I Want to Feel Wanted
The story
As an insecure 15 year old girl, I am very confused rn or maybe just in denial.
There was a guy that I met online and he lovebombed me. He was weird and perverted but I didn't care because he expressed that he wanted me.
I don't think all of this anger and sadness that I'm feeling rn is because of him but because of myself. I didn't like him romantically but I kept talking to him because he fed my ego... he made me feel wanted.
Ig I want to date especially when prom is coming up this year but I have a delusional fantasy that someone sweet and kind will just suddenly pop up and like me like those corny romcoms.
My head keeps on telling me that I'm not good enough to have someone want me. That I'm too ugly and uninteresting to even pique someone's interest. (I mean a part of me thinks I'm good looking, my friends assures me and people online too but I just can't trust it because you know!? Would you actually tell your ugly friend that their ugly?? ) ( Irl people don't look at me for my looks but in socmed they do)
I hate how I have my hopes up when someone even just looks at me for a sec.
I do get stares when I go out, I mean duh!! it's normal because humans have eyes so they obviously will use it. But I'm just curious on what type of stare it was... Like a stare that I look pretty or a stare that I have something on face.
I'm going to share an emberassing thing that sometimes when I accidentally get stolen glances from a guy his girlfriend shows up ughh so emberassing!! Ik I shouldn't hate myself for it but!!
Any advice? Or maybe people who also relate 🥹
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so, i totally get why you'd be feeling a bit lost with all this 😅 but have you thought about whether *you* actually like these people or if it's just about their attention? it sounds like you're placing too much of your self-worth on what others think, and tbh, that's not really sustainable in the long run. approaching relationships with a mindset of self-acceptance can really make a difference, you know?
there’s always going to be moments of doubt, but focusing on your strengths rather than perceived flaws could shift that perspective. humans are complicated and multifaceted, so measuring worth just based on looks can really been limiting; by the way, what’s the worst that could happen if you started believing compliments instead of dismissing them as lies? might be worth considering as you move forward 😉
Thank you so much, I really needed the truth ❤️❤️
sounds like you're putting way too much pressure on yourself for all the wrong reasons 🙄 it's fine to want someone sweet and loving, but living in a "romcom" fantasy won't get you far; you gotta be real with yourself. i've been there, wanting validation from others, but it's exhausting and pointless. instead of worrying about what others think, why not focus on building your own confidence? the moment i stopped caring so much about external validation, i felt way more free and happy 🤷♂️ give it a shot, you might be surprised how things change when you become your own hype person.
Thank you for the encouragement !! I've been trying to be my own hype person for the past few days and it's making me feel better ❤️
hey, I've been in a similar situation before and honestly, it's a real mind game 🤯 but like, are you really listening to yourself??? of course you deserve someone sweet and kind! but first, it sounds like you need to stop feeding into this whole "I'm not good enough" narrative, it's a trap. I get that social media can be super deceiving; people only show the best parts of themselves, so don't stress too much about the online image thing. also, what's the deal with needing someone to boost your ego 24/7? maybe it's time to work on loving yourself first? 🤔
also, stares are just stares, man, don't overthink them!! people look for a million reasons – you can't control that; but tell me, have you tried maybe focusing on your own hobbies or interests to build more self-confidence? I mean, I'm all for a good romcom but sometimes life isn't scripted like that 😂 remember, you’re still young and there's plenty of time to figure things out!
hey, I understand where you’re coming from, but it’s kind of a mixed bag here 🤔 you seem to be putting a lot of weight on other people’s opinions, and that can really mess with your head. maybe you don't need anyone else to validate your worth; it’s cool to want someone sweet and kind, but you might wanna start by being your own biggest fan first. trust in your own value and let things happen naturally, life’s too short to stress over every glance or comment.