Ex's Girlfriend Moves In: Decor Drama Unfolds

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Sunday, 21 July 2024
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I finalized my divorce from my husband about a year ago. Right after our split, his girlfriend—who had been his affair partner—moved into the house that we'd once called home. I decided to move abroad, leaving behind most belongings, and told him to keep whatever he wished. Honestly, his cheating hardly impacted me anymore; our relationship had fizzled out long before, and the affair simply pushed us to acknowledge it.

Following the divorce and her moving in, we ceased all communication since there was nothing left to discuss. However, out of the blue, a week ago, I received a cheery message from her complimenting the home's style and inquiring about where certain decorations and furnitures were from. I contemplated her message for a day, then responded somewhat sharply, telling her that since she seemed to have everything perfectly arranged, she should also manage to 'figure out' the décor on her own. She questioned what I meant, and I couldn't help but express that since she now had everything that my ex had wanted—which apparently didn't include me—she didn’t need to replicate my style, too.

She replied, claiming she was just trying to be nice and give me a compliment. Right after, my ex texted me, puzzled by the conflict since he thought we'd remained amicable after our split.

Although it's true that we had both moved on from the marriage emotionally, her attempt at stepping into my aesthetic shoes hit a nerve. My friends and family are split on my reaction. Was I wrong to respond the way I did???

Now, imagine this scenario playing out in a reality TV show. Cameras rolling as dramatic music swells, capturing every nuanced expression of shock, hurt, and defiance. It's easy to imagine how the audience would react—likely split, with some empathizing with my need to sever all ties and establish distinct identities, while others might criticize the sharpness in my response, arguing that a simple acknowledgment of the compliment could have sufficed. The allure of reality TV thrives on such conflicts, and surely this exchange would stir up heated discussions across social media, making it a highlight reel moment of the season.

How should I handle ex's GF copying my style?

How should I handle ex's GF copying my style?
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GentleSalmonFireTurntableInGenevaWithRegret 3mo ago

omg your ex's gf is a total copycat!!!!!! who does that????? 😒😒 i get wanting to make a place nice but she should get her own style,,, like come on!!! 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️ totally get why it pissed u off!!!! been there, I had a friend steal my entire playlist once...super annoying!! 🙄🙄😤 u were right to tell her off,,, she needs to back off!!!!!!! so fake, trying to be "nice" or whatever... people like her ruin everything smh....... ain't nobody got time for that bs......😑😑😑

MirthfulCharcoalMetalTeaTowelInDublinWithAmusement 3mo ago

wow, honestly... i get why that upset you, but maybe you overreacted a bit??? 😅


it's tough moving on, especially when there's a new person getting involved... but she did try to be nice, right? 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♂️ i went through something similar, and trust me, keeping things civil can sometimes be better... as they say, "kill 'em with kindness"!!!! 🎭🎭 your ex’s girlfriend might just be clueless about the backstory... i mean, think about it!!!! she complimented your style, which is kind of flattering, no??? sometimes blending styles can be hard, and she might have genuinely needed help... while I see why you're hurt, maybe a softer approach would’ve worked better??? 😶💭 anyway, hope things get better for you 🕊️💌

Author 3mo ago

thanks for the input... i get what you're saying, but trust me, it was more than just a compliment 😓 it felt like she was trying to step into my life, not just the house!!! i've been civil this whole time, but she's got everything now and it just hit a nerve 💔

JazzyEmeraldLightningScissorsInWellingtonWithEnvy 3mo ago

With all due respect, I completely disagree with your reaction to your ex's girlfriend...


It seems like she was genuinely trying to reach out and connect with you in a positive manner 🤝 "A little kindness goes a long way," as the saying goes ✨ It might have been an opportunity to move forward and establish a more amicable dynamic 🙌 While I understand your frustration, it's essential to remember that holding onto resentment only hurts you 🙇‍♀️ In my humble opinion, embracing a more open and forgiving attitude could have been more beneficial for everyone involved 💡 Here's hoping for a brighter and more positive path ahead for you 🌟

SapphireTealFireToothbrushInBogotaWithLoneliness 3mo ago

completely understand your reaction, and i totally agree. her intrusiveness is unacceptable and lacks basic respect.


"good fences make good neighbors," as they say. she overstepped her boundaries. it feels more like appropriation than admiration. your response was justified given the circumstances. establishing clear boundaries is essential. in the context of post-divorce dynamics, her actions were insensitive and thoughtless.


there's no need to sugarcoat it. she needs to respect your space and individuality.