A layer of problems. Bad position.
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[Translated from Spanish. Reminder: IIWIARS is English only]
I don’t even know how to start, I’d like to say that I’ve talked about this with chat gpt. As of today I have no friends and I’ve never had a partner. Why do I say this? I’ve been consuming adult content for a long time accompanied by masturbation, I don’t feel good about it, chat gpt tells me it’s like an outlet for what I really feel, I never felt chosen. It’s an observation from several chats we’ve had. To finish, a week ago I had gone a month and two weeks without consuming, but I relapsed in a big way, in something that I don’t even want to say anonymously because I’m ashamed, but even so I do it again. (I had already done it before so it was a reason why I wanted to quit this habit). This habit has broken my confidence and the perception of myself as well as other people, and I don’t like it at all.
Although during the “clean” month there came a point where I still felt like a loser, I thought that by eliminating this habit I would feel capable of doing things I haven’t done, but no. I think it only makes a layer of worry, putting itself as a priority to solve my life. I haven’t had luck in this life, speaking in social relationships, however I have a family that loves me, but this makes me feel like a constant disappointment. I know that what is happening to me is something common, so if you know something that helps me under your own or another experience it would be a great help to me and I would be grateful.
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yo, I totally get where you’re coming from, man. it's tough to break habits that make you feel crappy about yourself. just gotta remind yourself that feeling like a loser sometimes doesn’t define your whole worth. everyone's got struggles. maybe trying something new like joining a hobby group or volunteering could help meet folks and boost confidence? spitballing here, but it might give ya a sense of achievement outside all this mess 🙂
Thank you for understanding me and sharing your point of view. I will take your advice into account, although I feel it will be a great challenge due to my lack of success in these social activities.
bro, i feel you on the social relationships being tough, like sometimes it feels like no matter how hard you try, nothing changes.
Man, it really sucks feeling like you're stuck in a rut with no luck in sight, but sometimes breaking old habits is just cutting through the fog a bit—doesn't always fix everything and that's frustrating.
It's rough when it feels like there's no escape from the cycle, and you're definitely not alone in this; it's awesome that you've got a family that loves you, though.
it's tough feeling stuck like that, dude. it's cool that you recognize what’s not working for you; that's a big first step. sounds like you're trying to figure things out, and even though relapsing feels crappy, it doesn't erase the progress you've made other times! sometimes slipping up happens, but what matters is ya get back on track and try again; maybe find something small that makes you feel good about yourself each day? your family's love is huge, lean into that when you're feeling rough. take baby steps, man. changes don't happen overnight 🤞 keep going!
Thank you so much for your kind words, although I've had a hard time recovering so far.
Yo, sounds like you’re really in your head about this. I've been down that rabbit hole too and it's a beast to shake off; getting caught up in habits like these can feel isolating and it sucks. Maybe start by forgiving yourself for relapsing because honestly, the shame just makes it harder to stop. You're not alone in feeling like a disappointment sometimes—everyone's got their own struggles they're dealing with quietly. Connect with what’s real around you (like family) and try doing something small that makes you happy, even if it seems silly; little wins stack up over time.
Thank you so much for your words. I have trouble with small victories because I want to change things right now, but I know I have to be patient.
hey, i hear you... it can be really challenging when you feel stuck in a cycle that eats away at your confidence. maybe it's worth considering shifting focus towards small, manageable goals that aren't tied to breaking the habit directly?? sometimes achieving simple things can build momentum and help change how we see ourselves. as for relationships, they can be tricky! being open to new experiences might give you a fresh perspective, even if it feels uncomfortable at first. you've got this 🙂
Thank you so much for your advice—I'll keep it in mind!!
man, it sounds like you're really spiraling with how this habit is impacting your self-esteem and relationships. but relying on chat gpt to analyze your feelings rather than a real conversation with someone might be keeping you in this loop (just saying). ever thought about checking out support groups or therapy for this kind of stuff? they offer more tailored advice and understanding than some automated script could. curious, how does your family fit into all this if they're supportive?
I understand what you're saying, and you're probably right. ChatGPT has helped me understand my situation, but it hasn't been enough. However, I don't know if I could open up about this to someone else.
And while I'm lucky to have a family that loves me, they don't know anything about this, and I don't think I'll find the courage to tell them.
Man, I totally get where you're coming from. It's like when I quit smoking for the millionth time and then had a really shitty day... next thing you know I'm back at it like nothing ever changed. These cycles can feel never-ending but they're just part of being human; maybe focusing on the little wins could help? Like each day you don't give in is one more step forward. Do you think there might be a way to share how you're feeling with your family?
That’s exactly it—something inside you still demands it. No matter how hard I’ve tried. People have really encouraged me to focus on small victories, though I don’t know how to get started.
My family probably thinks I’m unmotivated and aimless, but they’re patient with me because at some point in my life I was able to stick to my habits (even with this problem), but these days I feel resigned to whatever life throws at me. My family doesn’t know about this.
dude, it's rough when those habits start to shape how we see ourselves and others; it sucks to feel like you're not in control. it's important to remember that one slip-up doesn't erase your progress. honestly, sometimes we put so much pressure on ourselves thinking that quitting something will instantly transform our lives; that's super common but reality is usually messier. anyway, if you have a supportive family, maybe leaning on them can be beneficial too—they might help rebuild some confidence by reminding you of the things they appreciate about you. take it step by step!
It's awful to lose control even though I want to break this habit. It seems like such a simple thing to do, but it's been really hard not to give in to temptation. Thank you so much for your words and advice.
sometimes it feels like we're just trudging through mud trying to figure out where we belong and what makes us tick, ya know? hearing about your struggle with adult content and the whole self-worth spiral is tough, but it's so real for a lot of folks. i think what's really awesome is that you already did over a month clean; that's no small feat! even if it didn't bring the transformation you hoped for, it's still something worth acknowledging. maybe it helps to focus on small wins and be patient with yourself while exploring other areas of life, like making time for things you genuinely enjoy or learning new skills. also having that family support can be huge, even though the guilt might feel heavy sometimes.
I appreciate that you understand me. It’s hard for me to see how others fit in and are motivated by something. I thought it was because of this habit, and even though I stuck with it for a month, I feel like I’ve let myself down once again, and there’s no point in trying again. Although, of course, I know I will. I’ll try to do more activities.