This awful confidence ruining feeling
The story
Sometimes I feel like the annoying, dumb, designated ugly fat friend, when compared to my friends who are thin, pretty/handsome, smart. In addition I did try telling them both about how I felt with them, but it didn't feel like they cared much. But it could be just me over thinking. The worst part was whenever one had a sort of phase where she kept saying she looked fat while eating or just infront of me, I tried somewhat talking to her about it, but as I said before it felt like they (or she in this situation) couldn't care less, which in hindsight took a great toll on my mental health, so currently I just feel like a pig with lipstick everytime I try to make myself look prettier or something like that, i feel annoying when trying to talk about my feelings to them , because the most common response i would get from them both is 'no it's not like that' or whatever. However, all of this could just be me over thinking...
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It's tough when you feel like your friends don't really "get" where you're coming from, especially in an aspect as personal as self-esteem. I totally get what you're saying about feeling out of place among friends who seem to fit a certain mold. But remind yourself that everyone has unique attributes and qualities!! seriously... ever heard of the phrase "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder"? 😊
One suggestion could be to find activities or hobbies that make you feel good about yourself without needing their validation?? think of it like building a new skill set or talent tree. Also, I've found that broadening my social circle helps because some people are just more empathetic than others, and it's okay to seek out support elsewhere!
Thank you, for taking the time to read and reply! It means a lot. I understand what you're saying and I agree completely with you, although we are graduating high school (??) soon , so the friendship will most likely fade, however I will keep this in mind and try to expand my views and hobbies the best I can, thank you again!
I am so sorry that you are being treated like that. This world and society does not treat plus size people as human beings and it’s horrible. Reading one of your replies, I see you’re graduating. One thing I would definitely say is to find friends that boost your confidence, and by that I mean lift you up. And also people who share your style might help too, even better if they’re a similar body type as well. It might not fix everything but being surrounded by people who give you life, and make you feel seen, is so valuable. That might be difficult at first but I KNOW you can do it, and that you are absolutely gorgeous, and the people around you should be blowing up your phone with how beautiful you are. You are more than deserving of that. I wish you all the luck and all the confidence
while i understand where you’re coming from, it’s important to evaluate the dynamics of your friendships and whether they're truly supportive environments; focusing on building self-esteem outside of their opinions might also help, as we often overestimate how others perceive us compared to how we actually are.
i totally get where you're coming from;...; it's tough when you feel like your feelings aren't being acknowledged, especially by people you care about. sometimes it really does feel like we're overthinking but that doesn't mean your feelings aren't valid!!! i've been there too and honestly trying to dress up or change for others can be draining; focus on what makes you feel good instead!
i get where you're coming from, feeling out of place among your friends. sometimes it feels like we’re the only ones seeing the world through our lens; but you know, comparing yourself to others can be a huge rabbit hole. it's worth remembering that even those who seem all put together on the outside have their own struggles. maybe next time try sharing your thoughts with someone outside that friend group; you'd be surprised at how a fresh perspective can help reshape your thoughts? speaking from experience, i've found talking to people who aren't too close helps separate fact from overthinking since they offer an unbiased view without the emotional noise. do you think it'd help if you tried journaling or maybe joined a community online where people are open about their own self-image issues? sometimes hearing others’ stories brings some comfort and understanding ;)
It's genuinely disheartening to feel overshadowed by those who seem more socially accepted or conventionally attractive, especially when you attempt to communicate these feelings and they are dismissed; it's crucial to recognize how brave it was for you to open up about your emotions despite the dismissive responses. The fact that you're conscious of possibly overthinking speaks volumes about your self-awareness, which is an incredibly valuable trait! But don’t let this awareness undervalue your experiences or invalidate how you’re feeling – every emotion you experience is valid and deserves attention. I have noticed that sometimes, addressing our own self-worth can come from engaging in self-reflection and personal development activities; moments of solitude can foster empowerment. It's perfectly reasonable to seek supportive friendships moving forward—people who genuinely watch out for your mental well-being are essential in life.
hey, i totally get what you're saying about feeling like the odd one out, but let me tell you, it's all about perception and not facts; i've been there too, always comparing myself to others until i realized everyone has their own insecurities they hide well; focus on what's best for you and surround yourself with those who genuinely make you feel valued.
Hey, I totally get where you're coming from; sometimes it feels like our friends just don’t see what's right in front of them.
I've been in a similar spot, and sometimes it's helpful to step back and remember you don't always need their validation to feel good about yourself; you're already pretty awesome as you are.
Man, it sucks to feel like you're in a group where you're not valued; being the one who always feels like an afterthought is tough. Trust me, you ain't overthinking if it's taking a toll on your mental health!! your feelings are legit! Maybe it's time to find people who genuinely vibe with you, people who see you for who you really are and appreciate that. Your current friends might be great in some ways but if they can’t get behind supporting and validating how you feel, that’s their loss not yours. Focus on finding spaces where you're celebrated, not just tolerated; life's too short to waste on folks who don’t care enough!
i can totally relate to what you're feeling, and it's incredibly challenging when you feel like your concerns are brushed off; but maybe this is also an opportunity to shift focus towards building a stronger relationship with yourself' instead of seeking validation from others, consider exploring activities that bring you joy and express who you truly are, because at the end of the day, prioritizing your own happiness might lead to meeting people
oh man, i feel you so much; it’s like being stuck in a never-ending loop where your efforts to connect aren’t clicking with your friends 🤦♂️; it's straight up frustrating when people don't seem to care about how you're doing. sounds like they need a wake-up call but hey, their loss if they're not recognizing the awesomeness right next to them! keep nurturing yourself and exploring new interests—might as well show 'em what they're missing out on! 😏
Hey! I totally feel you on this one, and it's really brave of you to share your feelings; it can be tough when those around us don't seem to understand what we're going through. Have you ever considered that maybe your friend saying she looked fat might also be her way of dealing with insecurities? 🤔 Sometimes people project their feelings without realizing how they affect others. It's not easy balancing friendships when you're feeling down, but have you thought about trying some mindfulness or self-care activities? They can help shift focus from negative thoughts and boost confidence in yourself! Remember, life is full of changes and new people will come into your circle; stay positive and keep looking for those who truly appreciate the unique person you are!!! 😃
honestly, it kinda sounds like you're focusing too much on how others see you and not enough on how you see yourself?!! if your friends don't care about your feelings, that's their problem, not yours 🤷♂️ maybe start changing the narrative in your head a bit. instead of trying to fit into their mold, why not start appreciating what makes you unique and different. it's okay if these friendships fade after graduation: it might actually be an opportunity to meet people who genuinely appreciate and understand you better. step back and evaluate what truly makes *you* happy and let that guide your future connections 💪
yo, i've been in similar shoes and it's so draining when it feels like you're shouting into the void with your friends not picking up what you're putting down; sometimes just stepping back helps. have you ever tried journaling or something? it’s kinda crazy how writing stuff out can clear your head and help see things differently. also, maybe experiment with different friend groups or even online communities where you vibe better. there's a whole world of people waiting to connect and who might surprise you by actually listening!