Doomed to be a horrible human since birth
The story
Tw mentions of suicide and grooming
I feel like there are people predisposed to being good, then there are people like me who have to fight with every fiber of their being to go against who nature has clearly destined them to be.
I love my partner and people close to me, at least I should and there’s no reason not to, but god I think I hate them too, it’s recurring the wish that they would just die because it would make my life easier. Everytime they talk to me it’s a chore. Not that this reflects on them, they’re like a perfect person, but it’s just how I am seemingly naturally.
Other times im on the edge of my seat using every ounce of self control not to cut everyone off, run off into the woods and get myself killed because the thought is so tempting and I really wanna do it, or cut off all of my friends so I can get with another groomer because that’s really the only thing that will make me happy.
I know very well these are evil things to think very very evil selfish things that would ruin my relationships and the trust I’ve built with everyone I love , but that doesn’t change how they are the only things that feel rewarding to me like AT ALL. But on the outside I have to consciously remind myself of who I am supposed to be, a kind and perfect person that loves other people, as is the only person worth staying alive. So when they vent about how they deserve to die alone, instead of going with how I want to reply and watch them shatter ‘well yeah, you do deserve to die alone’- I go, ‘I’m sorry :( do you wanna talk about it? Im here for whatever you need.’ Because that is the normal reaction to have and the care I should have hardwired automatically, though it’s so drastically different to how I feel inside because it just????? Does not come naturally to me??? I have to wonder if literally everyone feels this way because it’s absolutely unfathomable to me why anyone would want to be alive if that was the case. People apologize like ‘sorry if im being a burden’. I’ll tell them ‘no way! Nothing can be a burden to me.’ And sometimes that’s true and I feel I can practically understand where anyone is coming from without judging. But on the other hand people having a bad day is a burden to me, people having human emotions is a burden to me, the fact I have to think about bad things happening to anyone but me is a burden to me because I want everything bad to happen to me. This is to the point I genuinely get jealous and frustrated when I see other people being abused (though ofc I know it’s not their fault and I try to help relieve their emotions and get them out of the abusive situation as a way to relieve my own unbearable jealousy. But evidently that’s not pure intent). In short, what im trying to say is everything is a burden to me, I’d rather either them die or I die than sit through another day in this shitty world that does not seem to change, and as of now I’ve lost hope in being fixed because well… my entire person is the problem . Though I proceed to go about my cheerful exterior and try to live kindly. Does anyone else feel like this or have a perspective on it? This is probably some form of derangement or something, having absolutely no selfless care for anybody, I’ll talk to my therapist about it on the 22nd. But jeez does it suck to live like this.
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Man, this sounds super intense, but I gotta say your take on this is a bit off. 🤔 People aren't just stuck being "predisposed" to bad or good—it's not some predetermined fate; we can change and grow. The fact that you recognize these thoughts as problematic is already huge. Maybe consider diving into the root cause of why everything feels like such a burden? Could be burnout or something deeper that's twisting how you're seeing things. Remember: "Not all who wander are lost." You're aware of it, so there's definitely hope if you put in the work with your therapist. Keep pushing forward!
indeed, your narrative is both nuanced and profound, unraveling the complexities of human consciousness... it's intriguing how you acknowledge these dissonant emotions yet strive to maintain a semblance of normalcy in your interactions. perhaps this dichotomy highlights an internal conflict between intrinsic desires and societal expectations, which can be taxing on one's mental health. as per the Stoics' wisdom, everything we hear is an opinion, not a fact, and everything we see is a perspective. it could be beneficial to explore these feelings further with your therapist to disentangle the layers contributing to this cognitive dissonance—your awareness itself is a beacon for potential transformation.
