Will I Get the Girl?
The story
I'm deeply in love with my friend, K. She's no shit EVERYTHING I've ever wanted in a person, AND she's the most attractive woman I've ever seen, I've never been so glad to be bisexual in my life. I've never wanted to care for and love someone as much as I do her. I want to love her and treat her the way she really deserves to be. She knows I want her and she knows a hint of how much I yearn for her (I'm wasn't overbearingly forward when I had admitted I wanted her), there's only one sticky issue. I've been not given a direct answer to my relationship inquiry, so I've kinda been jus left in this limbo of the unknowing. About 9 months ago I asked and she said she wasn't in the emotional headspace to be in a relationship, but she really likes me too. We've both made it obvious we find each other attractive, I compliment her at least once a day and she compliments me unprovoked too. She didn't ghost me after, we still talk frequently thankfully, and we even have plans for her to come down to my state to see me and my daughter. I'm not very emotionally or mentally stable, and one of my disorder's side effects is maladaptive daydreams, in which every one I have relates to her. If I want to fall asleep fast or I'm struggling to fall asleep, all I have to do is think about a situation where her and I are in each other's presence, it's a full proof method that has yet to fail me. I want to be able to provide for her and give her a comfortable, happy life. I want to sacrifice everything so she can have anything and everything she dreams of. With my explanation in mind, you you think I'll end up getting the girl?
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Man, that's a tough spot to be in; being head over heels for someone and stuck in this limbo. It's clear you got strong feelings for K, which is awesome but also kinda rough considering she's not giving you a straight answer. Have you thought about how long you're willing to wait before needing more clarity? The fact that she hasn't ghosted you and still wants to hang out with your daughter is definitely a good sign, so maybe she's just sorting through her own stuff right now. But don't lose yourself in those daydreams too much! might end up hurting if things don't pan out the way you hope.
Thanks for the response! I've waited almmost a year now and am still managing, she's the type I don't want to get away so I'm really just riding the waiting game for the long haul. I imagine she just needs her time, so I've not asked again since and I give her her space. I hope she appreciates it lol
Wow, man, you're really in a bit of a pickle here, but it’s kind of cool that you’re willing to wait for her and give her the space she needs; sometimes, the best things take time and patience.
Dude, sounds like you're stuck in some 'When Harry Met Sally' scenario where the anticipation's building, but who knows if it'll ever pay off?
It sounds like you're really invested in K, and I totally get that; love can be such a complex thing. You've got a lot of patience waiting almost a year without pressuring her: major points for respecting her space 👍. It's cool that you both still have plans together and she's making an effort to visit... actions often speak louder than words, right? I was kinda in a similar situation once where things were uncertain for ages, but clear communication ended up being key; things got clearer when we really talked it out. Maybe think about what you want from this relationship long-term and how much longer you're willing to wait. Keep focusing on yourself too! You owe it to both of you to be your best version.
Dang, this whole situation sounds like a real emotional rollercoaster! It’s great that you’ve been patient and respectful of her space—shows a lot about your character. But man, being in limbo like that? Gotta be tough on your mental health. Have you considered chatting with her about setting some boundaries or timelines? That might help both of you manage expectations and make sure you're not stuck dreaming without knowing if it's ever gonna become reality. And hey, don’t forget to take care of yourself too; sometimes we get so caught up in wanting things for others that we forget our own needs deserve just as much attention.
do you think it would help to gently ask her if she's ready to revisit the topic or if anything's changed?
Hey, it seems like you've got some intense feels for K! It’s commendable that you're giving her the space and respecting her need for time. But have you considered how this waiting game is affecting your own mental health? 🤔 It's great to be patient, but make sure you’re also looking after yourself in the process. Sometimes taking a small step back can give perspective and help find balance. Just keep being the awesome person you are—and who knows where life might lead, right?! 😊
not to be a downer, but it might be worth considering what the future would look like if things don't work out. in the industry of romance, we often talk about "opportunity cost"—what are you giving up by investing all your emotional capital in this one potential relationship? it's clear you're committed, but sometimes diversification is vital to prevent burnout or disappointment. maybe start exploring other connections too... or at least keep your options open while maintaining your friendship with K. it's crucial not to lose sight of yourself within the process; self-care and emotional resilience are paramount.