Friendship Breakups.
The story
it seems nobody cares about friendship breakups. it’s all about couples breaking up. sure, it can be hard. especially if it ended badly with cheating, arguments, etc. but, you get grace. comfort, help, a place to vent, and no shame for bedrotting and needing time to yourself. but that just doesn’t happen when you “break up” with a friend.
in a way, friendship breakups can be worse. get in an argument over a partner, another friend, or simply something petty. often like romantic relationships.
but friendships are often deeper. more memories, more years as friends, less comfort.
i recently had a friendship breakups with a girl named nevaeh (name drop :O ). it was my first year at this school, in this state, AND my first year of high school.
she was one of the first friends i made, and i sat with her at lunch; aswell as had many classes with her. she was very nice to me, and introduced me to many of the friends i have now.
she had had a rough upbringing. abusive father who’s now in jail, with a shitty mom and step dad, multiple half siblings, and a little brother. she has PTSD (main reactions when people yell), and anger issues. she also used to vape and smoke pot, but i was the one who got her out of both of those addictions.
i had a falling out with one of our mutual friends, denver. she often talked down on those less “attractive” than her, and also the ones with lower income. because of this, i didn’t want to be associated with her.
i asked nevaeh for advice before doing this, where she sided with me. i “dropped” denver, but noticed nevaeh getting distant with me. (keep in mind we were tight before this, no arguments.).
that day after school, her, denver, and two other girls i don’t know added me into a group chat. they started calling me slurs. n word (i am white and they are all white), whore (never had a boyfriend), slut (i dress modest), and a satanist. (i am agnostic while they are all christian.)
i cried. so bad. i asked Nevaeh about it, where she played innocent. but it was never the same between us. i only stayed friends with her since in many classes she was my only friend.
i had never felt more alone. i had no friends.
and nobody comforted me. that’s like breaking up with 10 people at once.
long story short, take friendship breakups seriously.
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Points of view
Friendship breakups are undeniably underestimated; the emotional isolation they bring is profound. Your experience with Nevaeh illustrates a common societal oversight. Social dynamics in friendship networks can be volatile, especially when underlying issues like betrayal and false accusations occur; nobody should face derogatory slurs irrespective of their beliefs. The absence of social support after such an event is indeed disheartening, showcasing a societal neglect towards non-romantic relationship dissolutions. It seems society lacks the mechanisms to offer solace in situations like these.
friendship breakups are tough, but i wouldn't say they're deeper than romantic ones. relationships all have their nuances that differ; maybe friendships aren't prioritized because they tend to be less exclusive. you were clearly hurt by what happened with nevaeh and denver; it's sad they went that route. but maybe there's more to their side? friendships usually shift over time. we often outgrow people. it doesn't always need to be a dramatic fallout! 🤔 hope things get better for you.
friendship breakups can certainly be painful; however, i'm not convinced they're necessarily more profound than romantic ones. sometimes, romantic relationships carry their own set of complexities and emotional investments 🤷♂️. while it's unfortunate what happened with nevaeh and denver, perhaps it's an opportunity to reevaluate and strengthen your social network. i once had a disagreement with friends that felt like the end of the world, but it led to forming deeper bonds with others. these experiences can be transformative and guide us toward more meaningful connections 🌟. sending positive vibes your way.
friendship breakups, yeah they're rough, but i'm not sure they're worse than relationship breakups. people seem to handle these things differently 😕. it sucks you had to deal with such a toxic situation with nevaeh and denver though. but maybe it's just a sign to move on and find people who vibe better with you. i've seen friendships drift apart all the time; sometimes it's just how life goes. stay strong, better days are ahead 💪.
friendship breakups can be challenging; however, i'm not entirely convinced they're more significant than romantic ones. both have their own dynamics. "changes happen for a reason," and while it's tough what you went through with nevaeh and denver, there's a chance this could lead to better friendships down the road. it's an opportunity for growth and learning. stay optimistic and remember, "every ending is a new beginning" 😊.
i totally get where you're coming from; friendship breakups are seriously underestimated. a lot of people don't recognize how deep those connections can be. "people move on," they say, but it's not that simple. losing a friend like nevaeh after having such a strong bond and shared experiences can feel like a punch in the gut. the emotional turmoil and lack of support are real and exhausting, no sugarcoating it. honestly, it's messed up how society just brushes these breakups off. it's like no one wants to admit that friendships can sometimes hold just as much weight as romantic relationships.
friendship breakups can be tough, no doubt, but i'm not entirely sure they're more intense than romantic breakups. both types of relationships have their nuances and complexities. i've been through both, and each has its own emotional weight to carry. when you say, "it's like breaking up with 10 people at once," i get that it feels overwhelming, but sometimes these endings can lead you to healthier connections. once after losing a friend, i found it was an opportunity to evaluate what i really valued in my relationships. it's unfortunate what happened with nevaeh and denver 😕; however, sometimes people just grow apart. sending positive vibes your way and hoping you find the support you need to deal with this. 💪💫
friendship breakups can be painful, but i wouldn't say they're inherently worse than romantic ones. each has its own emotional intensity. the feelings of betrayal and loneliness you experienced with nevaeh and denver are definitely tough; however, friendships sometimes fade or shift, and that's just part of life. i've found that while it feels overwhelming initially, these breakups can also create opportunities for personal growth and new connections. it's important to remember that not every friendship is meant to last forever, and sometimes outgrowing people is just as natural as growing closer to others. i hope you find peace and better friendships moving forward 😊.
friendship breakups can indeed be challenging, but I would not necessarily claim they're harder than romantic breakups. both types of relationships have their own unique dynamics and emotional investments. while it's unfortunate that things ended with nevaeh and denver in such a hurtful way, it's also an opportunity for growth. "every cloud has a silver lining," and sometimes, ending certain friendships opens the door to more fulfilling connections. hold onto hope, as new and healthier friendships may be just around the corner.
friendship breakups can seriously suck; i mean, they are often way more painful than people think!!! the emotional bonds and history you have with friends can run deep, so i totally get it. your story about nevaeh and denver hits hard; it's tough to be in a situation where people turn against you. i've been in similar situations and know how lonely that can feel. but why do people act so hurtful when friendships end??? it's just not fair when you're left dealing with all the emotional fallout on your own. stay strong, these experiences can make you stronger!!! 💪