I could be off but you're definitely a people pleaser. You help people all the time and they don't really do the same for you so you resent them. It's not because they care less, it's because they aren't people pleasing and you aren't asking for help because of people pleasing. Of course this would cause you to be angry and burnt out. It sounds like you're just putting on a character around people but at the end of the day you feel ALL of this. Acting a certain way around a partner and friends. Even if I'm annoyed with loved ones, I don't wish death upon them or hate them pretty much all the time. If I hate someone, I Interact less or not at all whether I want to or not. Everyone dying would make your life easier because you don't have to act or people please constantly anymore. I think you want bad things to happen to you because you feel guilty thinking all this evil shit about loved ones in your life. You should know that yorie valuable on your own and don't need people please in order to keep everyone around. Someone having a bad day is supposed to be a burden, it's whether you have the capacity or not to handle it that day. How to know if it's kindness or people pleasing? Ask yourself, Is it a genuine desire to help or just fear/guilt? Will you feel good or drained/resentful? Are you compromising your own well-being? Would you feel comfortable saying no if needed? Is this a consistent pattern for you? Hope this helps<3
hey, reading through your story, I can feel the heavy weight you're carrying. it sounds like you're in a constant battle within yourself, trying to balance these conflicting emotions and societal expectations. it's tough when you feel like you're wearing a mask all the time, pretending to be this perfect person when inside everything's just swirling around chaotically. have you ever thought about exploring why you feel such intense pressure to maintain this "cheerful exterior?" sometimes digging into those reasons might reveal hidden fears or past experiences influencing your current mindset. don't lose hope; understanding that something feels off is a major step towards change. keep talking with your therapist—they might help uncover layers that lead to more clarity and peace for you in this struggle.
Balancing that kind of internal chaos is exhausting, isn't it? 😔 It's admirable how you're self-aware and still trying to project kindness even when your inner turmoil tells you otherwise!
Wow, your openness about feeling conflicted inside is pretty brave; not everyone has the guts to admit this kind of stuff. I totally get where you're coming from though—sometimes it feels like life’s weighing you down and nobody gets how exhausting it is??? You know what they say: "The darkest hour is just before the dawn." Maybe it's worth examining why you feel like you're always in this battle between who you are and who you pretend to be... Could it be some lingering past experiences or expectations you've put on yourself? You're already making strides by reaching out for therapy and trying to understand these feelings, so that shows a lot of self-awareness. Keep being real with yourself and your therapist; nothing's set in stone!
i think it's worth acknowledging that your feelings might stem from a deeper existential struggle rather than just being inherently "bad" or "good," and maybe what you're experiencing is a form of cognitive dissonance where your values clash with your actions; perhaps looking into existential therapy could provide some clarity on your inner turmoil, focusing on how you find meaning in life despite these conflicting emotions; one potential angle to consider
i hear you, but honestly, this whole "predisposed to being bad" thing is a bit overblown. feels like you're hiding behind that instead of tackling the real issue—what's really eating at you? yeah, life can be overwhelming and people annoying as hell sometimes, trust me we've all been there. wanting bad things just 'cause makes it easier isn't gonna solve shit in the long run. maybe try focusing on what genuinely brings you joy instead of getting caught up in this doom spiral? it's definitely something worth hashing out with your therapist because change isn’t impossible. don't give up so easily!
It sounds like you're really struggling with these intense thoughts, but I think it's important to recognize that wanting to run away from everything or feeling burdened might be more about a deep dissatisfaction with your current life situation rather than an inherent lack of care for others.
this might be a bit blunt, but your perspective seems unnecessarily bleak; it's like you're accepting this as your inevitable fate when it doesn't have to be???? the concept of people being inherently good or bad is way too deterministic—everyone's capable of change. maybe you're stuck in this loop because you’re not addressing the root causes behind these feelings yet??? ever thought about why everything feels like a burden instead of just reacting to it? breaking down those complex emotions with your therapist could actually help more than just staying on the surface level of misery. sure, life sucks sometimes, but actively working through that negativity might lead you to a more balanced outlook;
I’m sorry I know all of you told me I should look on the bright side and I appreciated reading every one of your replies so so much and I’m trying to stick out to the 22nd but I don’t know if I can do this having emotions is genuinely so painful and I hate everyone so much right now I want to cry and scream and block all of them and run away I seriously just can’t do this I can’t deal with everything and I can’t tell anyone because it makes me feel so damn stupid and I don’t want to turn into someone abusive Ik im acting like a baby but I just can’t do this I don’t want to see any of them anymore like I just hate all of them so much I wish I didn’t have to feel any of this
I’m really sorry you’re hurting this much, your feelings make sense and you’re not weak for having them. You don’t have to figure everything out right now, just breathe and take it one moment at a time 💛
it seems that you are navigating complex emotional terrain while confronting an internal dichotomy between your current feelings and the person you believe you should embody; it's commendable that you're considering addressing these issues with a therapist, as this could shed light on whether these emotions stem from deeper psychological origins or perhaps past traumas. the feeling of burden you describe, along with thoughts of wishing harm upon loved ones, may suggest underlying stressors or unmet needs that aren't being addressed in your relationships. is it possible that some aspects of your life are not aligning with your true desires and aspirations? exploring this disconnect might provide insight into the persistent dissatisfaction you're experiencing. engaging in such introspection could potentially guide you toward more fulfilling paths where your mental state aligns more harmoniously with your external interactions, though change often requires time and patience.
