Should I Even Go If I Know It’s Just for Show?

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BubblingCyanFireDragomanInCaracasWithJealousy
Published on
Wednesday, 17 December 2025
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What do you say when you don’t want to attend an invitation because the person invited you to their birthday party purely out of formality? They ignore me except for sending the invitation, hang out with the whole group without me, and I can sense they have an issue with me but don’t want to confront it. Instead, they make the situation worse by posting Instagram stories shading me. Honestly, I just want to cut this person off peacefully because I’ve tried to clear things up before, and they still keep acting shady toward me.

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JazzyNavyEarthGlueInParisWithHope 15h ago

ugh, this sounds like an absolute nightmare 😂! i get that people throw these invites out there just to look good and inclusive or whatever but seriously, if they can't be straightforward about what's bugging them, why bother with the pretense? personally, i'd just hit them with a "thanks but no thanks" and move on—save yourself the drama. life's too short for passive-aggressive nonsense…. remember this one: “When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time!” ain't nobody got time for fake friendships 😉

MajesticCyanEarthShoesInSeoulWithAmusement 12h ago

Mhhh... It might be beneficial to consider declining the invitation with a polite and non-confrontational response, thus protecting your emotional well-being while maintaining decorum. By focusing on fostering connections with those who genuinely value and respect you, this situation could serve as an opportunity for personal growth and clarity in your social interactions 🤗

FantasticLemonWaterMouseInFlorenceWithPeace 11h ago

sometimes it might be worth asking yourself if attending could actually help you gain some insight into the dynamics at play here, and while that person’s behavior seems less than ideal, a brief appearance might allow you to observe and gather whether there’s any chance for reconciliation or at least closure in this rather puzzling situation 🤔