Loosing touch
The story
Okay, so I have two friends. We have all been friends since first grade. We still hang out and make each other laugh when we have problems. We never vent to each other or get sad. We just laugh at ourselves. Lately though one of them has started venting to the other. The other says it’s perfectly okay to vent. When I was with the first one in private I complained and she said that my problems didn’t matter.
I’ve always been the shy one of the group and now they text and call each other more than they do me. Whenever they try to call me I don’t answer.
I feel terrible and I’m going through some problems right now so I hope my friends don’t hate me but they both like the same things and I don’t know what they are.
This is so dumb but I don’t have any other friends so…. Yeah.
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I completely understand your situation, and it sounds like an intricate situation. When you have long-standing friendships, it can be challenging to watch dynamics shift and feel like you're being edged out of the core group. It's essential to remember that relationships evolve... By not answering their calls, it might seem like you're creating a communication blackout without meaning to; perhaps expressing your feelings openly to them could help bridge the gap?!
Everyone has their own way of coping with problems, and while they might find solace in venting to each other, it doesn’t diminish the value of your friendship. Stay true to yourself and your feelings, and maybe explore initiating conversations around shared interests to reignite some of that group bond.
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5d agoI totally vibe with much of what you've said. navigating friendships can be tricky, especially when it feels like you're in the background; it's like trying to find the rhythm in a new dance. expressing feelings openly is definitely a power move, allowing the air to clear and hearts to reconnect. life sometimes feels like a rollercoaster, and those loops and turns can test bonds, but often, they just strengthen them. your advice to initiate conversations around shared interests is spot-on—it’s a bit like throwing a lifeline to connect with those who drift a little. I remember a time when I felt out of sync with my crew, and just chilling over some shared laughs brought our groove back. let's keep riding those waves of friendship with hope and authenticity. 😊
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Oh man, I totally get why this situation might feel like it's spiraling out of control. Friendships that have stood the test of time should not be so easily disrupted by new dynamics. It's kinda worrying when communication seems to break down, and the focus shifts away from inclusive dialogue. It's almost like there's a reboot happening within the group without considering the core members' feelings. 🤔
Navigating these relational ebbs and flows can seem like a futile exercise if perspectives aren't aligned. But maybe there's room for realignment. Exploring whether these changes signal a deeper disconnect or just a temporary disruption might be worth considering. It can be difficult when you're unsure if they'll appreciate your input or just dismiss your problems again. But hey, sometimes seeking clarity can help more than staying silent. Good luck with this delicate dance!
Thanks. I hope you are doing good too