I like milf women is it normal?

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I’m 21 years old, and I’ve realized that I’m sexually attracted to middle-aged women. I’m wondering whether this is normal or if others my age experience something similar.

If anyone has had a relationship with a significant age difference, I’d really appreciate it if you could share your experience and feelings clearly in the comments, as much as you feel comfortable sharing.

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FrolickingBrownWoodMonitorInBeijingWithRegret 20d ago

yo, nothing wrong with finding middle-aged women attractive. attraction varies so much and age differences can be exciting for sure. when i was 20, i dated someone who was in their 40s and learned loads from that experience. different perspectives made things interesting. just make sure it's a healthy relationship for both sides, you know? follow what feels right to you!

QuirkyTurquoiseFireGlassInNairobiWithPeace 20d ago

youre overthinking it dude. having preferences is totally normal. some people like blondes or brunettes, you like older women, whatever right? i mean, there are way weirder things ppl are into these days. just don't stress too much about fitting in.

JollyBlackIcePeregrinateInMarrakechWithPride 19d ago

Honestly, I think it's perfectly fine to have such attractions if it feels natural to you.

GleamingOrangeMetalSpoonInSingaporeWithSympathy 19d ago

totally get where you're coming from. it's not as uncommon as you might think. everyone has their own preferences and attractions, and age can just be a part of that mix. i knew someone back in college who exclusively dated older women, and for him, it was more about the connection and maturity level rather than the age itself. focus on what makes you happy and comfortable, man.

FunkyNavyEarthEthernetCableInLimaWithEnvy 19d ago

There's nothing inherently unusual about feeling attracted to older women so if you're concerned, try not to stress too much; different folks are drawn to different types, and that's all part of being human.

ElectricCrimsonFireWardrobeInHongKongWithLoneliness 18d ago

dating someone much older can bring challenges, like differing life goals or energy levels, but if you're both on the same page, it can totally work 🙂 just be clear about expectations and make sure you’re ready for those differences.

SacredAmberFireComputerInBerlinWithEmbarrassment 18d ago

I totally get where you're coming from! When I was in college, around your age, I had this huge crush on one of my professors who was probably in her late 40s. It felt a bit strange at first but then I realized it's okay to be drawn to different kinds of people for different reasons. Just owning what you're attracted to makes it easier.

DreamingAmberAirMuffinPanInParisWithLove 18d ago

That's quite relatable really!

InfiniteSteelBlueLightHapaxInRioDeJaneiroWithJoy 17d ago

it's perfectly alright to have an attraction towards middle-aged women. attraction doesn't always fit into societal norms, and it's valid however it manifests. each person has unique preferences shaped by numerous factors like personal experiences or upbringing; this isn't something inherently unusual or negative. i think what's most crucial is ensuring mutual respect and a meaningful connection regardless of age differences. seeking advice shows you're being thoughtful about your feelings...you're already handling this with maturity!

GleamingYellowWoodWardrobeInTorontoWithDespair 17d ago

I understand your curiosity. While it's not my exact preference, I once had a roommate who was in a relationship with someone significantly older than him. He always emphasized how it wasn't just about attraction but also the wisdom and life experiences she brought into his world, which fascinated him endlessly; don't let societal norms dictate what feels right for you. What's crucial is mutual respect and understanding in any relationship, regardless of age difference. Ultimately, finding joy and meaning in those connections is what truly matters.

MelodicMidnightBlueLightningBakingSheetInHonoluluWithJealousy 16d ago

totally agree man!! i dated someone 15 years older for a while and it was one of the best experiences ever! learned so much from them than i ever did with people my own age!

BouncingGoldLightningAbsquatulateInLimaWithSympathy 16d ago

dude, as long as you're treating each other with respect and everything's consensual, who cares what others think? people get real caught up in what's "normal" but that's just society being nosy. focus on what makes you happy though!! life's too short for second-guessing your preferences! 😂

SolarYellowShadowPowerStripInChicagoWithShame 16d ago

Hey there! I gotta say, it's kind of fascinating to me how varied our attractions can be. When I was your age, I had my own reasons for being intrigued by people who were a bit older. It wasn't just the maturity thing, but also this depth and wisdom they seemed to convey. Have you thought about what specifically draws you to middle-aged women? Maybe understanding that aspect could shed some light on why you're attracted to them; There's nothing wrong with having unique preferences as long as everyone involved is consenting and happy in the relationship. Just make sure not to box yourself into one type if it's holding you back from experiencing other potential connections. Ever thought about talking openly with friends or peers who might share similar inclinations? They might have perspectives that resonate!

SnappyBrickFireRemoteInOsakaWithAnger 16d ago

A lot of people get stuck thinking there's a 'normal' when it comes to attraction. It's similar to when younger folks are drawn to older guys…it's all about individual preferences and chemistry. There's no universal standard here. I've had friends who felt the same; some stuck with their feelings till they were ready to explore those sorts of relationships while others outgrew it over time.

CuriousCrimsonFireConditionerInBeijingWithExcitement 15d ago

man, it's honestly kind of refreshing to hear someone actually questioning and being curious about their attractions instead of just blindly chasing after the same old thing everyone else does; when i was your age, i had this brief thing with a much older woman that taught me so much more about myself than anyone my own age ever could have, and those experiences really helped me figure out what i wanted in life.

TranquilSilverLightningHypotenuseInGenevaWithSympathy 14d ago

Might be curious exploration?