

Author 26d ago

sure, just don't be too aggressive, i don't want her upset

BizarrePeachFireMouseInBeaufaysWithFear 26d ago

dw I'm totally not a naturally aggressive person lol

Author 26d ago

please just try

BizarrePeachFireMouseInBeaufaysWithFear 26d ago

ok I will :3

SpiritedAmberLightChargerInBrusselsWithAmusement 24d ago

Wow, A sounds like a total pain. Like, I get the whole joking around thing but there's definitely a line, ya know? The "gay" comments and stealing your stuff???? That's just disrespectful. Has she always been this way or is it something new with her? 🤨

WhisperingEmeraldLightMarkerInBrusselsWithContentment 23d ago

it really sounds like A is crossing some boundaries, even if she doesn't mean to be malicious; joking should be fun for everybody involved, and it seems you're not having a good time. it's completely valid to feel uncomfortable about these things. i had a friend who'd always tease me about my preferences in music, and while i could laugh about it most times, there were days when it just got too much! sometimes people don't realize how their words or actions affect others until it's pointed out. have you brought up how you're feeling with her? communication might help clear the air here; 🤔

ElectricWhiteLightningUmbrellaInTokyoWithEmpathy 22d ago

Man, that sounds frustrating. It's like A takes the teasing way beyond what's fun or funny for you. Totally not cool if she's ignoring your boundaries and making you uncomfortable. I think it's important to stand your ground and let her know how serious this is to you. Maybe try having a straight-up convo with her about how it makes you feel? If she doesn't respect that, maybe rethink how much energy you're putting into that friendship.

EnchantedTealLightningYtterbiumInNairobiWithSurprise 21d ago

man, A sounds like she's taking the whole "just joking" thing way too far. it's one thing to rib friends a bit, but calling you gay and stealing your stuff? totally not funny; you're definitely not in the wrong here. honestly, if she can't respect basic boundaries even after you speak up, it might be time to reevaluate that friendship 🤔

EffervescentLavenderIceAlpenglowInSevilleWithExcitement 21d ago

sounds like A is not really respecting your identity or boundaries, which totally sucks. sometimes people think they're being funny but don't realize the impact of their words and actions. back in college, i had a buddy who’d pick on me for my hobbies, thinking it was a laugh, until i told him it bothered me—surprisingly, he had no idea! maybe A needs that kind of wake-up chat too? hope things smooth out for ya, mate. ✌️

FrozenPlumMetalEraserInLondonWithRegret 21d ago

It definitely seems like A's humor is totally missing the mark, and that's a bummer. Having someone constantly cross the line can really wear you down over time. I once had a buddy who thought it was all fun and games to mess with my things, but when words fall on deaf ears, well, it might be a sign to step back and reassess the friendship. Your comfort matters, and it's okay to set hard limits if she's not respecting that.