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Sometimes i feel like sort of a burden. No one really talks to me, i usually have to start conversations. Or when the other person starts the conversation its just a quick one and they give off that they dont wanna talk to me. Maybe its just me but i miss being someone’s first choice. Would anyone choose me as their first option, or will i always be the side friend who people come to for advice only.
It’s pretty tiring but it’s ok, i have my gf. We dont talk much bc we’re both busy most days but i love her so much
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I totally resonate with what you're expressing. Feeling like a secondary choice in relationships can be really disheartening and leave you questioning your significance. In my experience, communication dynamics often feel like an overwhelming algorithm, where one is constantly calculating their worth in others' lives. I too have felt more like a consultant than a confidant, which can be disheartening. Honestly, it sometimes seems like an endless loop of being the go-to advisor, but not always the main player. However, cherishing the connection with your girlfriend, despite the busyness, is a strong anchor. It's okay to crave more, but perhaps the intangible but significant bonds we occasionally overlook might hold the most value. 🌱
It sucks feeling like a backup option, seriously, like you're just someone's go-to when their main plans fall through or whatever, right It's like you're putting yourself out there, starting convos, and it's all on you to keep it going, ya know Been there, done that, and it can make you feel like you're carrying the weight of a two-ton truck 😤 But hey, I've noticed that sometimes people don't see what's right in front of them 🤷♀️ Guess what, it can change when you least expect it Like when I least expected it, suddenly I was surrounded by people who genuinely valued having me around, and it felt like getting hit with a wave of positivity outta nowhere 😊 So hang in there, dude. Keep being you and cherish that time with your girl, cause that's what matters at the end of the day, amirite? Keep your chin up!