This awful confidence ruining feeling
The story
Sometimes I feel like the annoying, dumb, designated ugly fat friend, when compared to my friends who are thin, pretty/handsome, smart. In addition I did try telling them both about how I felt with them, but it didn't feel like they cared much. But it could be just me over thinking. The worst part was whenever one had a sort of phase where she kept saying she looked fat while eating or just infront of me, I tried somewhat talking to her about it, but as I said before it felt like they (or she in this situation) couldn't care less, which in hindsight took a great toll on my mental health, so currently I just feel like a pig with lipstick everytime I try to make myself look prettier or something like that, i feel annoying when trying to talk about my feelings to them , because the most common response i would get from them both is 'no it's not like that' or whatever. However, all of this could just be me over thinking...
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Points of view
It's tough when you feel like your friends don't really "get" where you're coming from, especially in an aspect as personal as self-esteem. I totally get what you're saying about feeling out of place among friends who seem to fit a certain mold. But remind yourself that everyone has unique attributes and qualities!! seriously... ever heard of the phrase "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder"? 😊
One suggestion could be to find activities or hobbies that make you feel good about yourself without needing their validation?? think of it like building a new skill set or talent tree. Also, I've found that broadening my social circle helps because some people are just more empathetic than others, and it's okay to seek out support elsewhere!
Thank you, for taking the time to read and reply! It means a lot. I understand what you're saying and I agree completely with you, although we are graduating high school (??) soon , so the friendship will most likely fade, however I will keep this in mind and try to expand my views and hobbies the best I can, thank you again!