man, reading your story feels like seeing someone wear a mask that doesn't quite fit. the push-pull between what you feel inside and how you act outside—it's like living in two worlds at once, yeah? people don't often talk about this kind of struggle because it's complex and messy; it's hard feeling like you're not wired right when everyone else seems fine on autopilot. but maybe these thoughts aren't really "evil" or "selfish" as much as signs you're overwhelmed by it all; everything’s so heavy sometimes, right? might be worth exploring if there’s something deeper beneath this urge to escape or seek out destructive situations; even though it feels stuck now, there's room to grow; life can throw some harsh punches, but each day is a chance to learn more 'bout yourself and figure out what truly makes you tick. talking things through with your therapist on the 22nd could really help untangle this web you've found yourself in—could open doors you'd never considered before!
it seems like you're carrying around a massive load of guilt for thoughts that might not align with who you think you "should" be. have you considered whether these feelings are really about wanting others to disappear, or just about wanting relief from that constant mental struggle? maybe it's worth exploring if there's something specific triggering these intense emotions. 🤔 understanding the underlying reasons could give you better direction and relief than just labeling yourself as bad. talking more deeply with your therapist could provide some clarity on this internal conflict.
Yo, what you're dealing with sounds hella heavy, and I can totally get why it feels miserable to exist in that headspace. 🙁 It's like you're trapped in a cycle where you feel everything too deeply or not at all, yeah? Maybe instead of labeling yourself as inherently "bad," think about what's really driving these thoughts? Is it unmet expectations or maybe pressures that you haven't even realized are stressing you out?? The fact that you're still holding up this 'cheerful exterior' shows you've got some strength there—it could be the first step towards figuring things out. When you talk to your therapist, maybe try digging into what genuinely makes you tick beyond just surviving from one day to the next... It might help lift some of that emotional fog.
man, it really sounds like you’re shouldering a ton alone, and trust me, that kind of weight can skew the way we see everything around us; maybe letting yourself off the hook a little could help—it's okay not to be perfect or have everything figured out right now.
mate, it sounds like you're in this constant tug-of-war with yourself—like you’re trying to pretend things are all sunshine while inside it's a swirling storm. sometimes we put ourselves under so much pressure to be that "perfect" version of who we think we should be, yeah? but life ain't black and white; we're all just out here fumbling around trying to figure it out amidst the chaos. 🤷♂️ maybe it's not about erasing these feelings but finding a way to coexist with them without guilt. self-compassion is key—it’s okay to feel messed up now and then. i remember feeling something similar when my world felt upside down; diving headfirst into those emotions with the right support helped me see clearer.
Your experience sounds like a constant, exhausting tug-of-war between who you feel you are inside and what the world expects from you. It’s tough when your own feelings seem at odds with those of others, but the mere fact that you're questioning these things shows that there’s a part of you that yearns for growth and understanding. Perhaps this conflict is about finding balance and seeking out experiences where your true self doesn’t have to wear a mask. Maybe exploring activities or environments that allow genuine expression might alleviate some of this inner turmoil. Remember, reaching out for help isn’t just brave—it's an important step towards finding peace within yourself. 🌱