Friendship and being mentally drained
The story
So, I'm part of an online group of friends who play online and chat about common hobbies, passions, etc, nothing too harmful. I'll start by saying that I'm closer to one of them (let's call him R) that I've known for years, but I enjoy talking with all of them. All good, until a few days ago, when there was some sort of private, aka not in the general chat, fight between R and another person (S). Now, R and S have been quite close for years, but there was some disagreements already (personal stuff between them) that blew out of proportion after a comment made by R that S thought it was about him. R says it wasn't, but who knows really. Ever since that the group has been silentish, in a weird tense mood. I know about the fight from R, the others know from S, and it's like inevitably the group split between R and I, on one side, S and the others on the other, even though no public reference has been made to the fight. I don't know how to approach this situation, R thinks we're being quietly shunned out by the others (whom I still can see interacting with each other) and while I initially thought it was crazy, after almost a week of this I feel kind of drained by this whole situation. I never acknowledged what happened between them, never made comments, even in chat with R I tried to keep up a "maybe it's nothing/maybe it's a coincidence/maybe they're just busier this time around" more to try to keep R calm, but I've got to say I'm starting to agree and would like this situation to end, someway. What happened between R and S is not something I have part in and on their "break up" of sorts S said to R that he'd interact normally with him, just less "closer", but it's hard to believe now. Even talking to R is becoming something that keeps draining my energy, even though a friend sticks to a friend and I deny feeling tired by this whole situation when he apologies about it. I don't know, it sounds dumb and childish, but I just want my chill group back.
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sounds like a standard digital fallout;; why invest energy in drama??? if R and S can’t sort it, not your circus!!! back away, too much hassle; R dragging you into unnecessary tension??? foolish to let it drain you. get a new chill group or focus on other interests.
Because despite the unnecessary tension and all R is still my friend and I feel bad.
honestly, sounds like a classic case of online drama, been there myself. keeping your distance from the beef between R and S might be best, like they say, "not your monkeys, not your circus." totally get wanting the group to go back to being chill; those vibes are hard to come by! once had a similar thing happen in my gaming clan, and we just waited it out until things cooled down. people usually calm down eventually, and you’d be surprised how things can get back to normal once some time has passed. keep hoping for the best and hang in there! 😅
Yeah, yeah, hopefully it just goes all away as quickly as it happened, hope you're right!
kinda sounds like overthinking the situation a bit; maybe people just need some space to recalibrate their dynamics. when personal issues spill over into group settings, tensions can rise unexpectedly, but it's important to recognize it might not be all about R's view. difficult as it is, maintaining neutrality could be beneficial in the long run, yet staying involved with R might provide an inside perspective. still, letting the situation resolve itself naturally might be wiser.
sounds like overkill for online drama; people make mountains out of molehills sometimes. being so hung up on this seems unnecessary. like my buddy always says, "let it roll off your back." once had a similar spat in a gaming guild, and it blew over faster than expected. focus on enjoying your hobbies and let the rest fade into the background. life’s too short to stress over virtual squabbles. it'll probably settle down soon. 😏
sounds like an exhausting ordeal, and your frustration is justified. this situation exemplifies the volatility within online communities; individuals often escalate conflicts over trivial matters. your inclination to distance yourself from the discord is not only prudent but essential for maintaining emotional equilibrium. attempting to facilitate reconciliation between R and S might be an exercise in futility, given the circumstances. instead, encourage open dialogue and transparency in an attempt to restore harmony within the group. maintaining personal well-being amidst such chaos is paramount, and your desire for resolution is both reasonable and logical. 😊
yeah, online groups can implode over stuff like this; kind of a pain, really. understandable that you're feeling drained. like they say, "communication is key," but both R and S need to be on board for it to work. maybe stepping back a bit could help clear your mind. you can't control others, just take care of yourself?? sometimes things settle on their own. 🤷♂️
man, online drama is such a vibe killer 🤦♂️ i get why you'd want the chill vibes back, those are hard to find! maybe this whole thing just needs time to blow over. like they say, "time heals all wounds"; does R think any kind of chat or mediation could help? i've seen similar stuff go down in my own group chats, usually works out if people just talk it out?? in the meantime, keep doing your thing and supporting R, but don't let it suck your energy dry. it'll probably calm down eventually. 😅
man, that's just a drag, dealing with this kind of online nonsense 😑 totally get why you're fed up. sometimes people just blow things way outta proportion, and then everyone suffers for it. really stinks that this beef between R and S is messing with the whole vibe. i'd be doubting if things will ever go back to normal, to be honest. feels like you're stuck in the middle of a bad sitcom plot, and it's not fair you're caught up in the crossfire. sometimes you gotta wonder if it's worth all the hassle, you know? hope it chills out soon but not holding my breath.
sounds like you're making a big deal out of nothing; online group drama is usually just noise. people say things, others misinterpret, and then the whole group ends up in a weird place. honestly, these disputes often seem more significant than they actually are. maybe you should take a step back and let it run its course 🤷♂️ the chill group dynamics you're longing for might just need a little time to bounce back! try not to let it occupy your headspace too much. patience might be the key here, even if it feels tough now.
honestly, feels like you're getting too worked up over this; stuff like this happens all the time in online groups. people get into little tiffs, and it seems bigger than it is. honestly, the best move might be to not get too involved. i remember in my own gaming group, there was always a spat that felt massive, but then it all blew over. sometimes things just need time to settle down, and everyone moves past it! hang in there, and hopefully, everything will smooth out soon. 😌
well, this seems like a pretty crappy situation to be in 😕 honestly, online group drama can suck the life out of everything. totally get why you'd be feeling drained. seen it happen in my own friend circle, and it usually leaves everyone feeling weird and tense. it might keep dragging on for a bit, and that uncertainty just adds to the stress. sounds like you really need your chill group back, but who knows when that'll happen;; sometimes it just takes longer than you'd like. try focusing on other stuff till it blows over!
seriously, why are you letting this drain you so much? seems like you're making it a bigger deal than it should be. online drama is just part of the package, and honestly, people getting worked up over a comment is a bit much. ever hear the saying, "don't feed the trolls"? getting involved might just fan the flames! does R think all this tension is worth the energy it's sucking out of everyone??? maybe step back and chill out while things settle down on their own.
seems like you're getting all worked up over this, and it might not be worth it??? online friend groups often have their share of drama, but stressing this much might not be helping anyone. maybe you're reading into things a bit too much, and it's just one of those temporary glitches in the group dynamics. it's a bit much to let something like this drain your energy when it might blow over soon. once had a similar situation, and ignoring it made things easier for me in the long run. hoping things just chill out for you soon! 😅