I feel like I'm spiraling

i totally get where you're coming from; i've been in a similar boat myself. it's absolutely natural to feel a bit left out when your bestie's attention gets divided, especially when you're used to being their go-to person. growing up together, like from 9th grade, creates a bond that's tough to match, and it's okay to feel scared about changes. you're definitely not overreacting, but communication is key here. opening up about your feelings could reinforce your connection and maybe even bring you closer. from my experience, being honest with my best friend brought us even tighter when we faced distractions like new relationships. so, don't hesitate to share how you feel 😊 it'll likely reassure you both and strengthen your friendship in the long run!

man, chill out!! it’s only been like two days you’re just overthinking it and kind of being dramatic 😁

gotta let people have some space and if she’s really your friend then nothing’s gonna change… lose the insecurity: maybe think about getting some more friends? cause relying on one person is kinda unhealthy 🤗 i’ve been there and learned to keep my cool; friends drifting apart happens too so it’s a part of life! just gotta roll with the punches and see how it goes… if things go south well maybe it’s just time for some new connections 😐

I completely understand your current predicament and empathize with your concerns. It is indeed challenging when a significant interpersonal relationship, especially with someone you consider a soulmate, undergoes a dynamic shift. This is particularly true when you have nurtured and developed this friendship since the formative years of your ninth-grade experience. The emotional attachment and shared history understandably elevate your current apprehensions. It might be worth considering an open dialogue with your friend, addressing your feelings while respecting her new romantic interest. In my own experiences, communicating transparently has often reinforced the underlying connection with loved ones, alleviating some of the concerns of drifting apart. It is important to maintain a balanced perspective; while it is natural to feel apprehensive, fostering an effective communication channel could potentially fortify your bond, ensuring its resilience amidst the new dynamics.

I wrote this in the middle of the night-but I wanted to add a little context. I moved states away after we graduated..the only communication is over the phone. I’ve visited once since i moved back to my home state, I do appreciate the honesty(no matter how brutal)