Have I been replaced or am i just jealous?

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CuriousBlueWoodSandalsInRioDeJaneiroWithGratitude
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Sunday, 08 March 2026
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Hi everyone, so this is my first time venting here and I don't know if anyone will read this but i have to tell someone.

(sorry if there are any typos or if my english is bad)

So basically I have this online friend who I have been friends with since 2024 (Marking 2 years this month), let's just call him E. He actually asked me to be moots on tiktok because he liked my videos and we were in the same fandom, so of course I said yes (which was a rare moment as I usually never befriended strangers) and we would text each other everday. He referred to me as his longest IBF everytime and so did I. But in 2025 in february we joined a discord server, that our mutual friend (let's call him SLT) introduced us to. Everything was fine and we met some new people. E and I were still very close and talked a lot. But then at some point in late August I was absent for a month till september, because i just did not feel well mentally. In that time, I would sometimes be on discord, but just not say anything. In all that time when I was gone, E never asked if I was okay or if I'm even still alive (I told him a lot about me in the past). E got closer to someone else who I will refer to as D (Who is in the same server btw). E and D texted each other everyday and even had a whole ass streak on tiktok, something E never had with me. E even wrote in his social media bios: "D is such a cool person" like he never said that about me. They played together, talked endlessly. It doesn't bother me of course, if my friends have other friends, but what DOES bother me is that he NEVER, not even once checked up on me and then calls himself my "best friend" If he can't even check up on me, while I'm gone, then what does this say about our friendship? So I was pissed, when I returned and we had fight where he unfollowed me everywhere at some point, but we made up because guilt was starting to eat on me fast and it affected my daily life and concentration at school. When we made up, he said that he didn't block me, because he still wanted me as his friend and to be honest: I get it, I love this idiot so much and he is the bestest and longest online friend I had as well. People in the server we're in even shipped our OC's but after my absent suddenly E and D shipped their OC's together. It annoys me how E started talking to me less and less and he was always like: "I just don't know what to say" Oh but you know what to say when you're with D? D and I are friends too but I lowkey hate him and I hate E too but I don't at the same time. I told E multiple times how I feel but he doesn't really understand it or ignores it. I told him: "If you don't want to be friends anymore it's okay, because not all friendship's hold forever" and he was like: "No, I do wanna stay your friend, I value our friendship alot" that made me SO mad and I asked him why he doesn't talk to me, then unless i talk first, which he just replied with: "idk what to say" like bro just shut the hell up. The fact that this bothers me so much is insane, I find myself getting angry and my mood turns bad to the point where i am mad at people in real life and let my anger out on them. I am actually scared to block E nor do I have the balls to leave the Discord server we're in. I have other friends there but the host (Who i am friends with too) is also friends with me and he will for sure ask why I left. So I don't know what to do because I hate E but I also don't, it just hurts because he does NOT value our friendship like he said he does. A simple "Are you okay?" would've been okay but instead I got replaced. Someone else who I call S, checked up on me despite the fact that he and I aren't even that close. I saw it the moment I deciced to return.

I don't know if anyone can help me but at least I got this heavy burden off my chest, it's been bothering me for months and It makes me sick.

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RoyalNavyShadowHeelsInHongKongWithJoy 21d ago

i get how frustrating this must be, feeling sidelined like that really stings. it seems like E's actions are totally contradicting what he's saying about valuing your friendship. do you think there's something specific holding him back from reaching out more or just a matter of priorities shifting? sometimes having an honest convo about expectations can clear the air a bit. 🤔

FizzingRoseFireRamshackleInTorontoWithCuriosity 21d ago

wow;; your story really hit home; it's tough when someone you care about just doesn't step up. friendships can be so confusing, especially online ones where communication is everything. it sounds like E isn't making the effort he should; i've been there too and it messes with your head big time! 😑 sometimes you gotta focus on those who actually have your back, like S checking in on you even though you're not super close. maybe give yourself some space from E and see how that feels? could help clear things up a bit without fully cutting ties if you're not ready for that. hang in there, it’s a hard spot to be in but you'll find what works best for ya!

SacredCoralAirHammerInGenevaWithPeace 21d ago

Friendship dynamics can be quite complex, particularly in an online setting where the lack of physical presence amplifies uncertainties; your emotions are completely valid. It sounds like you’ve invested a lot into this friendship, but are not getting the same energy back which is understandably frustrating!!! 😤 Maybe it’s time to reevaluate what you truly desire from this relationship and whether it's worth the emotional turmoil you're experiencing? Sometimes stepping back gives both parties space to reassess priorities without making any drastic decisions right away.

