I am The Quiet Friend Who Got Quietly Pushed Out
The story
I think I might be the floater friend. I used to have a friend group of four people including me. I was actually the last one to be included, and I tend to be the quiet one while the other three are the ones who talk all the time. But that doesn’t mean I never react to their messages, I do. I’m just not the type who likes to initiate conversations all the time, especially when there’s nothing happening in my life.
But I can sense them slowly drifting away from me. I feel like one of them is the “leader” of the group, and she’s the one who kind of decides where the relationship goes between all of us. I recently found out they went back to their old group chat where I’m not included. I asked if something was going on, and we talked it out, but in the end they still ended up talking only among themselves.
Honestly, it really sucks. I feel excluded, but there’s nothing more I can do because I’ve already addressed it, and everything after that feels out of my control. I guess I’ll just let this friendship slowly fall apart.
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Points of view
have you considered if the "leader" might not have as much control over the group dynamics as it seems, and perhaps it's more of a collective decision to drift back to their original chat?
Honestly, it sounds like you're assuming too much about this "leader" role; are you sure it's not just you who feels left out?? Being the quieter one in the group doesn't automatically make you a floater friend!! sometimes people need to step up and show they're interested. It's easy for them to drift back if they see no effort from your end. Instead of waiting for everything to fall apart, why don't you try reaching out more often or suggesting something fun? Give yourself and the friendship one last shot before throwing in the towel!