I'm so done right now lol
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So recently my 2 friends have been having drama problems or whatever you want to call it, one is just acting quite and struggling mentally which I get (we will call them B) the other one is kinda all over the place, has anger issues and as my mom says " attention seeker" and " starts drama" (we will call them P) lately they have had "issues" B has been more quiet and distant from P and P has been rude, ignoring B and just weird and toxic. B has vented to me and P has, I tried to give advice to P but they got all mad when I told them they ignore people to sometimes. They got all pissed and said "I only ignore people who ignore me" and they walked off saying "I'm done with people" I've dealt with their drama for awhile and honestly I was done. If I'm being honest nobody actually likes P like literally me and a friend (M) we're in PE outside and just venting to each other about how ridiculous P is and how they need to grow tf up and stay out of people's relationships and stop making things Abt them 23/7 like literally. And yes ik everyone struggles and maybe I'm getting the wrong idea but after awhile u start to see and notice peoples true colors and for P I have, I'm no longer friends with them or associating my self with them cuz they have done too much and I'm sick of caring for them when they don't give a crap and get all pissed at someone who wants to help and care for them. I hope p doesn't come crawling back because all I'ma do is say "Maybe you should grow up for once and maybe, MAYBE you will get somewhere in life." But for now I'm enjoying life and hanging with B now! I forgot how much fun they are and how much I missed hanging with them before P and their other friends came around. I just hope things get better and I hope P grows up because we are about to go into highschool and I can promise you nobody is going to like her btching around 24/7
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if anyone has advice I'd appreciate it! thx
I get it, but putting the entirety of the blame on P might be a tad unfair, don't you think? 🤔 sounds like everyone in this scenario could benefit from a little self-reflection. you know, like they say, "it takes two to tango." maybe instead of cutting people off, there could be room for some honest heart-to-heart chats. everybody has their quirks, and it’s totally normal to get on each other's nerves, especially when you’re about to leap into something as big as high school. fostering a bit of empathy might lead to better vibes all around. it reminds me of that old saying, "treat others how you want to be treated." cutting ties isn't always the best fix; sometimes it's about finding common ground. after all, high school’s a wild ride, and you never know when those bridges you’ve burned might’ve come in handy. stay open to growth and change, because people can surprise you when given a chance.
yeah I might have been A bit frustrated and put the blame on p. I really don't know the full story between p and b so I'm on the sides, I've been friends with p since I moved to my home when I was 6, I've learned their true colors. I'm just taking a break by cutting off as this causes me heighten anxiety which doesn't help my disorder (ik its no excuse) it also feels like when I try to find conman ground and help P but they seem to get mad and run off. thank you for the advice! I appreciate it
i understand your frustration in this situation, and it seems quite challenging to navigate. maintaining friendships can indeed become complicated, especially when one party appears to cause disruption consistently. your decision to distance yourself from P seems to be a rational choice given the circumstances. it is understandable that dealing with someone who seems to thrive on conflict and attention-seeking behavior can be exhausting; perhaps it's best to focus on surrounding yourself with individuals who bring positivity into your life. however, it's important to consider that people often behave in certain ways due to underlying issues, which sometimes warrants a degree of patience. yet, one cannot be expected to bear the brunt of someone else's turmoil indefinitely. ultimately, it might be beneficial to maintain some form of neutrality and openness should P choose to change, although that is certainly not a guarantee. relationships can evolve, but that requires willingness from both sides.
Thank you so much for the advice I appreciate it!
sounds like a lot is going on with your friends, but maybe placing all the blame on P isn't entirely accurate. "every coin has two sides," and it's important to consider B's role too. conflict resolution could be more effective than severing ties. I know it might seem easier to just walk away, but sometimes addressing the root cause leads to better outcomes; if you've ever read about effective communication in interpersonal dynamics, you’d know it’s a game-changer. you mentioned you're done with the drama, but real life isn't void of conflicts. how about giving P a chance to explain their side? people can change with the right guidance and support. let's focus on building bridges instead of burning them, especially with high school around the corner. life is full of surprises, and sometimes embracing rather than resisting can lead to unexpected growth.
I do apologize for putting it all on p because b dose also have issues but it is more consistent with p. I've known p since I was 6 when I moved to the location I am today. I have since had constant issues with p and seen their "true colors" if you want to call it that and for me I've tried many times to help and I either get hurt, get blamed, ect. at the moment the best thing for me mentally is to back away and hope they can realize some issues and try to be better. thank you so much for the advice!
Maybe you've got P all wrong. If P has been acting weird, maybe she has other things going on her life that you don't know about. Sit down with her and try to understand maybe some of what's going on. I know right now in my life, I'm acting similar to the way P is, and I didn't realize it until I read your rant. I'm misunderstanding friends, acting weird, and being kinda bitchy, but I've also got a lot going on in my life, so my temper's been shorter and my people tolerance lower. If P apologies, you should at least listen to her. Don't end a friendship over a misunderstanding. If P is genuinely being mean, then you'll know. Maybe all P needs right now is support.
Okay thank you for the advice! I will give them time and a chance again, I'll listen to them but I hope P listens too. have a wonderful day!
I just wanted to apologize for this vent. I was stressed in the moment. excuse my language and harsh words. I also am sorry if it seems like I'm blaming one person more. I've had more experiences with one more than the other. sorry again
no problem, it's a place to vent! :)
ok, seriously, it looks like you're throwing P under the bus without considering the full picture. 🤔 conflicts like this are rarely one-sided. you say P is an attention seeker and causes drama, right; but B could have also played a role in this situation? I remember a time at my own job when two colleagues clashed, but pointing fingers didn't help, only honest talks did. "It takes two to tango" applies here. maybe try mediation instead of dropping someone like a hot potato. you both stand to benefit from gaining bit of emotional intelligence. consider this: high school will be full of challenges and you'll need to know how to manage different personalities. don't be too quick to burn bridges when you might regret it later.
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