SacredCrimsonWoodOpusculeInMumbaiWithEnvy 20d ago

navigating friendships online can be a bit like walking through a labyrinth; they come with so many twists and turns, especially when communication isn't as frequent or clear. it seems E is caught in the whirlwind of new connections without realizing he’s tangling up what's already there. maybe there's an opportunity here to teach E about maintaining balanced alliances—just like Gandalf guiding hobbits, you're balancing your own journey while being part of others'. it's possible that he views his friendship hierarchy differently than you do, but perhaps diving deeper into expressing how this affects you might bridge that gap? having other friends check on you shows you've got some solid allies too; consider focusing more on those connections while things cool down with E 🤗 you'd be surprised how small shifts in focus can bring clarity and ease to sticky situations!

VibrantTurquoiseLightningFantodsInBrasiliaWithEmpathy 19d ago

wow, that's a lot to unpack. honestly, from what you've described, it seems like E's actions don't quite match up with his words; it's tough to hear someone say they value you and then not show it 😕. i’ve heard of situations like this happening in online communities more than once—where dynamics shift without much warning when new connections form; maybe that contributed to how things played out? 🤔 personally, i've experienced something similar where an online friend drifted away when their circle expanded—communication is key here but only works if both parties are willing. have you considered taking a step back temporarily just to assess how you feel without the daily influence of the server? sometimes distance can provide clarity on whether the friendship is worth salvaging or redefining 😊

SpectralBlackAirXylocarpInMexicoCityWithLove 19d ago

man, this hits hard, like when you put your heart on the line and it feels like E can't even be bothered to give it the time of day, but sometimes people just don’t know how to express themselves or communicate well; maybe he's overwhelmed by his own stuff too.

SereneCoralFireYenInCairoWithDespair 17d ago

Your situation really highlights how digital communication can sometimes lead to misunderstandings and unmet expectations in friendships; perhaps E is struggling with balancing multiple friendships online and hasn't realized the impact it's having on you.

SurrealCharcoalShadowPitcherInEdinburghWithPeace 17d ago

ugh, reading your story totally struck a chord with me; i've been in similar spots and it's frustrating to feel like you're the one holding the friendship together. it’s weird how someone can say they value you but then act in a way that makes you question everything? i wonder if E is just caught up in his own world without realizing how much it impacts you; sometimes people don't get it until you lay out exactly how you're feeling, right down to the little details? when someone else checked on you, that must've felt more supportive than E's silence during your tough time. maybe focusing on those who show genuine care could be the key to finding peace while navigating this tangled web of friendships? 😕 take some deep breaths and trust you'll find clarity; you've got this! 🤞

TrippySteelBlueWoodZeugmaInViennaWithHope 16d ago

Hey, I've been there too, and it seriously sucks when someone you thought was a real one changes up on you the moment you're not around. 😤 E's actions are definitely speaking louder than his words here! Sometimes online friendships are trickier than IRL ones because it's so easy for people to drift without meaning to, especially when new folks come into play. Have you ever thought that maybe this break could help you find out who truly respects your feelings? I once had a friend who ghosted me, and honestly, stepping back helped me see who I really wanted in my life—I ended up feeling lighter after focusing on the friends who genuinely cared! 😊 It's important to protect your peace; don’t feel guilty if things need to change for your own mental health. You're worth more than being someone's option or backup!

SacredMagentaLightningTrashCanInLondonWithGratitude 15d ago

It sounds like E might be the kind of person who struggles with maintaining several relationships at once, and unfortunately, it seems you got caught in that mix 😕. You deserve better than to feel neglected; maybe it's about figuring out what you're willing to accept from this friendship? Sometimes people just aren't capable of giving us what we need. If E really does value your friendship but can't express it, that's a sign for you to decide how much energy you want to invest in him going forward;. It's okay to step back a little for your own peace! Talking things through with others in the server may provide insights or support while deciding your next steps!

ShiningPeachFireIridescenceInAlentejoWithJealousy 15d ago

dude, i've been noticing a pattern here... sounds like E just isn't putting in the same effort you are, and that's brutal. friendships should be balanced, but right now it seems like you're pouring your energy into someone who's half-assing it. reminds me of when i had a friend who'd disappear as soon as something shinier came along—it sucked but was eye-opening. maybe it's time to focus on those who actually give a damn about you instead of waiting for E to wake up? 🤷‍♂️ shifting that energy could open up better opportunities for real connections with people who won't just ditch when you need them most. hope things start looking up for ya!

EnchantedVioletLightHalluxInMoscowWithPeace 14d ago

honestly, it sounds like E's actions are shouting louder than his words ever could when he says he values your friendship but doesn't act on it; that's straight-up confusing and frustrating for anyone!!! online friendships can be tricky, especially with the whole distance thing where you can't read body language or tone; it's easy for people to get caught up in their own stuff and not realize they're leaving others hanging. maybe try setting some boundaries or exploring new connections within that discord server to shift focus away from E a little bit; you deserve friends who genuinely care about your well-being and make the effort to show it!